Throughout the ages, many soldiers and soldiers have lost their reputations and even lost their own lives because of their violent tempers in order to achieve a moment of pleasure. It can be seen from this that the serious consequences of violent rage are not only harmful to ones

Throughout the ages, many soldiers and soldiers have lost their fame and even lost their own lives because of their violent tempers and in order to achieve quick success.

It can be seen from this that the serious consequences of violent rage are not only very detrimental to oneself, but also harmful to others and oneself. Not only does it fail to solve the fundamental problem, it also pushes the matter to an even more incredible situation.

As the saying goes, anger is the steel knife that kills people.

Psychology shows that being furious can make people lose their minds, act rashly regardless of risks, and angry behavior often brings heavy costs to people.

Every victim of domestic violence has an angry person in his family. When they receive a bad or unpleasant word, they cannot control themselves for a moment, resulting in losing control of their emotions and fighting against their family members. They are When I took action, I never thought that I would have to pay a heavy price after injuring someone. First, I would lose my loved ones and the family would be broken up. Second, I would go to jail. I would destroy myself in a moment of impulse.

They often regret it afterwards, blame themselves, and cannot believe what they did at the time. But what's the use of this? Next time, next time, can you promise that it won't happen again?

Ronald. Porter-Efron

Purdue University PhD is a psychotherapist with the National Anger Management Association. He has more than 30 years of clinical experience. Ronald is a former university professor who later specialized in anger management, mental health counseling and addiction treatment. He has extensive experience in dealing with domestic violence and high-aggression issues. He is the author of Angry Al the Time, Stop the Anger Now, and co-authored The Secret Message of Shame and Anger, Best-selling books such as Alcoholism and Addiction.

He is also the author of My Bad Temper: The Psychological Truth Behind Irritability. This book was jointly recommended by criminal psychologist Li Meijin , Harvard University PhD in psychology Yue Xiaodong , and the growth platform for professional psychological counselors - Sugar Psychology. The book

mentions that the most important component of rage is excessive and intense anger.

This is a state of overload. This state can cause various bad changes, usually manifested as loss of consciousness, loss of self-awareness, loss of one's own behavioral control, personality transformation, these characteristics, from the original self Become another person.

So, how to avoid or reduce the occurrence of this kind of situation, in order to better control our own rage, the book "Tantrum" helps us answer it from several aspects.

1. Change your approach: 1. Stay away from the law and the place where the incident occurred. 2. Pause method, you need to be aware of your own state, change the environment to relax yourself, wait until the anger dissipates, and then handle the aftermath with a reasonable attitude. 3. Negotiate fairly, stay calm, listen to others, and seek positive solutions instead of just doing things your way.

2. Change your mind. Road rage is the best evidence of violent behavior. The so-called road rage refers to angry pedestrians on the road. When he loses his mind after being irritated, he often puts his own life and the lives of others behind him.

At this time we should replace ourselves, a positive point of view to replace the negative point of view.

Wally in the case of this book will change his perspective to calm his inner anger: "I am a doctor, not a security policeman. I don't need to take this responsibility." This perspective can not only control the anger at the time, but also protect the safety of oneself and others by changing one's thinking.

The author of "Tantrum" helps us list several types of violent tempers in the book, and each type of violent temper has a set of coping methods. Just like what is said in the book, "Rage is preventable." If we want to know which kind of temper we have, we can check the numbers while reading and find the corresponding medicine.

Finally, a word to our compatriots who cannot control their bad tempers, learn to control our irritable emotions, live in harmony with our bad tempers, and regain the peace and tranquility of life.