Introduction: Birth, old age, sickness and death are things that everyone must experience, but if we do not take death seriously and do not respect life, then our civilization will completely collapse. However, many folk customs nowadays have long changed. It is time to cure it. What are they?
The background of changing customs in rural areas is caused by various customs and chaos. The originally peaceful villages have lost their human touch by some customs, and some even have their original appearance for the sake of the so-called customs. There is no doubt that the existence of any custom should be beneficial to people.
But if it is messed up, it will be a bit inappropriate and destroy the original intention. At present, there are four most serious customs and chaos in rural areas, which lead to the lack of traditional culture, weak human feelings, and the rebellion of family affection. It also causes extravagance and waste to be under pressure from residents, so severe punishment is required.
First, bury with a thin body
Not filial to death during his lifetime, and making a mess after death! What it means is that many elderly people in rural areas did not enjoy the kindness of their descendants during their lifetime, but after their death they became tools for their descendants to make money and show their filial sons and virtuous grandchildren, for fear that others would not know how filial they were.
However, these external reputations are not as affordable as serving the elderly for a few days. There are so many people in rural areas who are "fake filial" at present. No matter how good they say or how beautiful they think, they can actually take care of the elderly for a few days. Many people just stuff some money and buy some things for the elderly during the Chinese New Year and the holidays. Most people are willing to keep the elderly by their side.
Many people use the name of difficult life to travel around their lives, for their sons and grandsons, and it is difficult to take care of their elderly people. However, they do not know that in the end your son and grandson will do this to you.
It is really hard to understand the difficulty of rural elderly people in retirement, and it is difficult to get comfort in physical and mental aspects. Some elderly people will be discovered after a few days or even longer, and these are all children and daughters. After the old man passed away, he was buried with great honor for his reputation. He was famous for not having a good life before his death, and he must let the old man leave after his death.
However, the old people often say that people say that if you die, you can see more when I am alive, it is better than anything else.
Second, having funerals
funerals should be a heart-wrenching thing for a relative to his death. However, nowadays, rural people are increasingly not paying attention to these things. They play and sing in all kinds of music and singing, and even dance happily. It’s really her dancing and you are “filial”. Even “ funeral ” can’t be so happy, right? Everyone has relatives and parents. Although everyone has this day, no matter how old the parents are, they are our closest bloodline. When these people grow old, we can’t do anything about it, but the mourning we should have is definitely not drinking and singing to celebrate.
Third, sky-high bride price
As more men and fewer women continue to deteriorate, the marriage of young men in rural areas has really become a problem. If they don’t get married after the age of 25 in rural areas, they are actually older young people, and their competitiveness in the future marriage market will deteriorate.
The bride price is often a necessary condition for blind dates and even marriages. The amount of bride price increases in a step-by-step manner every year. 200,000 is considered a small amount, and 300,000 is not necessarily able to stop it, especially those who do not bring back a penny of bride price. The economic pressure the man's family can imagine. Therefore, the central government issued documents to manage sky-high bride prices, and various localities have also introduced corresponding policies.
Fourth, extravagance and waste
In rural weddings and weddings, it is really necessary to talk about face-to-face, favors, and do a big fuss. However, behind the scenery is extravagance and waste. Not only do things mainly cost a lot of money, but those who receive gifts should not be stingy. Is it really necessary to have a meal that will definitely be wasted greatly in order to have a meal? Finally, it is the consumption of social resources.
Therefore, we will strengthen the reform of rural customs and promote the transformation of customs. Recently, many regions have begun to rectify these phenomena.
Guangxi Leye County stipulates that advocates that in principle, the bride gifts of townships (towns) and villages shall not exceed 60,000 yuan. If the marriage party is jointly organized, the cumulative number of banquets shall not exceed 30 tables and 300 people, the wedding convoy shall not exceed 6 vehicles, and the gift shall not exceed 200 yuan. Wuning County, Jiujiang City implements the "1345" project to promote the change of customs in rural areas. makes clear requirements on the number of dishes used for banquets, weddings, funerals and other red and white matters, wedding vehicles, bands, gifts, etc.
and four major rectifications have been made to rectify high-priced brides and promote "zero brides". Remediate the burial of a generous burial and poor care, advocate filial piety during life, fulfill the obligation of support, and pay attention to spiritual comfort. We will rectify the big and big etiquette, insist on holding new weddings, simple funerals, and no small weddings. Remediate card gambling. Severely crack down on illegal activities such as mobile casinos, gambling gatherings, and online gambling.
It can be foreseen that the whole society will be comprehensive in the governance of these customs and chaos in the countryside, and rectifying the customs of civilization and promoting new trends, new ideas and new customs is the original intention and determination to change customs. We should support this!
