After children go to college, they have already left their parents' vision, which is equivalent to being separated from their children more often. Especially rural children, tied to their side, are destined to have little prospects. Going to the city to study, work and live should be the dream of many parents and children. This means that the child has grown up and is out of your control, and the original feeling is gone.
A parent posted that she blocked her 21-year-old daughter’s WeChat message, saying that she was too tired, and she didn’t answer the phone call and did not reply to the message. She only remembered herself when she asked for money. The mother was completely disappointed with her daughter and said that she was exhausted and earned money to support her in school, but ended up ignoring her.
Actually, this is not a situation she encountered alone. Many parents have similar experiences. This mother can find a bunch of ferrymen in the comment area. But you think you are the most tired person. In fact, it is not the case. Nowadays, parents are tired, and there are not many children in each family. They are all their own hearts. It is normal to leave yourself when you go to college and leave yourself as a parent. It is normal to want to chat with your children. The key is what your child thinks!
Generally, before the age of 18, children grew up with their parents, and parents actually control their children's study and life time. Many children feel like they are bound. After going to college, they are like letting themselves go. Some children still complain in their hearts that their parents have too tightly controlled themselves. After going to college, they really don’t have much contact with their parents after asking for money. Many parents feel very strongly that their efforts are not respected.
Times have changed, and the environment for children’s growth has also changed. It is recommended that parents not use their own efforts. The reward is what they deserve. It really doesn’t work now. This will definitely not make good relationships with their children and will only intensify the conflict. In fact, when you call, you are more nagging. Since your child is unwilling to talk, as parents, you must adapt to such an environment. Your child is such a person. You must not have too many requirements for your child, which sometimes backfires.
final conclusion
There is a reason to raise a son in poverty and raise a daughter in wealth. Girls must give enough money to study outside, otherwise they may not be able to resist the temptation of the outside world and go to the wrong path. I personally do not support this mother's approach. I think I have made a lot of money and I am too lazy to answer her phone in the end. In fact, this is the norm for college students now. You should be willing to let go of your 21-year-old daughter.
No matter how good your idea is, it will be in vain if she doesn’t accept it. As a parent, she can only help her when it’s a big deal. Let her go, how do you do it normally? As parents in the new era, you must be calm and be more open-minded when encountering unpleasant things. Blocking your daughter is a very emotional and unbalanced behavior. In fact, you still want her to call you.
