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Introduction:
Nowadays, the competition pressure in all walks of life is very high, but the nanny industry is very lively. Nowadays, the living conditions of many families have improved, and more and more people know how to enjoy life, and they will spend money to hire a nanny. Nannies serve themselves. Of course, the boom of the nanny industry has also provided a job for many women with no education or work experience.
Many rural women are qualified to work in the nanny industry through short-term on-the-job training. In the past, the nanny industry was a job that was not respected by others. Not only did they humble themselves and act like cows, but they even attracted all kinds of difficulties from their employers. However, The job is different now, there is no preparedness between employer and nanny being equal to each other, there is something to be respected in any industry.
Nowadays, there is a two-way choice between nannies and employers. Employers can choose nannies, and nannies can also choose employers. A 46-year-old female nanny told us her story. She said that she can be a live-in nanny and serve her employer around the clock. , but the employer must also meet the three conditions she put forward before she is willing to work as a nanny in someone else's home. As for what three requirements the nanny put forward, we will continue to read below.
46-year-old Ms. Huang’s self-report:
My surname is Huang, I am 46 years old, and my name is Huang Wenjuan. I live in Xinyang, Henan Province. Life is very hard. No matter what grade we are in, we will experience various hardships. From childhood to adulthood , they have to go through various stages of life from youth to middle age.
After getting married and giving birth to a child, you become a parent. As a child, the burden on your shoulders is even heavier. Children need tuition and living expenses, and the elderly need us young people to take care of them. At this time, if you don’t have a particularly large financial income, life will be more stressful. big.
We are all ordinary people, born in ordinary family environments. When I became helpless in my middle age and my children went to college, I became even more stressed. During that time, I was just working as a small worker in the factory, and my monthly salary was very low. In the future, after my children graduate from college, they will have to face a series of problems such as finding a job, getting married, and having children. In order to prepare more money for my children, I chose to work as a nanny in other people's homes.
In fact, I had heard of the nanny industry when I was a child, but at that time many people thought that nannies were groveling and undignified, especially people in the village who liked to speak ill of people behind their backs. If anyone from the village went to a big city to work The whole nanny's family will be disgraced.
I never thought that I would enter the nanny industry. It was also by chance that I met an elderly man at work. He said that the nanny industry is very popular now. Not only is the salary good, but there are even additional benefits, which is much better than in the nanny industry. Working in a factory is much better. The speaker is unintentional and the listener is interested. I took note of these words. When I had some free time, I secretly asked where nannies were being hired nearby.
Although I am willing to go to other people's homes to serve others, I also have dignity. I think any job is worthy of respect. Although I serve others as a nanny, there is no distinction between high and low in work. I give myself Your labor should be rewarded. I believe that many nannies come from poor family conditions and have no choice but to go out and serve others.
Society is progressing, and the nanny industry is also changing with each passing day. Nowadays, many people are qualified and they hire nannies to make their own lives better. I rarely encounter employers who make things difficult for nannies. In the past few years when I have been working, I didn't encounter any weird employer, so it went smoothly.
I thought I would continue smoothly like this. After working in the nanny industry for three years, I heard that people now have nanny-style companionship. The nanny needs to be with the employer 24 hours a day. The job is similar to the usual work, but the salary is a little higher. times.
I have encountered such an employer before. In the past, I only had to go to their home to work during the day, and then go home after working from morning to night. However, this employer is a single older man. He thinks that I work hard and even I was still very young, and he intentionally or unintentionally asked me to accompany him around the clock. He gave me a double salary increase, but I felt that there were differences between men and women, and men and women living in the same room would be misunderstood. I felt that even if I I'm short of money and can't do such a shameful thing.
The employer he worked for at that time was about 70 years old. His children were all in big cities and had good living conditions. The children usually gave him some pension money. The old man was very bored at home alone, so he hired a nanny. Because I am more lively and quick to work, the old man asked me to stay as a round-the-clock nanny. He believed that it would be safer for him to have someone by his side as he got older, so he mentioned to me many times that I should stay. Come down.
In fact, this old man also has selfish motives. His wife passed away a long time ago. Now he has lived alone for many years and is very lonely emotionally. He asked me to stay with him around the clock because he wanted me to accompany him as his wife. , if I agree to him, will he make more excessive demands?
The old man asked me for help again and again. He was very scared to be alone at home at night. If I made any request, he would agree to it. Seeing the old man say this, I thought about it and said what I really thought. As long as the old man After agreeing to my three requests, I agreed to sign a live-in nanny contract with him, and I would serve him around the clock from now on.
At this time, I stated my three requirements.
First, I am just your nanny. Private nanny does not include taking care of your family during normal times and during holidays. If your children and grandchildren want to come back to visit you, I can refuse to take care of them. If you need extra labor from me, then These things cost extra.
Second, I am just your nanny. Even if I am with you 24 hours a day, you cannot treat me like your wife. The relationship between us is just between the employer and the nanny. We have no obligation to play the role of a wife. Respect each other and don't do things that cross boundaries.
Third, I will try my best to do my job well. Of course, you must also settle my salary on time. You cannot find various reasons to deduct my salary. You must know how to respect people. I also get paid through my own labor. , you can't let me do things beyond the scope of work, you can't use insulting language to me, everyone has a bad mood when you are in a bad mood, and you can't find your bad temper in me.
Although I put forward these three conditions, I also hope that we can live in harmony with each other in the future, and it is also for future protection. Therefore, if the old man agrees to my request, we can sign a contract. I will actively try my best to serve the old man. If the old man does not If you agree to my request, there is nothing I can do.
I thought that after listening to this, the uncle actually got angry and said, I am a nanny myself and I made such an excessive request. He thought that the three requests I made were all too excessive. He thought that since he paid the salary, I should listen to him. Do what he asks.
even yelled at me. He said that he was willing to spend the money because he saw that I was still young and pretty. If it were someone else, he would not be willing to spend the money. I don’t know what to do, even if I am asked to provide 24-hour service. , it also gave me face.
In the eyes of the old man, he spent a lot of money to buy my entire body, but he didn’t know that people respect each other. Apart from working hours, I am also free and have my own choices. Have your own dignity and freedom.
After I put forward my three demands, the old man immediately changed his expression and revealed his true colors. I also saw that he had no good intentions at all, so I resigned and was not willing to serve him anymore.
Of course, I also know that many people may do things beyond the moral bottom line for money, but I am not that type of person. I think people must have a certain degree of self-knowledge and dignity in life, and will not sell themselves for money, let alone To agree to those employers' excessive demands.
Many people may not understand my approach. They think that I am just a nanny and should listen to my employer’s arrangements and should not have my own ideas. But everyone has their own style of doing things. I don’t think I will be able to do that in my life. To change myself for others, I will not let myself suffer, nor will I be a woman who others say has no bottom line.
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