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- 01
watched Rainie Yang A brief interview, she was asked when she would become a mother.
Rainie Yang bluntly said that she had never imagined having children. Although she has played a mother, it is difficult to interact with children in private.
Yes, after a year of marriage, she still doesn’t want to have children.
In fact, having children is a personal choice, and no one else has the right to interfere whether you want to have children or not.
But under this interview article, I saw two comments like this.
The subtext is obvious: "A woman who doesn't have children won't last long in marriage" and "if she doesn't have children, she shouldn't get married."
Yes, it is another reproductive kidnapping of Chinese women.
In the eyes of these people, a woman’s greatest responsibility in life is to give birth to children. If you violate this rule, you will become a heinous person.
is ridiculous. No matter how much women in this era pursue independence, they will inevitably be drowned in the saliva of some people.
I remembered that Yang Liping was ridiculed some time ago. Someone said about her: "The biggest failure of a woman is not having a child... The so-called living oneself is deceiving. When you are 90 years old, you will have a family full of children and grandchildren."
What’s even more frightening is that this comment has been liked to the first place.
What makes me sad is that a woman who has achieved the ultimate in her professional field still cannot break free from the shackles of the world.
Everyone talks about respecting women, but at the critical moment, how much have those deep-rooted thoughts changed?
Rainie Yang has a long history in the fields of music and film, and Yang Liping has dedicated her life to the dance industry. They are so brilliant, but they are thrown into the abyss because they cannot have children. Is this fair?
Behind this kind of fertility kidnapping, many women are paying the price with their lives.
- 02
Do you still remember the "birthday" recorded in "The World in the World"? The protagonist in
is angry and distressed.
There is a mother named Lin Qin who already has two daughters. At the age of 38, she insists on having a third child just to have a son.
She said that if there is no son in the family, she will be looked down upon.
So, risking the risk of being an advanced mother, she insisted on giving birth. The birth was not smooth, there was massive bleeding, and her life was in danger.
The doctor could only remove her uterus, which meant that she would never be able to have children again. Her family hesitantly signed the consent form for the operation.
What is more terrifying than kidnapping a woman to give birth to a baby is having to give birth to a boy. I have seen this kind of thing
a lot, because it is the same in my hometown.
There is no boy in the family, so he cannot hold his head high in the village. It seems that the family is going to die.
Yes, in their eyes, girls cannot inherit the incense.
Therefore, every family is fighting for a son. Some people keep giving birth to a son all their life. If it is a daughter, they give it to someone else until a son is born.
Some people really can't give birth to a son, so they think of all kinds of ways to get one, even if it means spending money, even if they are not related by blood. After all, it is the woman who pays for such ignorant thoughts. It is the woman's fault that she cannot give birth to a son.
This has brought about marriage crises and family conflicts, and women have become the culprits.
What is even more sad is that women living in such an environment have long been brainwashed by this kind of thinking, and they accept all the blessings placed on them by the outside world.
There is an even worse pregnant woman in "The Human World". Her name is Wu Ying. She has a congenital disease and cannot get pregnant at all.
But the doctor tried to persuade her to no avail. She insisted on having a baby because she felt that she would be fulfilled only by having a child.
When the child was more than 7 months old, she had a caesarean section and then underwent surgery.
She left this world on the eighth day after her child was born. Is it worth risking your life to have a child? They all say that maternal love is great, but I really can’t say the word great about such a thing.
If you don’t cherish your own life, have you ever thought about your family and friends? Can a child grow up healthy and happy without a mother?
The essence of fertility has never been to extend the incense and complete life, but to purely witness the growth of a life.
The traditional concept of fertility has caused women to lose their freedom of choice and plunged countless families into fertility crises.
But, is the meaning of a woman’s life just to give birth to children?
- 02
Carina Lau once said helplessly on the show that women nowadays have children like buying a bag. If you have it, I should have it too.
Having children is great in itself, but this concept should not be imposed on women. Besides, does not having children mean you must be unhappy?
Carina Lau is the best example. She has been in love with Tony Leung for 20 years and been married for 12 years, but they have never had children. But we have seen the most beautiful marriage and the most brilliant way of life.
Faced with doubts from the outside world, Carina Lau once said: "Of course you have to walk your own path in life. Others are used to measuring me by their moral values and outlook on life, but I will not blindly copy other people's way of life. You said I want to live Should I give birth to a child? Having a child is entirely my own choice, isn’t it?” Looking back at Carina Lau’s life, she will not be gloomy because she has no children.
Her achievements in acting are obvious to all.
won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress in 2007 for "Curiosity Killed the Cat".
won the Best Actress Award in 2011 for "Detective Dee: The Great Empire".
does not have the fetters of children. She does not have to worry about how to balance family and career. She can devote all her time and energy to running herself. Today, the 55-year-old Carina Lau is even more dazzling.
Women should live for themselves throughout their lives, not for worldly standards.
It is not easy to do this. It requires strong self-awareness and a firm heart.
- 04
Chinese women are really difficult.
Fertility kidnapping has become a shackles on them.
As soon as you get married, everyone assumes that you should have children. It is ridiculous that children have become the biggest card in maintaining a marriage.
How many families have conflicts that deepen after having children, and the relationship between husband and wife breaks down. There are many families without children, but the two of them still live a prosperous life. There is no standard for whether
is generated or not.
Can you guarantee that women with children are more fulfilled than those without children?
You haven’t seen the suffering that Chinese women have to suffer when giving birth, not only body shape deformation, but also various difficulties that are not understood.
Everyone attaches too much importance to new children. In fact, the key to the integrity and perfection of a family lies in whether the two people love each other.
Of course, I am not advising you not to have children. I just hope that everyone will respect each other and return reproductive freedom to women.
Rainie Yang doesn’t want to have children, she doesn’t like children, no problem, we also wish her the same.
Yang Liping just wants to live her life alone. Children are not her concern. It doesn't matter, she is still our goddess.
Really, stop using fertility to kidnap Chinese women.
They come here for love, not to have children. This concept must be broken before women’s independence and freedom can be established.
END.
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Do you think women must have children?
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