The Yuan family's Dalang couple went to Sheng's family to collect a battle and asked his younger brother to marry Sheng Hualan, the eldest daughter of Sheng's family, but did not want to give the betrothal gift. After the second son of the Gu family, Gu Tingye and Sheng Changfeng were betting on the betting competition. Seeing that the Sheng family's face was out of stock, Sheng Minglan took action and won back Pinyan. This was the first time she stood up in front of everyone.
At that time, Wei Xiaoniang told her that some pain was the pain of others, and some pain was the pain of bones and blood.
Everyone has different things and different confidences, so the harm they can naturally bear is also different.
01 The eldest lady: There is a noble
We all know that the eldest lady has a very good family background. She is the second daughter of the old lady of the Wang family. Her father is the old lady Wang who is worthy of the Taimiao. Even the emperor will give her some shame. Her family is the Minister of the Ministry of Revenue. With such a family background, how glorious she is.
For herself, she married Sheng Hong and was an eldest lady. She was born in a private family. In that era, who didn’t want to be someone else’s private family, and only the private family could be called a wife, and the others could only be concubines. The status of the mother also affected the status of the child.
Since the eldest lady is the main wife, her children Hualan, Changbai and Rulan are all legitimate children, which will have a far-reaching impact on the future and destiny of the children in the future. When talking about marriage, others will look up to each other. We can see from the marriages of Changbai and Hualan.
Changbai finally married the daughter of the Hai family, which further improved the family's glory. The Earl's Mansion, which Hualan married, was even more expensive.
So even if she lost Pinyan when the Yuan family gave the betrothal gift, it was harmless to her, but it was just hurting the Sheng family's face, and the face was the most vulnerable thing.
So we can see that the eldest lady's family background gave her great confidence. She always said whatever she wanted, without taking care of others. Even if Sheng Hong said something, she would sometimes refute what her parents said, this is the confidence and sense of security given to her, so her children are the same, they are the most noble legitimate children, and they have received the best care from the eldest lady. She educates the children to be kind and motivated, which is their best life wealth.
So as Wei Xiaoniang said, the eldest lady has a good family background and is noble.
Writer Zhang Ailing said: "I like money because I have never suffered from the hardships of money. I don't know the disadvantages of money, but only know the benefits of money."
For each of us, money is the source of our confidence and sense of security. Only with money can we have confidence, but without money, there is no confidence.
02 Lin Xiaoniang: Decent
Lin Xiaoniang can be said to be full of love in the play. On the one hand, because Honglang was tortured by his father's favored concubine when he was a child, and he often struggled to live with his mother. So he took great care of Lin Xiaoniang, whom he loved, and gave her land and shop, so that she could live a decent life and prevented her from enduring her past pain.
Generally, children at home have to be raised by the eldest lady, but Lin Xiaoniang is favored. Honglang asked her to raise the children himself and also asked her to manage the affairs of the family. Generally, the rights of the housekeeper should be managed by the eldest lady and the mistress at the house. However, because Lin Xiaoniang is a concubine, Honglang is afraid that she and the children will be wronged, so he gives her enough decent life and is better than ordinary people's wife.
On the other hand, it is because Lin Xiaoniang has the means to control Sheng Hong steadily and feels full of distress and pity for her.
So this is what Wei Xiaoniang said, Lin Xiaoniang is decent.
So when they are hurt, Lin Xiaoniang has the support of Sheng Hong, so she basically doesn’t have to suffer any pain. Because she is decent, she is not afraid of any harm, and she will not hurt her muscles and bones.
03 Wei Xiaoniang: I feel wronged
Although Wei Xiaoniang is a good concubine, she is the family member who can’t survive and sells medicine money to the Sheng family, so she often says that she is just a slave and the others are masters.
On the other hand, she was bought by the eldest lady to share Lin Xiaoniang's favor and then came to the Sheng family, so in the struggle between the eldest lady and Lin Xiaoniang, she could only be a victim.
Not only are Lin Xiaoniang deducted the cost, but even the charcoal in the house cannot be guaranteed. Minglan and Xiaotao were trembling with cold and often needed to pawn their own dowry to make a living.
Her child Minglan is not full or warm because of this. It is still the eldest sister's Na Zheng who can wear better clothes. After the ceremony, she returns to her room and needs to change into old clothes quickly.
Sheng Hong once said that he was afraid that Lin Xiaoniang and her children would live a tortured life like he and her own mother, but he did not want to be tortured by Minglan and Wei Xiaoniang.
Because Wei Xiaoniang has neither a good family background nor a support from her family, and on the other hand, she does not have Sheng Hong's favor, so she has no support from her husband, and she can only bear her hardships. So after Minglan made a comeback, Lin Xiaoniang used all her tricks when Wei Xiaoniang was about to give birth, which made such a good person die. In the end, Sheng Hong never seeks justice for her. Only Minglan, her biological daughter, avenges her.
So the Sheng family left Wei Xiaoniang with only a lot of grievances, because she had nothing to guarantee, so she was the least confident and could only become a victim of other people's struggles in the end.
So we say that different things we have, the confidence will naturally be different.
There is an old saying that says that courage should come from confidence. Courage without confidence is called recklessness.
What a person has is the source of confidence. Without confidence, we cannot bear the consequences of making a comeback.
