html At the age of 135, as if he was cursed, his life suddenly moved towards an unconceivable direction.
is like triggering some side task inadvertently, and then it keeps spinning in this misinformed copy, making it difficult to fight monsters, have few experience values, and slow upgrades, but it is trapped in this copy and can't get out.
urgently wants to return to the main task of life.
One day, I suddenly saw the title of this book: "Always pass, always come".
The title of the book is so empathetic. It seems to be advising me in a leisurely manner: Dilemma will always pass, and days when both eyebrows and mood are relaxed will always come.
So, I was hit by it.
Your life should also have a "seven-year review" and "seven-year plan"
The author of this book Wang Xiao, the online name Xiaoshajie, has served as the anchor of CCTV's " Octopus News ", the strategic communication department of the American Encore Consulting Company, the editor-in-chief of "Fashion COSMO", the founder of the "As soon as possible" of the life brand, etc.
"Always pass, always comes" mainly tells the author's seven years from the summer of 2015 to the summer of 2022, including her entrepreneurial journey, marriage life, parenting experience, etc.
The author said in the book:
"Seven years are also like the identity The Ship of Theseus -ever we experience a change, we passively or actively replace one of our wooden boards. As more and more boards are changed, people's ideas, dreams and even cells change step by step, so people transform to the next stage."
I like the author's self-review and self-planning for seven years, which is a practice that almost all accomplished people will use.
For example, Zeng Guofan also reviewed the matter by writing a diary, recorded what he did that day, said, reflected on what he did wrong, said incorrectly, reflected deeply, and listed improvement plans. The seven years recorded in the book
are also a collection of objective things happening around the author and what he thinks and feels. They are the process records of her continuous review, urging , and iterating herself.
From her efforts and growth along the way, you can feel the full power of women.
does not have a completely correct choice. You need to make it correct.
The most painful thing for people is actually not that there is no choice, but that multiple choices are placed in front of you, making you lose sight of one thing and not be able to move on without hesitation in any direction. Then I will fantasize in the unsatisfactory situation in the future: If I had not made this choice at the beginning, then life would definitely not be like this.
The reason why choices make people frighten is that once you make a choice, you will not know what you have lost, because another future has collapsed from that moment on.
So, Xiaosha Sister said:
"There is no completely correct choice. If you choose, you must turn it into the right choice."
Regarding joining "Fashion COSMO", people around you have always believed that it is not a wise choice for Xiaosha Sister.
Because at that time, traditional paper media had passed its golden period of development, like an old man with crumbling teeth.
The author described her joining in the book as follows:
"I walked in and sat for a while while drinking. After tasting two dishes, I found that the banquet was actually coming to an end."
For a workplace or senior manager, one mistake may bring about a big setback in the entire career planning .
However, Xiaoshajie grew rapidly in the position of fashion magazine editor-in-chief and accumulated strong social resources, and these social resources later became an important force in promoting the development of the brand "as early as possible".
So you see, life is like walking. Occasionally taking wrong or taking a little turn will not bring absolute losses. On the contrary, there is no way to go in vain in life, and every step may pave the way for future causes and conditions.
We no longer have to worry about "what would happen if we made such a choice" because if we were determined to do it, each one might be the right choice.
The essence of scientific parenting - "We are a fire"
How does the female devil in the movie parent? Let the assistant handle the author's unpublished new book manuscript?
That is definitely not a methodology that ordinary people can refer to.
Fortunately, we have a "down-to-earth" fashion female devil like Sister Xiaosha.
It turns out that the "top" class will also have anxiety in parenting and will give birth to children with big heads, fluffy hair, short and not straight legs.
The parenting advice given by Sister Xiaosha is to accept, discover talents, and cultivate according to the positive feedback mechanism.
What impressed me most was my daughter asking about piano practice.
Xiaosha sister believes that her daughter may have shortcomings in music, so she hopes to make up for this shortcoming for her children by practicing piano as soon as possible.
But practice has proved that children are not born with that material. In this regard, Sister Xiaosha and Mr. Xiaosha did not have the brains of " Chicken Baby ", but frankly admitted and accepted the fact that children really did not have musical talent. In addition, they will hold a special family meeting to confirm their decision to give up the piano practice together. At the same time, they will comfort their frustrated daughter: "My mom and dad, I'm sorry, I really didn't give you this ability."
Then, move the piano out of the house.
In addition, there is also a "fire principle" in Sister Xiaosha's parenting concept that inspired me very much.
The key to applying the "fire principle" to parenting is not only about doing tasks with the child, but also when the results are not good, and not jump to the opposite side to deny and suppress her.
During the parenting process, you should often confirm with your children: "We are in the same team. Don't be afraid, look at how warm and safe it is here."
This sense of identity and belonging is very important to children. Because of this starting point of security, children can know that they can live warm and safely after leaving this team in the future.
written at the end
Thanks to the author for showing us the life without filter mode.
For a mother who is trapped in 35+ workplace and parenting anxiety, this book is like chatting with a best friend who wins life. She tells you how she has walked step by step from scratch, what choices she has made, what pitfalls she has fallen, and how to get up.
She tells you that your current situation is only a small part of your life. What should be gone will always pass, and what should be coming will always come.
