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Recently, a news has attracted people's attention, which is the incident of a middle school student in Yugou Town, Lingbi County, where a middle school student was bullied and killed by his classmates. With people's high attention, the incident has been constantly exposed to more information. After reading this information, people felt uncomfortable and didn't know how to express their anger at this time.
Many people brush 6+1 in the comment area not equals seven, but equals one. The connotation of this is not described too much here. Some people also commented that this is a bloody incident caused by a roll of toilet paper.
Someone commented that this 14-year-old child has a comparable boxing power to the boxing champion. Tyson can beat Tyson to Tyson as Teddy when he comes to him...
In addition to venting his anger, I hope this matter can trigger some in-depth thinking and let all of us reflect.
As I thought about this, my thoughts also returned to my student days.
Campus bullying incidents have always happened. When I recalled that I was in school, wasn’t this kind of incident a common occurrence? At that time, I went to school every day with fear.
There are various gangs in the school. They often fight each other, charge protection fees from classmates, bully those weak classmates, give those people some dirty nicknames, and spoof them from time to time.
is now adult, and I often think about my student days. I am not as passionate as in the movies. I just keep lying around and looking for gaps in school to survive. This is also the case with most students at that time.
After school, you wait!
At that time, most students were the most afraid of the gangsters. suddenly said to you one day, "After school, you wait!". The influence of these six words is even more powerful than hitting a person.
toilet! This is a paradise for gangsters. Smoking and beating people. This is their paradise. Most students, when gangsters go in, they dare not go in. People will go in after they come out.
If there is a classmate who is not convinced by these gangsters, they will never choose to fight one-on-one, they will beat a classmate together. They are never afraid of anything. Every time they fight, they will at most ask the teacher to scold or beat them, which will arouse their revenge.
Those students who were bullied will be subject to repeated revenge by these people, ranging from stealing your homework books, placing nails on the table and chairs, etc., and as big as hitting you while you are using the toilet, and then hitting you after school.
Never underestimate the way students take revenge on a person. They will come up with many strange ideas and make people feel the fear of revenge.
parents who bullied classmates
In fact, everyone's eyes were on the bullied classmates, believing that campus bullying is just a matter between the children. This is to ignore a major factor, which is to bully the parents of the classmates.
I vaguely remember that when I was in school, a classmate was bullied by a bastard classmate and sued the female teacher. The female teacher saw that the bastard classmate was not easy to mess with and dared not care.
The bullied classmate had no choice but to ask for help from the physical education teacher. The physical education teacher looked very righteous and called the slut and physically punished the slut.
students all thought that this gangster student was happy that he had learned the lesson he deserved, but what happened next was a big blow to people's glasses.
After this mummy classmate's brother and father found out, the mummy classmate came to seek revenge on the physical education teacher with sticks in his hands, and as a result, the physical education teacher was beaten to run all over the playground.
Later, this gangster was rampant in school, and no one dared to provoke him anymore. Even the gangster in the upper grade did not dare to provoke this gangster in the middle grade.
Seeing this, someone can’t help but ask, will the school expel such parents and students? This question was also something we were curious about at the time.
Before, this bastard was sleeping on his tummy in the teacher's class at first. After this incident, he stopped attending classes and went directly to the playground to play basketball. The bastards could ignore the school rules.
Later, this gangster went to school for about a year and felt bored, so he dropped out of school by himself. When the classmates learned that he dropped out of school, everyone was happy for a while.
Students with a sense of justice
Is there no righteous classmates in school, brave classmates? Yes, but the ending is not what everyone wants to see.
I remember when I first entered the school, there was a transfer student from another place. He was upright and generous and got along very well with his classmates. One day, during class, the female head teacher saw a new classmate who did not abide by discipline in class and made trouble later.
The teacher of the class teacher couldn't bear it anymore, so he began to scold the slut classmate. The slut classmate pushed and fought with the teacher. Seeing that the teacher was at a loss, he was beaten backwards by the slut classmate. Dozens of students in the class in were watching, and no one dared to step forward to rescue the teacher.
At this time, this tall transfer student from another school went to pull away the teacher and started fighting with this gangster classmate in order to save the teacher.
After this incident, I thought that the class style in our class would be peaceful from now on, and everyone would go to school with peace of mind, but this mud student transferred the conflicted revenge to this transfer student.
Sometimes when the gangster provokes him and starts beating him. Sometimes after school, after several times, the transfer student has arrived for less than a month, and he has transferred again.
All the students in the class will see this slut when they see him again in the future. They will think of ways to avoid him. I beat the teacher and the classmate, but I still didn't get expelled from the school. Later, I heard some rumors from the classmates that the classmate's father was very rich, and his mother divorced his father, and the bastard lived with his grandmother.
After this incident, the students will not report any conflicts to the teacher, because everyone knows that if they sue, they will be punished without permission, and instead they will suffer more and stronger revenge.
Some students from good families are often forced to the bottom of the wall by this gangster and ask for money. At that time, this bastard found me for some reason and asked me to borrow money.
At that time, I really had no money, and my heart was beating very hard, just for fear that he would beat me, but he seemed to see that I was a real poor man, so I just asked and let me go, and never asked me again.
Until today, I still remember my emotional state at that time. I didn’t listen to the class all afternoon, and my mind was full of being occupied by the situation at that time.
What are his sequelae when he was bullied in depth?
What are the sequelae of being bullied and will it affect his life? The answer is yes. There was a classmate in class
. He was very weak, had a little ugly appearance, and was not very good at studying, so he became the target of bullying by many classmates.
At that time, whether it was a bastard or a good student, they would isolated this classmate and bully him together. At that time, in order to protect myself, I could only remain neutral.
Don't get close to him or bully him. This is the greatest kindness I have towards him as a weak person. If anyone dares to say something for that classmate, he will become the public enemy of the whole class.
This isolation and bullying does not only come from male classmates, but also many female classmates also joined in. This classmate who was bullied would sue the teacher at first, but after many times, the teacher gave up and ignored him and always complained.
teacher would not know at all that when she was away, the bullying that this classmate was never imagined. So, when we all graduated, we returned to society.
This bullied classmate also went to society. Because of his three-year humiliation history in school, his values were deformed. When he met him chatting many times, he was no longer the bullied and simple boy back then.
In order to stop being bullied, he joined the ranks of social gangsters. His hair dyed and his clothes changed. He would not find a serious job. Not long after, he heard that he was arrested and sentenced to 14 years.
Later, I heard that he went to a place to commit crimes with others. Everyone said that he was an accomplice, but because his family had no money, he became the main culprit. As for the truth of the matter, no one knew, and people just heard from him.
More than ten years later, he was released from prison. When he saw his classmates all got married and had children, he was depressed and drunk and died of dreams every day. One night, he drank too much, rode a motorcycle, had an accident, and left the world forever.
Can increase the student's force value avoid being bullied?
has talked so much, and using these three memories, what do you want to convey to everyone? It is a bullying incident, which cannot be solved by whichever is higher or lower force value.
saw many people in the comment area, saying that this matter made him understand. If he wanted his children to learn martial arts, if others beat him, he would beat him back.
also enrolls in various martial arts training classes, Taekwondo , etc. In fact, parents' mood is understandable, thinking that as long as their children learn these martial arts, they can protect themselves.
There is nothing wrong with parents who can think like this. What is wrong is that they only take the "point" of one thing into consideration and do not take into account the key points of "surface".
In the face of such an incident, how to educate your children has become a very important issue to be discussed at the moment.
To solve a problem, I believe the answer cannot be the same, and don’t expect a solution to cure all diseases. This idea is naive and immature.
How should parents educate their children? Because they are also the father of two children, this question is in front of themselves.
First of all, simply increasing the child’s force value will not solve any problem.
Since ancient times, there has been a common saying that heroes cannot defeat four hands. If it is a one-on-one single challenge, high martial arts value will have a chance of winning, and even a one-on-many single challenge will have a chance of winning. However, these are all competitions in an open manner, but they cannot bear the opponent's secret moves.
Because, you are not facing a person, but a small group, a small group full of revenge.
So, as a parent, the first thing you think about is not to let your children increase their strength and become a person who fights against the gangsters. Instead, let children learn to protect themselves.
People who are too straight are prone to stronger revenge, and those who are too straight are prone to break. This is the idea of self-protection left by our ancestors.
When facing something, you must first think of saving your life, rather than fighting with such a bastard. If you teach your children to fight with the bastard, you will feel good, but he may suffer more accidents and may even be in danger of life.
The gangsters in this age are very fierce. They do not know the importance of the attack and do not care about the consequences. They are different from those gangsters who have experienced the ups and downs of society. They only know that they are making profits and achieving their goals.
But the gangsters in the school are not like this. They attack these people who don’t accept themselves purely to establish their prestige and vent their anger, or to take revenge as they call them. They imagine that they are like bad people in the movies, and they must be ruthless in their work, so that others will be afraid of them and obey them.
And the children in the school stage do not have the wisdom of adult social affairs, do not know how to get along, and endure humiliation and endure these days.
If Han Xin could not bear the humiliation under his crotch back then and he could defeat the other party with his own force, then his head would have moved long ago. At that time, he had no power or power, and his life was like a mustard of grass.
Therefore, parents should teach their children to learn to integrate into the small groups of students, protect themselves, survive, and safely survive this high-risk era of students.
This way, many people may criticize the personality developed in this way. How can we become a responsible and responsible person when we grow up?
In fact, people's concepts and consciousness are constantly changing, there is no need to worry about these things. Just like those gangsters in their school days, they will grow into mature people after graduation, and will not be as ignorant and ignorant as they were in their school days.
Even if these gangsters become people who harm society, they still have certain bottom lines and rules. When they were students, they did things based entirely on their mood and their hearts.
Of course, it is not feasible to just teach your children to be arduous. It is important to let children know when to give in and when to be tough. These are all necessary for children to understand by themselves. Parents will never know their children’s status in the hearts of their classmates.
These are also things that parents cannot teach even if they want to teach. They can only let their children learn how to face difficulties and find their own way of dealing with things.
A classmate’s interpersonal relationships, etc., all have a significant impact on the child. It is impossible for parents to provide specific guidance, and sometimes it will have a counterproductive effect, allowing children to become isolated objects of many students.
Just blindly thinking about increasing the strength value can everything be fine, which is too naive.
If you want to completely solve the bullying incident on campus, it is not as simple as parents educating their children. This is human nature.
Many aspects need to be started to help the school manage these gangsters so that they cannot form gangs and bully other students.
Immature Suggestions
Here is an immature Suggestions, adding academic management is independent of the principal's governance. The academic management teacher is specifically responsible for the bullying incidents of students on campus. Each class is equipped with a teacher. These teachers can moderately punish children. Parents must unconditionally support the treatment of academic management to establish prestige for the academic management teacher.
Parents cannot manage their children well, and parents cannot bear to beat them. Learning from the teacher to teach them a lesson. There must be two teachers, one male and the other female, who change every year and take turns on duty. Those fearless mummy classmates must be afraid and restrain their behavior.
This is to use force values to deter these bully classmates, but this is still not possible.
allows students to vote regardless of their names through the software, and choose their own class. They think that they make themselves uncomfortable, threaten themselves, beat and scold their classmates. Those with high votes will pay attention to it, and those with votes will communicate alone privately. For students who are voted out, the teacher must do a good job of confidentiality and not let the students know who they are.
also needs some psychology teachers who understand psychology to provide correct guidance to these children who have mistakenly entered into wrong values. Tracking and treating these native families, children with problems, they affect not only individuals, but children throughout the school.
Sometimes, a child’s incorrect values often come from parents, factors of the original family, etc., which is quite complicated. Therefore, teachers at the level of psychologists need to guide and communicate students' psychology.
In this situation of using both soft and hard, let the children concentrate on going to school and no longer be affected by any bullying classmates. If you encounter those parents who are unreasonable and are chaotic, the school can choose to expel their children and submit them to the corresponding teenage management unit.
I hope there will be no bullying incident in the world. Behind each incident, there are helpless tears flowing, and negative effects echo on campus.
Many people are pursuing the view of right and wrong in adults, but some people have asked, in the eyes of children, what do they think about this matter or the result of a certain matter?
Are the people they think of as guilty have been punished as they deserve?
If the answer is no, then will the children and the gangsters of the same period in the campus still take this as a warning?
For campus bullying incidents, do you have any good ways to reduce the occurrence of such incidents? Please tell me your method and let’s communicate together.
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