Many women who have watched " Bridge Dream " will regret the choice of the heroine Fronciska, thinking that she missed true love and suffered for half her life, and will feel that she was too wronged for herself. She should live for herself for decades of life.
The heroine in the movie gave up love for family responsibility. In fact, it is precisely because she gave up that she has beautiful memories. If they are really together, the ending will not be happy. Abandoning her husband and son will be condemned by inner morality. It is easy to fall in love and difficult to get along with each other. It is probably too difficult to be happy in a selfish relationship.
Below are 3 women who divorced regardless of their own efforts for the so-called true love. But after they achieved their wish, are they happy? Their experience will tell us the truth.
1. Li Mei was 32 years old. The relationship between the couple became weaker. She cheated on her male colleague. After the divorce, she married her colleague and realized that the other party was a scumbag.
Li Mei (pseudonym) and her husband were in love for 3 years and got married for 4 years. They had a good relationship, but later her husband was transferred to another place and the two could meet each other for a month or two. With the fact that they had been together for too long, Li Mei went from missing her husband at first to complaining later.
Colleague Xiao Cai is 2 years younger than Li Mei and has been pursuing Li Mei. At first, Li Mei ignored him, but later he became moved. After the two got along, Xiao Cai asked Li Mei to marry him after divorce.
After Li Mei and Xiao Cai were together, the two often dated. Xiao Cai was like a piece of gummy sticking to her every day. Li Mei thought that she would not meet her husband a few times a year, and life now is what women need, so she filed for divorce with her husband.
At first, my husband was unwilling to do so. When I learned that Li Mei had betrayed her, my husband divorced her.
Li Mei got married to Xiao Cai after divorce. However, just three months after she got married, she found out that Xiao Cai had an affair and was promiscuous. Li Mei quarreled with Xiao Cai. Xiao Cai told her directly that if she could, she would live, and if she could, she would divorce, and she would be indifferent.
Li Mei only realized how bad Xiao Cai was, but she divorced just after getting married. Li Mei was afraid of others' jokes.
Separation between two places is the biggest factor that is not conducive to the relationship between husband and wife. I advise men and women in marriage to try not to separate as much as possible after marriage. Making money is for the family, but if the family is gone, making money will lose its meaning.
Li Mei and Xiao Cai are both immoral.
Li Mei can't stand loneliness, can't resist temptation, and betrays marriage without a bottom line. It's really not a good woman's approach.
. Xiao Cai, who she cheated on, knew that a woman was married and he still seduced her. She was not a good man himself. How could she get happiness after marrying such a man?
2.Tian Li was 35 years old and disliked her husband for being incompetent and had a good relationship with her boss. After divorce, she became a full-time housewife and was disliked.
Tian Li (pseudonym) is the company's sales manager and her husband is a truck driver in a supermarket.
Tian Li's salary is more than twice that of her husband. She earns a lot. Tian Li has a bad temper at home. She dislikes her husband's incompetence and needs to support her family by herself. Her husband has a good temper and goes home to cook and do housework after get off work. He listens whatever Tian Li says.
Tian Li doesn't like her husband. She falls in love with her boss. The manager who is 10 years older than her is very charming in Tian Li's eyes.
But the manager also liked Tian Li for a long time, so the two of them went on a business trip together once, so it was easy to get together.
The manager and his wife had a bad relationship. After being with Tian Li, both of them felt like they met a soulmate, and the manager divorced his wife first.
Tian Li also wants to divorce her husband. Her husband advised her to consider her son and not do stupid things. Tian Li hesitated after hearing this, but thought that the rest of her life was long and it was so aggrieved to be with a man she didn't love, so she resolutely divorced.
After Tian Li got married to the manager, the manager asked her to resign at home. One reason was that the company had regulations, and the manager also told Tian Li that he didn't want her to be so tired and he could raise her. Moreover, the manager's son, Mindful Middle School, needs someone to take care of him.
Tian Li feels that she has found the right person. She wants to support her family with her ex-husband. This time, someone finally raised her, so Tian Li becomes a full-time housewife.
But in less than half a year, the sweetness of the two of them was gone. Tian Li felt that this full-time wife was really tiring and she could not finish housework at home every day. The child of her husband and ex-wife was in her rebellious period in her 10s. She hated Tian Li, who destroyed her parents' marriage, and always fought against Tian Li. Tian Li tried her best but failed.
Manager also had a big opinion of Tian Li. The two quarreled and the manager scolded her: I was tired and exhausted outside, and I was raising you and raising this family, but why are you so incompetent? You can’t do the housework well and you can’t take care of your children. You are really far behind ** (ex-wife’s name).
Tian Li felt wronged. She remembered the scene when she went to work and her ex-husband served her food after she got home. It turned out that life was just a happy one at that time. She regretted it when she wanted to throw her son to her ex-husband, but she went to please her son every day.
However, marriage is not a joke, she can only persevere and compromise.
The most dangerous profession in the world is a full-time housewife, and the most difficult one is to be a stepmother, Tian Li takes it, so it is really difficult for them to live a good life. It not only requires a lot of wisdom, but also requires both of them to be kind.
But Tian Li and the manager are obviously not kind, because if they are kind and have a moral bottom line, they will not cheat within marriage. Therefore, two people who are unvirtuous and selfish want to live a good second marriage, they must make great changes, respect and tolerate each other, but will they change? It's very difficult.
3. Wang Wei was 38 years old and had a dull relationship with her husband. He met a male netizen online and tricked her into getting divorced, but he did not marry her.
38-year-old Wang Wei (pseudonym) lives in a town. He has been married for 14 years and his child is 13 years old. Wang Wei has been taking care of his children at home after marriage. Her husband works and earns money. After getting married for a long time, both of them are not good at managing their marriage, lacks communication, and lives a dull life.
Wang Wei, who felt bored in life, went online and met a divorced 50-year-old netizen. The two had a great time talking online, and they really felt like they met too late.
Wang Wei secretly met a male netizen. Although the male netizen was over 10 years older than Wang Wei, he was very concerned about Wang Wei. The two met twice and became related.
Since then, they often date secretly, and their relationship has heated up rapidly. A male netizen told Wang Wei that she would divorce and marry him, and that she would make a promise to buy a house in the city under Wang Wei's name.
Wang Weiyi felt that she had passion for life with a male netizen and could get a house, so she divorced her husband. She left the house with nothing, didn’t ask for property or children.
After the divorce, Wang Wei rented a house with a male netizen and lived a married life, but the male netizen did not mention marriage and bought a house.
has been together for a long time. Wang Wei learned that the male netizen divorced his ex-wife because he had an affair. The male netizen's character can be seen, and he also left the house with nothing. Now he is asked to buy a house and has no money at all.
But Wang Wei has fallen in love with a male netizen. It makes her feel insecure if she only lives together but does not get married. She urges male netizens to get married, even if she doesn't buy a house, but the other party has been dragging her around and later proposed to break up with Wang Wei. Wang Wei was really angry and found a way to keep him.
Two unethical people lose their fun and interest when affair becomes open and righteous. One is a veteran and cunning person, and the other is for desire and plotting against other people's real estate. What kind of true feelings will they have? When all the passion fades, life will definitely be in a mess.
Conclusion:
Chinese studies master Zeng Shiqiang Professor has this explanation for an affair after marriage:
There is an affair, and as far as men are concerned, they are mostly greedy. Another type is that it cannot withstand temptation.
Most women think that they have married the wrong person, so they have an affair.
Once you have this idea, you will have an affair sooner or later.
Men with an affair will not disappear because they are with their lover after divorce. On the contrary, they will be more greedy, less able to withstand temptation, and have no bottom line. As the saying goes, it is difficult for one time and it is easy for three times to get used to it.
After the woman remarries and knows the true face of her lover, she will of course feel that she has married the wrong person, so a woman's cheating will happen.
So when two people who have affair understand each other's hearts, they must lack trust.
A happy marriage must be based on trust. Without trust, how can there be a sense of security? There is no need for a marriage without security.
It is too difficult to be happy in order to pursue a woman who truly loves to abandon her husband and children.
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