Lily is a sophomore in high school. Although there is still one year left before the college entrance examination, school and home have already entered a state of "preparation" early. Now her daily task is to study, and the school also arranges various basic tests. She feels as t

Lily is a sophomore in high school. Although there is still one year left before the college entrance examination, school and home have already entered a state of "preparation" early. Now her daily task is to study, and the school also arranges various basic tests. She feels as tired as running thousands of kilometers every time she takes a test.

Recently, Lily has been in a very low mood. She even felt unprecedentedly nervous and uncomfortable when she saw the exam notice. Lily actually failed the test that she just finished last week, which further aggravated her fear of exams.

Many adolescent girls have experienced similar symptoms. They feel flustered before exams, cannot eat well, cannot sleep well, and are confused. These symptoms not only trouble adolescent girls, but also give parents a headache. Some parents even behave better than The child is even more nervous. So, what causes this phenomenon of pre-exam anxiety?

Generally speaking, pre-exam anxiety is caused by the test-taking situation, and mainly manifests as nervousness, worry, restlessness, irritability and other psychological emotions. Girls in adolescence have a competitive mentality and like to be competitive. When they face exams, they will show nervousness just like adults face major tests.

Moderate tension will put pressure on a girl, thus stimulating her nervous system , stimulating her excitement and responding to challenges in a better state. However, if the pressure is too great and parents handle it improperly, it is easy for girls to develop pre-examination anxiety.

The college entrance examination will be in two months. In order for Xiaoxue to be admitted to the ideal university, her mother specially held a family meeting to arrange the arrangements for the few months before the college entrance examination. Mom plans to ask her grandma who is far away from home to come and help, take care of Xiaoxue's daily life, and try to let Xiaoxue devote all her energy to her studies: Mom herself also took a month off before the college entrance examination to take care of Xiaoxue: The family has been struggling in recent months. The focus of spending is tilted towards Xiaoxue, and she will do her best to provide logistical support...

Xiaoxue originally had a peaceful mind and did not think the college entrance examination was so scary. However, the whole family's response as if facing a formidable enemy made her even more nervous and anxious. She was worried that if she did not do well in the exam, she would live up to her parents' expectations and efforts.

In the above case, the mother’s behavior obviously added to the child’s pressure and aggravated the child’s anxiety. Therefore, parents must learn to give their children appropriate space and listen more to their children's ideas. The specific methods are as follows:

Method 1: Don’t set benchmarks for your children

Some parents, because of their work and social relationships, come into contact with many people with higher social status or superior family backgrounds. They like to compare each other’s children, thus He puts forward some benchmarking requirements for his children, and even uses them to ridicule and ridicule his children.

As everyone knows, such comparisons and stimulation will increase children's nervousness, and even cause children to take irrational actions because they are afraid of bearing the consequences of failing in the exam.

Method 2: Care should be moderate

In order to prevent their children from being distracted when reviewing, some parents deliberately turn off the TV and computers at home, and do not even dare to speak loudly. In fact, these seemingly attempts to create a good learning environment for children actually create great pressure on children and aggravate their anxiety. Therefore, parents should be moderate when caring about their children, and it is best to express them in a way that is acceptable to their children.

Method 3: Communicate more with your children

Psychologists have suggested that parents should have more emotional communication with their children, so that the child can feel that her parents will always support her, which can greatly enhance the child's confidence. It is worth noting that parents should not blindly encourage their children, otherwise it will be counterproductive and create pressure on their children.

Every weekend, parents can take their children out for more activities, which can not only bring the parent-child relationship closer, but also help the children relax physically and mentally.

(Author: Geng Yufeng)