A few days ago, my family and I made an appointment to have dinner at a newly opened restaurant. When we arrived at the hotel, everyone felt that the hotel was very good. Whether it was the landscape layout, the private room setting, or the service situation, it gave people a very comfortable feeling.
I was a little stunned until I opened the menu. The price on it was amazing. After eating it for 6 adults, they basically had to spend more than 2,000 yuan.
When my mother and I selected the group purchase package and other dishes, the waiter told me that group purchase coupons cannot be consumed in the private room, and today's hall has been booked, which is a bit difficult for a while.
Aunt said, "Forget it, otherwise let's retreat."
Mom still refused: "I finally came here once, just click it, I'll check the menu." After
After
Hydrama looked back and forth the menu several times and selected several dishes with moderate price and portion. Finally, we spent a total of more than 1,000 yuan.
In fact, during the whole process, we did not avoid the service staff, but said these words generously. Neither my family nor my family felt embarrassed.
I was surprised to find that I had gone from being embarrassed to talking about poverty before, to now I am calmly facing consumption that does not match my own economy.
Such transformation comes from one's own accumulation bit by bit, seeing through the essence of the surrounding environment, getting out of the limitations of self-cognition, and calmly accepting the current situation of poverty.
01
See through the essence of the surrounding environment
People around you will not know whether you are really poor or rich. The sense of all this actually comes from yourself.
Because of working in Beijing for a long time, most of the colleagues around have already owned their own houses in the local area, but the housing prices in big cities are a height that they will never reach in their entire lives.
Just two years after working, I became very anxious when I think of my future life.
I often complain to my parents: "The housing prices are always 100,000 yuan per square meter. What should I do in the future? I can't even afford a house!" My parents were helpless when they heard this. After all, they couldn't afford to buy a house for me in Beijing.
But as I grow older, I see that some people can be happy after earning 3,000 a month, while others can also be sad. realized that although the surrounding environment will affect our perception of money, whether we truly feel poverty and whether we can accept poverty still depends on ourselves.
As Zhang Defen said in " Meet the Unknown Self ": "Dear, there is no one else outside, only you."
The same is true for the attitude towards the surrounding environment. There is no real poverty outside, only the poverty you feel.
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Get out of the limitations of self-cognition
Poverty is not scary, what is scary is you who are entangled in poverty.
Many times, when we feel that we are poor, we just think, "I have to work hard to make money. After I make a lot of money, I will do whatever I want."
Results Many times, when we have as much money as we once imagined, we are still limited to this idea. This sentence is like a spell, trapping us in the trap of the rat race until we are exhausted.
On the other hand, do you really need that much money?
Let’s do some calculations. If you don’t live in a first-tier city, an ordinary person, even if you don’t have real estate, will almost no longer have to work if you deposit it to about 2 million before the age of 50. You can buy a stable bond fund with your deposit, and the interest rate is around 4%, you can use the fund to to live a good life.
If we learned to manage finance before this, we could achieve an annualized return of 7 to 8%, then we could do more things.
Munger said: "If I knew where I would die, then I would never go there."
Similarly, if I knew, I would fall into poverty because of my entanglement, then I would never be entangled in poverty.
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Fastly accept the current situation of poverty
Accepting the poor self is also a thing to be proud of.
When I was a child, I sneered at the behavior of many adults who slapped the swollen face and pretended to be fat. Until now, I still feel this way. Every time I go back to my hometown during the Chinese New Year, there are always some people working outside driving luxury cars and bringing famous watches to their families to show off their achievements outside with relatives and friends.
Among them, there are many people who have made some careers, but more are those who are pretty. Most of the time, after a year or two, I can hear adults talking about the real situation of this person outside. I was surprised when I was a child, but when I grew up, I felt like I was expected.
My mother told me since she was a child: "We can do the big things as we can."
When the family is not in a bad state, I will not feel embarrassed if I drink a bottle of yogurt for a week. When my family is getting better, I am also very happy to drink a few bottles of yogurt a day.
My childhood experience tells me that among poverty, the most terrible thing is the behavior of covering up poverty, and the most important thing is the mentality of facing poverty calmly.
In life, no one can guarantee that he will be rich for a lifetime. Many times, the most important thing is not the current situation of poverty, but the self when facing poverty.
is trapped in it and is anxious;
or put down your burden and move forward bravely.
All of this depends on yourself.
Author | Xulan
Edit | Jiang Wumo
