She is a tenured professor of University of Munich .
is also a sensational "unfilial girl" in China.
Cao Qian was born in 1979 and her hometown is Caojiadi Village, Great Wall Street, Lushunkou District, Dalian.
In rural areas at that time, it was very rare that there was only one child in the family.
People around me persuade Cao Qian's father Cao Zhaogang to "get another one."
But Cao Zhaogang and his wife put all their hard work and love
on their daughter Cao Qian.
I hope that my children will no longer live the bitter days of "face to the loess and back to the sky".
Cao Qian was frail and sick when she was a child, Cao Zhaogang frugal in order to buy nutrients for her children.
The old couple used dry food with vegetarian soup all year round.
Whenever his daughter wants to eat meat, Cao Zhaogang puts down his hoe and goes to buy it.
My daughter was sick and unwell, Cao Zhaogang hurried to ask a doctor to come home
Cao Zhaogang said that she does not need her to wash and cook, and she does not expect her to wash dishes and mopping the floor.
"You just need to study hard."
In a difficult family, I raised a child who was "not touched by the spring water with ten fingers".
Fortunately, Xiao Cao Qian is also very hard at school.
carefully preview, review, and complete homework every day.
She is learning when others are learning, she is still learning when others are playing.
ranks among the best in the class, and never let parents worry about academics.
And Cao Qian is well-behaved and sensible, caring for her parents.
often pours tea at night for parents who have worked hard all day,
tells them the stories they read in the book.
Study hard, well-behaved and sensible.
has always been a leader in the school since he was young and early.
Neighbors in the neighbourhood are all complimenting her, believing that this child must be promising when he grows up.
The old couple saw it in their eyes, and were happy in their hearts.
This child seems to be born to repay his favor.
And they are more and more doting and more accommodating to Cao Qian.
so that he didn't notice the change in Cao Qian's mentality.
There is less and less communication between Cao Qian and her family when she is in high school.
When studying at home, when her parents make noise, she may get angry and even slam the door.
Cao Zhaogang felt that he did not do a good job, and he understood the pressure of his children to study too much.
The old couple have also become cautious in their lives at home, for fear of mistakes.
To create a good learning environment for children.
The fuse of the real split is after the college entrance examination.
Cao Qian was overjoyed when she saw her college entrance examination results.
was a few tenths above the score line of a book.
her dream of a famous university is finally coming true.
Cao Qian filled in three southern universities without discussing with her parents.
Her teacher told Cao Zhaogang the news.
Cao Zhaogang jumped into thunder when he knew it,
After more than ten years of raising her, her daughter did not even have the most basic information to herself when she filled out her volunteers.
And my daughter hasn't even been out far away, how can I go to the south to study alone?
" Liaoning Normal University is very good, and the school is close to home."
The two sides are in trouble,
Cao Qian said that she wanted to leave her hometown and go to the south to see and see.
She felt that she was fed up with her parents' control, fed up with this restrained life.
is fed up with this poor family even more.
In the end, Cao Qian filled in two schools in the south and Liaoning Normal University as her third choice.
Sometimes life is like a joke.
The first two universities filled by Cao Qian regretfully failed the ranking.
happened to be admitted by Liaoning Normal University.
parents are happy,
she regrets, is angry, and blames all her dissatisfaction on the compulsion of her parents.
Even if she knows that she can't be admitted just because she doesn't have enough scores.
Cao Qian is still enrolled,
but after that she never communicated too much with her parents.
College life is rich and colorful,
has excellent classmates, interesting activities, rich second-generation friends and a night market for drunken fans.
bad, only poor parents.
Every time I call home, I just have a few words in a hurry. In the end, I ask for money.
Cao Zhaogang has no choice but to find ways to borrow money to send to his daughter.
Small, junior, senior, and I have already emptied all the savings of and Cao Zhaogang’s couple.The couple are already in debt. The money
owes is afraid that they will not be able to pay it back in this life.
Their inner hope is that their daughter will be able to settle these debts after they have paid off.
They heard that after graduating from university, a good job can cost hundreds of thousands a year,
pays tens of thousands of yuan, which should not add too much pressure to their daughter.
So if Cao Qian wants it, Cao Zhaogang Find ways to give.
Until Cao Qian said that she wanted to study abroad.
Cao Qian felt that she still failed to get rid of the family in university,
failed to improve herself
the only way is the opportunity to go abroad in school,
she told this idea Cao Zhaogang,
Cao Zhaogang asked carefully how much it would cost to go out
"at least 70,000"
70,000, which is an unbearable astronomical number for Cao Zhaogang.
In the evening, Cao Zhaogang stayed up all night,
When asked her daughter to report that Liaoning Normal University stayed with her, she was already full of complaints. If
now refuses her request to go abroad, I am afraid she will deny it directly. The parents.
What to do then, it can only be supported.
I don't know how Cao Zhaogang borrowed these tens of thousands of yuan.
And daughter Cao Qian got the money, and she was not grateful as she imagined.
She didn't know the weight of the money, turned and left without saying a word,
And this walk is a farewell.
In 2000, Cao Qian flew to Germany with 70,000 yuan.
is a foreign country and cannot be contacted at home.
can only wait for her to call home,
cross-border calls, eight yuan a minute,
high communication fees make Cao Qian only feel the pressure of the economy
I can't feel the thoughts of my parents, nor can I feel the pain.
Just a few words, at the end, don't forget to ask for money.
This is just like in college.
Once Cao Qian said to her father that she had no money without saying a few words and said that the cost of living abroad is high.
Cao Zhaogang was furious again, "Just asking for money, you are killing us."
finished speaking, and hung up the phone angrily.
After hanging up the phone, Cao Zhaogang regretted it again.
But Cao Qian made a secret decision in her heart and would never say anything to them.
Cao Qian feels that all the pain and pressure are on her back, and her parents cannot help her.
It seems to have forgotten, after going abroad, I have successively asked for more than 30,000 yuan from my family.
Since then, the news of Cao Qian has almost been lost at home.
By the year when he should have graduated and returned to China,
Cao Zhaogang often sat in a daze at the door of his house,
sat all afternoon,
, no matter how much he looked forward to, he hoped that his daughter would not be returned.
They would wonder if their daughter is too busy, if there is something wrong with her daughter, if she is suffering, but they can't imagine that Cao Qian can be cruel to stay away from home for several years.
2005, Cao Zhaogang really couldn’t sit still.
tried to find out about his daughter, and finally contacted the consulate in Hamburg through the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
staff found Cao Qian’s residence, Cao Qian But refused to meet.
Time passed bit by bit, Cao Qian never contacted her home,
Cao Zhaogang's old couple's thoughts for their daughter were constantly crushed, and they lived alone like this.
For many years, Cao Zhaogang has always tried every means to contact Cao Qian,
is like looking for a lost child,
But lost children and their parents are only two-way thinking about them, p
pain.In 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife both suffered from cancer.
The last wish, is to know the whereabouts of her daughter ,
want to know whether she is dead or alive, and want to know what she has done.
Their matter attracted media attention, and caused an uproar after being exposed.
The media and countless overseas Chinese were moved by the story of the two old men.
They spared no effort to find the whereabouts of Cao Qian in various countries.
Berlin, Münster , Munich, Hamburg...
Finally, they found Cao Qian.
She has changed her name,
is a tenured professor at the University of Munich,
is a respected scholar of the prestigious university.
But she is no longer the daughter of her parents,
Even if she is found, Cao Qian still refuses all communication.
As the condition deteriorated,
Cao Qian did not wait for her daughter Liu Hongyu after all Going home,
regrettably left.
Cao Zhaogang hugged her and cried,
scolded Cao Qian so fiercely and scolded herself for incompetence.
wife left, Cao Qian did not come back;
new tomb changed to old tomb, Cao Qian still did not come back.
Until Cao Zhaogang also left in painful sobbing and sickness.
Cao Qian still hasn't come back...
Wu Jun said, "The meaning of education is to educate a qualified person first. "
If a person has no basic responsibilities and kindness , The higher the achievements, the greater the tragedy caused.
If you raise wealthy children, you will end up alone. What is the result of such family education?
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