Not long ago, a girl from Somalia who grew up in Swedish grew up and was forced to circumcise when she returned to Africa to find her ancestors.
During the entire circumcision process, there was no disinfection measures and no anesthesia treatment.
How could such an incredible thing happen today in 2022?
However, after looking at the following data, it is not difficult to find that the experience of the Somali girl is by no means accidental.
In the world, there is currently known that has the custom of "circumcision" in more than 30 countries. According to incomplete statistics, more than 130 million women have been circumcised in . Even now, nearly 6,000 people voluntarily perform this surgery on every day.
The reason is very simple. In their perception, only girls who have received circumcision are good women and can find a good home. Is this really the case with
?
The movie " Desert Flower " adapted from real events may bring us different answers.
This drama film released in 2009 is adapted from the autobiographical novel of the same name by former international supermodel Wallis Diri . It attracted widespread attention worldwide at the beginning of its release. To this day, its rating on Douban is still as high as 8.8.
Wales Diri and her family live in the great desert of Somalia.
Her parents have 12 children in total.
The barren land, the scarce material life, and the large population make such a big family wander on the line of food and clothing all year round. Therefore, finding a good family for your daughters becomes a shortcut to change the status quo of the family.
According to local customs, Only girls who have performed circumcision can find good people .
But in fact, circumcision is a gate of hell that most girls cannot overcome.
Circumcision, also known as female genital castration surgery. This surgery requires the removal of female sexual organs to achieve the purpose of eliminating sexual pleasure and ensuring female chastity.
In fact, complete circumcision does not stop at castration. After the sexual organs are removed, they are usually sutured, leaving only small holes the size of a match head for excretion.
Due to the limitations of medical conditions and family economic conditions, it is impossible for most families to send girls to regular hospitals for surgery. Often, a stone slab or a rusty knife can complete a girl's most important life ritual.
No anesthesia and no disinfection...
Only 20% of girls can survive the complications and sequelae of the surgery.
Wales is such a lucky person.
-year-old all her perception of this matter is only one word - pain.
Under the scorching sun, the expressionless old woman, rusty blades, warm scarlet blood... Wallis didn't know what else she could do except crying at the top of her lungs.
But crying can't change anything. After the tragic operation, her body as a girl became no longer intact.
Mother also needs to take care of other brothers and sisters, and she was left alone in the pile of rocks.
days, for 3 days, Wallis wandered between high fevers of awakeness, coma, and wound infection. There was no food or water, but she just waited until her mother appeared.
So she returned home again.
But Wallis' sisters were not so lucky, and infection and heavy bleeding took away their young lives.
However, Everyone, including Wallis herself, takes this for granted .
Recalling this scene after many years, her perception was that she got more rice the night before she was circumcised.
As the body grows, the sutured wounds will continue to tear, infect, and heal... This unspeakable pain has been tormenting Wallis.
Under these tortures and the words and deeds of her parents, she attributed all the suffering to being a woman.
Only when shed sheep with her brother can Wallis feel a little happiness.
days just slipped away. Until 12-year-old Wallis had her period.
Because the suture was too tight, it was quite difficult to urinate, and she added more pain out of thin air. This time she often tortured her so hard that she could not sleep all night.
When she told her mother all this, the mother said, "That's a good thing... You are a woman now!"
Soon, Wallis understood the meaning of this sentence.
For the betrothal gift of 5 camels, the father wanted to marry her to a 60-year-old man as his fourth wife.
From the age of 3, Wallis has been a sealed "gift", just waiting for the good husband who married her to "open it up".
, 12-year-old can't tell what's good about the old man with white hair and beard in front of her.
Wallis is unwilling to marry, but as a daughter, she has no ability to change the decision of the head of the family.
When she was unable to ask for help, she decided to escape from marriage.
How easy is it to escape the fate of patriarchy imposed on her?
But the stubborn Wallis did it.
The mother pretending to be sleeping chooses to be silent. She once resolutely married Wallis's father despite family opposition, she understood that this was the only opportunity to change her daughter's fate.
So, with the blanket sent by my brother and the blessings buried deep in my heart, Wallis rushed into the vast desert without hesitation.
The father who would catch up with him at any time, the wild beast wandering in the desert, his bloody feet, the truck driver who took the opportunity to invade her...
2-year-old Wallis faced all this alone, just because she knew that since chose freedom, she could only move forward bravely without hesitation.
Just like that, she walked out of the desert and came to her grandmother's house she had never met.
Looking at the skinny and scarred girl, my grandmother felt extremely distressed.
The elderly who can experience their entire lives also know that if they want to realize their dream of freedom, Wallis can only leave his hometown and go to the outside world.
Finally, with the guidance of her grandmother, she went to join her aunt.
Aunt is the wife of the Somali ambassador to the UK. So, Wallis naturally came to London and became a maid in his aunt's house.
Cleaning, washing and cooking... The maid's life is trivial and busy, so busy that she has not had the opportunity to appreciate such a prosperous city in 6 years since she came to London.
However, Wallis is very content.
Don’t worry about your livelihood, you can also control your own life. This is actually her dream.
However, the simpler the seems to be, the more difficult it is to achieve.
Civil war broke out in Somalia, and the ambassador to the UK was recalled. There were only two ways to put Wallis in front of him: first, follow his aunt back home; second, stay alone in London.
It may be very difficult to make a living in a foreign country alone, but it is always better than to deliver your future to others.
8-year-old Wallis ran away again.
is different from the last time she escaped from marriage. This time, she has no other partner to join.
Find food from the trash can, collect coins left by others in the public telephone hall, sleep on the streets... The stubborn Wallace lives a wanderer's life in London.
During this period, she unexpectedly met Marilyn, a girl who came to London to find her dreams.
Marilyn's life is also a mess.
Her dream is to become a famous ballet actor through learning. However, not only did she not be able to save her job, but every interview at a ballet school ended in failure.
Perhaps it was because of the same confusion in Wallis's eyes. Marilyn, who was initially quite repulsive, took in the homeless Wallis.
Well, she also thoughtfully prepared a glass of water for Marilyn.
is such warmth that makes the friendship between two girls sprout.
Marilyn gave Wallis her down jacket and introduced her to the job of a fast food restaurant waiter.
Walis is diligent and hardworking at work, and always has a shy smile on her face. And all this has attracted the attention of the famous photographer Donaldson.
Based on years of photography experience, Donaldson concluded that this shy black girl can definitely become a new fashion leader. So he took the initiative to strike up a conversation and left his business card.
On the other hand, two girls from different countries gradually had conflicts in their daily relationships.
In the education that Wallace received since childhood, only girls who have received circumcision are pure and good girls, and are worthy of having a good marriage and family life.
Although the sequelae of this surgery have been following her like a shadow, she never had any doubts about this conclusion.
However, Marilyn is different. She never suppresses her emotions, nor does she mind intimate contact with the opposite sex. She even told Wallis: "Decent women can have fun!"
After looking at each other's bodies, Wallis finally knew that there are girls in the world of . They have not been circumcised, but they still live happily. The chastity that she and her family valued greatly is nothing more than a distorted "sexual" habit in a patriarchal society.
Although he despises this bad habit, Wallis still cannot escape the torture of pain.
After a period of menstruation, she was sent to the hospital for unbearable abdominal pain.
The doctor who examined Wallis sympathized with her experience and expressed her kindness as much as possible. But the Somali male nurse who was called to be a translator completely ignored Wallis's pain. He humiliated the innocent girl with the most vicious words.
The shameless and angry Wallis just wanted to escape. But when she recalled the little girl who ran barefoot in the desert to escape marriage, she finally mustered up the courage to walk into the operating room.
After the body recovered, Wallis found Donaldson with Marilyn's encouragement.
Facts have proved that Donaldson's vision is indeed very accurate.
almost didn't take long, and Wallis became the new favorite in the fashion industry.
Of course, from a shepherd girl who knows nothing to a hot fashion star, Wallis's efforts should not be underestimated.
photography will take away the nonsense, which makes her extremely afraid of cameras and flashes.She gritted her teeth and persevered, bravely putting herself completely under the flashing lights.
Can't walk in high heels. She pulled Marilyn to practice cat steps in the corridor of her rental apartment every night.
The agent disliked her for being a bad figure. She tried to lose weight and shape her body.
…
Wales knows well that only by becoming strong can one firmly grasp the destiny in one's own hands.
Gradually, all resources tend toward Wallis, and the agent has even begun planning her global tour.
But at this moment, she suffered a Waterloo in her life again.
Since the visa has expired, Wallis, who has no identity certificate, was taken away by the police and will be deported to the country.
just like this, and Wallis naturally refused to give up. In order to obtain legal identification, she married Pierre, the apartment doorman, against her will.
According to British law, this marriage must last for more than one year before Wallis can obtain permanent residence .
Two people with no emotional foundation must not only live together, but also act intimate in front of others. This feeling is really bad.
There is nothing we can do. The staff of the Immigration Bureau will always carry out surprise operations. Once they find that they are fake marriages, Wallis will not be able to obtain the identity certificate.
What's more, Pier is not a gentleman. He always couldn't help but touch his hands and feet, eager to get more from Wallis.
These harassments made Wallis annoyed, but he had to bear it.
In addition, in order to repay the high bail fee paid by the company, she had to complete the shooting task arranged by her agent.
Wales, who has been repulsive to her body that has been circumcised since she was a child, has no way to fully demonstrate the confidence that her partner needs.
Fortunately, Donaldson's patience and understanding relieved her timidity and anxiety well. Wallis's increasingly confident and calm performance has also been recognized and praised by photographers.
Just like that, Wallis finally walked out of the shadow of circumcision with her strong will.
After one year expired, she also obtained the right of permanent residence as she wished.
dropped the wedding ring and Wallis rushed to the airport.
From then on, she shuttled between the show stages of major brands, and her calm and confident smile conquered all the audience.
In this way, Wallis became a world-renowned international supermodel.
For a moment, various interview programs came one after another.
When asked about "the day that changed life", Wallis told the whole process of her circumcision with tears.
In order to prevent such tragedy from continuing, she bravely stood in the venue of United Nations and launched an anti-circumcision movement.
In 1997, Wallis Dillie was appointed as the special envoy by the United Nations.
The movie ends here. In real life, Wallis Dillie's anti-circumcision struggle has just begun.
This "black pearl" from Somalia gave up his career at its peak. She travels to various African countries and uses her personal experience to appeal to all sectors of society.
With the joint efforts of Wallis and anti-circumcisionists, more than 28 countries have passed legislation to prohibit female circumcision.
In 2010, Wallis Dillie was appointed as the peace ambassador by the African Union.
Conclusion:
"What happens to the least people has an impact on everyone." This is true. A code and a ban cannot abolish the "sexual" habit that has lasted for thousands of years.
Even today, with such advanced technology, there are still people who demand the abolition of bills prohibiting circumcision under the banner of human rights.
In March 2021, the Kenyan Supreme Court rejected such a petition while saying: The so-called "voluntary" acceptance of circumcision by adult women is likely to be pressured by the general environment, or lack of understanding of potential risks. "Based on the dignity of women, it is reasonable to limit this right in an open and democratic society."
Happily, after Wallis, more and more African women have stood up. They clearly realized that 's knife to curb female circumcision is actually in their own hands.
Liao Yimei in her " Living as clumsy as me" " wrote: "I firmly believe that people should have the strength to pull themselves out of the mud by grabbing their hair."
Uncle Chai believes that if a person can have such a determined personality, he will definitely be able to walk out of his own wonderful life.
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[Editor | Yu Fei Nian]
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