" Menghualu " is currently on the air recently. Among them, Sun Sanniang, played by Liu Yan, can be said to be eye-catching. The scene of throwing the scumbag into the water in the play makes people feel so satisfying. Many people cheered, thinking that Liu Yan was also breathing a sigh of relief for the hurt six years ago.
1. The lingering nightmare
I don’t know how many people still remember the farce that appeared at the wedding of bag Bell six years ago. It should have been a happy and beautiful wedding, but it has become a nightmare that Liu Yan may never have been able to escape in his life.
At the wedding of Bao Beier and his wife, several groomsmen cheered and raised Liu Yan in a strapless gauze skirt and threw her into the water, completely ignoring Liu Yan's loud cry for help. In the end, it was Jia Ling who saw the injustice and saved Liu Yan from the hands of these groomsmen.
Afterward, the original criticism of marriage gradually deviated from the direction and became a criticism of "Liu Yan hype". Subsequently, Wang Sicong's accusation of Liu Yan's aggravated the suspicion of "Liu Yan hype". For a moment, the Internet was full of abuse of Liu Yan, and a net storm began. Because of this net storm, Liu Yan, who had just become famous in the entertainment industry, was treated with no resources and collectively isolated by the entertainment industry.
Afterward, as the victim, not only did not receive the sincere apology she deserved, but was constantly being abused by the public, and always apologized for her behavior at the wedding, blaming all her mistakes. What's more excessive is that Bao Wenqian still felt wronged on the show, thinking that Liu Yan ruined her wedding.
But, what's wrong with Liu Yan? Is it wrong to resist others teasing yourself like a toy?
2. The ubiquitous slut humiliates
Why is this happening? A large part of this is because Liu Yan became popular with the "sexy" route.
I don’t know why, in the eyes of many people, sexy = sexy = debauchery = can accept other people’s unreasonable requests.
So in their logic, it is really inappropriate that Liu Yan, a actress who debuted as "sexy", dared to refuse a "little joke" of just being thrown into the swimming pool in a gauze skirt. It is really inappropriate to be thrown into the pool. So she should resist and allow the video to leak. If it is not hype, what is it?
After carefully reading these confusing speeches, only one word appeared in my mind - "slut humiliation".
In Wikipedia , "slut humiliation" is defined in this way. Slut shame is used to describe behaviors that make a person, especially a woman, feel ashamed of a certain sexual act or sexual desire of himself or is inferior. Such sexual behavior or sexual desire is considered to be contrary to traditional gender expectations, or is considered unnatural, canonal and immoral.
In social evolution, the threshold for slut humiliation has been further lowered. When your behavior does not meet people's expectations, and your gender is female or has feminine characteristics, you can be devalued, mocked, and insulted. After all, "slut humiliation" can be established on almost any reason.
Therefore, it is not only a female star like Liu Yan, who is famous for being "sexy", that is, all women live in the shadow of "slut humiliation",
Think about it carefully, slut humiliation can be said to be throughout ancient and modern times, China and abroad, and almost every woman has encountered "slut humiliation".
In history, there are always people who blame women for the demise of the country, and put women in the name of "beauty and beauty". Women are regarded as men's accessories. When men succeed and become famous, they are regarded as icing on the cake. When men are cowardly and incompetent, they are regarded as "criminal" that leads to men's failure.
In modern society, this "slut humiliation" tends to become more and more intense.
The sex scandal of former US President Bill Clinton and White House intern Monica Lewinsky once caused a sensation across the United States, triggering a series of investigations and impeachment cases against Clinton, but did not affect his presidency, nor did he affect his marriage or even his reputation. However, the scandal heroine Lewinsky has become the target of people's scolding, ridicule and humiliation. The tide of online violence has made her nowhere to escape, and her life and career have experienced a devastating blow.
So when you hear someone randomly commenting on a woman's outfit, some speculate on the "superior method" of a female colleague who has just been promoted, some "feeling hard" advises the girl to "respect"; some people put "label" on a woman's figure, etc., you realize that the "slut humiliation" in this world has become everywhere with the "mainstream moral concept" of this world.
Today, with the development of the Internet, when "slut humiliation" ally with "victimism theory", you will find that this world's scrutiny of women is more serious.
Some time ago, in the Tangshan beating case, those girls could be said to be almost perfect victims, but they were still criticized by some "Li Zhongke" "Girls still come out for midnight snacks so late, which is dangerous." "Why just hit them and not others?"
How outrageous and ridiculous, today in the 21st century, women are still suffering from this kind of ideological oppression. Our education is still stuck in what women should not do what women should do and what alcohol should be insulted. No one focuses on what moral concepts should be possessed by being born with human beings. This is not only the tragedy of education, but also the tragedy of the entire society.
3. Escape from slut humiliation
So must we be forced to accept such "slut humiliation"? Of course not. What we have to do is to let such "sluts humiliate" all go hell!
When the weak cannot resist the powerful forces of mainstream society, escape may be a last resort.
When this society has been controlled by the patriarchal center culture, mutual support and help between women is an effective way to escape the spiritual cage of "slut humiliation".
This is also another future brought by "girls help girls" to women.
Sun Sanniang, played by Liu Yan in "Dream Hualu", also experienced "slut humiliation".
In the play, when Sanniang was working diligently to give her family, his husband raised a concubine outside, and his son was immersed in Xiaoniang's sweet words. Sanniang, disheartened, committed suicide by jumping into the river. Fortunately, she was rescued by her sisters and ushered in a new life.
But sometimes other people's help can only solve some of the problems for you, and it is yourself who can really take you out of the difficulties. So when you still find these scrutiny eyes hovering around, I hope you can see the dregs under "morality", smash the evil moral shackles in one go, let yourself bravely break out of the vicious circle and let go of those spiritual constraints.
In the play, when Sanniang was about to usher in a beautiful marriage, his son accused her of "water-like poplar flowers, not obeying , three obediences and four virtues ."
But this time, she did not bow to such feudal dregs, but raised her head high and walked firmly towards her dream step by step. Finally, she successfully broke out of the vicious circle of "slut humiliation", successfully put on a phoenix crown and robe, and became the most beautiful bride.
So, I hope you also have the courage to raise your head, throw down those gazes, and move towards your future step by step.
Every flower should bloom freely. They should not be locked in a cage and put on heavy shackles, so please freely absorb nutrients, release your beauty to the fullest, and illuminate the world with countless flowers.
