Introduction
Many people want to have a small family with both children after getting married. However, due to the influence of practical factors, many young couples are unable to make a good marriage. However, when choosing between sons and daughters, many people are willing to choose the latter. The reason is that the cost of raising boys and girls is completely different.
A father said after his wife gave birth that he would no longer have to struggle in this life. The reason was that his wife gave birth to a daughter. It turns out that in everyone's subconscious mind, as long as a daughter is born, it will not matter. Too much needs to be given in material terms.
But is this idea really correct? In reality, there are indeed many families with only one baby girl. The concept is vividly reflected.
1. “I only have one daughter and I don’t want to fight anymore.” These words of my father are worth pondering!
1. Daughter's marriage and love also need costs.
Many people may say that after giving birth to a daughter, there is no need to prepare betrothal gifts or buy a new house. Therefore, there is no need to put in effort in work, but this is really the case. ? In many areas, even if the child is a daughter, when the child grows up, it is necessary to prepare relevant dowry, because only in this way can the daughter have more confidence when she gets married.
Especially these only children, they are the darlings of their parents. They have been held in the palm of their parents' hands since they were young. Stand straight in front of you.
There was a girl who was born in , a small third-tier county. As the only daughter in 's family, had been doted on by her parents since she was a child. When it came time to talk about marriage, this girl was very confident because her parents had already supported her. A house is ready.
Therefore, even if this girl does not have a family, she can still gain a foothold in a big city. There is no need to be like other girls, who can only have a small family of their own through marriage.
2. The elderly need to be supported when they get old.
Even if the couple gives birth to a daughter, they will face the problem of providing for the elderly in the future. , although it is very likely that they will not need to help young people take care of their children and they will be able to live more comfortably in their later years. However, in modern society, people's ideas are changing very quickly. Even if they give birth to a daughter, these elderly people will not be less able to help take care of the baby in the future, even if they do not have the need for old age care at all.
So from a certain perspective, a family that gives birth to a daughter needs to struggle more, because this way the couple can live with more confidence when they grow old. Nowadays, there are a lot of old people. Because they are only children, they require their children to be married as brides-in-law. Therefore, whether they are giving birth to a son or a daughter, they still need to work hard. Because to help young people, these old people must be financially strong.
2. The biggest disadvantage of Chinese-style parents is that they give their children unlimited
Chinese-style parenting. This aspect makes people in many countries feel unbelievable, because they do not ask for anything in return from their children and just treat them all. All the resources saved will be given to the next generation. The dedication of these old people is indeed commendable. However, the children they raise must have problems in some aspects. For example, they don't know how to be grateful, and they don't even understand the simple principles of crows feeding back food or lambs kneeling down to breastfeed.
That’s why there are now many adults who have graduated from college. They can live happily at home without going out to work. The pain lies in these Chinese-style parents. Even if they retire, they still have to continue. Give of yourself.
People raised under the traditional Chinese culture have a fixed concept, that is, growing up desperately and making themselves better, only in order to alleviate people who have become middle-aged. There are seniors and minor pressures . When they retire, these old people spontaneously take on the important task of raising children on their shoulders.
Even if they only give birth to a daughter, these old people will still think about giving more . The more they struggle when they are young, the more happily their daughter's marriage will be in the future. I hope that parents of the new generation will no longer have this wrong concept. They must understand that parents can only let go of their children in time so that they can grow up.
For example: The more parents interfere with their children's marriages , the more they will make their marriages difficult. The reason is that society is progressing and the times are also progressing. The two generations have completely different concepts and the same problem. , if you deal with it in the same way, the result may not be good.
The author has something to say: I hope that after giving birth to a new life, no matter whether it is a boy or a girl, you will not give up and continue to fight. The reason is that even if you become a parent, you must learn to live for yourself , and is not Blindly contribute your own . Therefore, I hope that parents who only have daughters can understand that daughters are also their own children. If they accumulate more material resources, their children will have a higher starting point in the future.
