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mentions the old couple and young wife. The most famous person in history may be , the famous poet Zhang Xian , especially with the spread of Su Shi 's "The Drama Gift to Zhang Xian", people's attitude towards this matter is mostly in a joking tone.
But there is an old couple in our country who have been married for 17 years. Every time I mention it, everyone is concerned about the gap between 54 years old. Yes, what we want to talk about today is Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan . When they got married, what was Yang Zhenning's children's attitude towards Weng Fan?
54 years old love
In 2004, 82-year-old Yang Zhenning married 28-year-old Weng Fan. The news was fermented and spread by the media. The shock of is no less than that of that year. Yang Zhenning won the Nobel Prize for .
What everyone has questions is that Yang Zhenning is famous, Weng Fan is unknown, and the two are still more than half a century apart in age. The two of them combined, and seems to have more bad motivations. They have been with you for 17 years, and after the ups and downs, everyone turned around their views on Weng Fan.
At that time, it was indeed difficult for ordinary people to accept . This contains everyone's love and respect for Yang Zhenning, and also expresses doubts about Yang Weng's marriage.
Society is becoming more and more open and inclusive, and the emotions of people in the world are becoming more and more colorful like kaleidoscopes. The proportion of elderly couples and young wives is increasing, and this combination is more easily accepted by the world.
Men like women to be gentle and charming, and women hope that men can be strong and become a support. In fact, old couples and young wives are less physically affected, and the age difference is also conducive to mutual tolerance. The two complement each other, and their marriage relationship will be more stable.
Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, their marriage and life experience in the past 20 years have made the relationship between more intimate and loving. If you face everyone’s doubts, Yang Zhenning has supported Weng Fan many times. He believed that Weng Fan was a simple and kind girl, and he compared her to a gift given by God.
The two did not have children, but on the one hand, they had agreed to it at the beginning of their marriage. On the other hand, it is to give Weng Fan more energy and take better care of Yang Zhenning. Age, children, regrets... The marriage of the two has been passed by constantly questioning.
In order to make Weng Fan feel at ease and have a more secure life in his later years, it is also an explanation for the world who are paying attention to their marriage life. In 2017, Yang Zhenning, who gave to his villa to Weng Fan, gave Tsinghua .
Although this villa has only the right to use, as a widow, Weng Fan can use it until his old age.
At present, people in the world are more of blessings for this couple.
Because Weng Fan took practical actions after a firm choice, he was accepted by Yang Zhenning's three children. 17 years of marriage life have allowed everyone to see her persistence and silent dedication in love.
The eldest son Yang Guangnuo said: Weng Fan is a kind girl who takes care of her father meticulously, and we are very pleased as children.
Traditional concept of marriage and love in my country
Traditional concept of marriage and love in my country not only involves the combination of men and women, but also includes the combination of two families and even families. Since ancient times, my country's marriage life has involved the family interests of both parties.
Whether it is the "parents' destiny" of feudal society or the free love in today's society, people need to marry people with similar social and economic status. is regarded as conducive to family stability and harmony, and has become a social custom.
Social openness and cultures blend together, and people in the world have more tolerant attitudes towards love and marriage. , such as the story of Qi Baishi and Hu Baozhu , and his wife with a nurse at the age of 85, has become a model for an old couple.
However, many families and elders still hold traditional concepts. "men are older than women" is reasonable, but it is unacceptable for men to be twice or even more older than women.
Although many marriage and love programs in my country may guide some young audiences to redefine the concepts of love, relationships between men and women and marriage.At the same time, the traditional courtship and marriage ceremonies of are also disappearing.
The values conveyed by individual marriage and love programs may reflect the materialism , narcissism and discrimination against the poor, which are common in the younger generation in China. , such as "BMW Girl", monthly salary of less than 20,000 will not be considered, and there will be no chance from the countryside.
However, the overall social atmosphere still encourages Chinese people to fall in love and get married freely, but cannot violate social morality and mainstream values.
Love and marriage are very important in a person's life development stage, and is directly related to personal happiness and family stability. With the rapid changes in Chinese society, not only people’s views on marriage and love have become increasingly diversified, but their autonomy in marriage and love has also been greatly enhanced. What can
learn from the traditional view of marriage?
Since ancient times, marriage has been widely valued in Chinese culture. Confucianism places the relationship between husband and wife above the relationship between king and minister, and also attaches more importance to the order of young people's starting a family and establishing a career.
Chinese philosophers believe that in harmonious and caring families, the happiness index of couples and children and their children are relatively high in life. Today, people can learn a lot of content that is helpful to married couples from the ancient wisdom passed down from thousands of years.
" Rites " stipulates the obligations and rights of both husband and wife, and to some extent reserves their own space for them to be alone. The traditional concept of marriage also believes that the roles of couples should be complementary, just like the yin and yang pair.
Unfortunately, with the economic development of , people's pursuit of material things, in the patriarchal society, women are increasingly attached to male life.
In fact, the early Confucian marriage view was more favorable to wives. It advocated that women get married again in their early 20s and should receive appropriate premarital education. is more conducive to women's physical and mental health.
These early concepts of the complementary role of husband and wife help them clarify why Confucianism believes that marriage is good for people. Confucianism regards the married life of couples, insists that couples should each undertake family-related tasks.
For example, division of labor inside and outside the family, raising children, appreciation of each other, etc. is conducive to the complementary roles of spouse and roles, and is also faithful to the ideal concept of complementary yin and yang. rather than later generations comparing yin and yang to conduct gender discrimination.
At the same time, from a Confucian perspective, both parents must constantly reflect on themselves and work hard to improve their shortcomings. : When educating children, they should not tend to be overly harsh or gentle in their education methods, and the parents' methods are not necessarily exactly the same.
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Marriage is a symbol of two people's commitment to living together, and these commitments tend to create more stable family areas and societies. Whether it is the age-loving love like Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, or the sister-brother relationship between the entertainment industry or the people around them, they have all entered the palace of marriage.
There is indeed something wrong with the relationship between husband and wife based on the age gap. More people's consensus is that the key to the marriage between men and women in is the common values, emotions and spiritual commonality between the two parties.
Overcome secular prejudice, recognize the rationality of old couples and young wives, and understand the joy of their lives. This should be one of the manifestations of social progress.
