Big bull busy marriage emotional case series
keywords: divorce, lover, marriage
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In my love, the most touching sentence is not the beginning of the sentence "I love you", but the final sentence "I'm sorry, I can't marry you"...
This is the feeling of a divorced woman in a marriage case. She once told the following emotional experience:
That year, I let my dreams fly, loved someone, and waited for someone. In order to be with him forever, I forced myself to divorce my husband.
Why am I so stupid?
is hard to describe, but it is actually all for love. Love suddenly came, and my world changed. I lost my mind and wanted to spend the rest of my life with the man I like.
At that time, I didn’t think I was stupid. Divorce was to pursue a normal life. After spending more than ten years with my husband, not only did my life be ordinary, but even the couple slept in the same bed became a luxury. I felt very depressed, I had already had enough.
Since I met him (love) I realized the magic of fate and gradually felt the warmth and excitement of the other side of this world. Not only did he say he would love me forever, he also vowed to divorce and marry me as soon as possible.
As a woman who has been married and has given birth to two children, I am not young anymore. I was 39 years old that year, and it was a bit late to talk about love at this age. Of course I understand that divorce is a bit risky, and maybe I will regret it.
But I believed in love again and firmly believed that it would give me a better future.
I longed to marry him as my wife before my divorce, and after my divorce I have been waiting for him to divorce. Now that I have been divorced for more than 2 years, he will only treat me perfunctorily and is unwilling to fulfill his promise.
1. If there is no other opposite sex entering life
In this lady's story, she, who was already 39 years old, met love. Although the man had a home and a room like her, after a few dates, she became obsessed with that feeling of intimacy. It’s like having tasted the sweetness and never forgetting the other person again.
She thought she met love and believed in love. I would rather give up a stable marriage and family than bet on a "happiness for the rest of my life".
In order to marry her lover, she forced her to die and finally agreed to divorce her husband.
After the divorce, she was under tremendous emotional pressure. Not only did she bear the reputation of "San'er", but her parents were extremely disappointed with her.
She has been waiting for more than 2 years, but she has not been able to marry her lover as she wishes. In regret, she told this experience...
Many people may wonder, how could there be such a silly woman in this world?
In fact, this kind of emotional problems have always been common in marriage. There are also people who are even more "stupid" than her, but at first they didn't think they were stupid.
When it comes to feelings, people's hearts are the most complicated, and there are always people willing to fly into the fire.
Many married people once failed to control themselves and lost themselves for another "love", but later they regretted it. That love is like a dream, and when I woke up, I realized that I was "very stupid".
In fact, simply describing it as stupid or not is not appropriate enough.
From the perspective of psychological logic, "love" is usually a cognition of emotion. Sensual errors are related to human nature, and in the end they can be attributed to personality defects rather than intellectual deficiencies.
seems very stupid, but in fact he is too greedy. This is due to human nature.
Many people who have experienced it have been like her before. They have been with her husband and wife for more than ten years, and the wind and flowers are getting farther and farther away. Although the family is relatively stable, occasionally you will feel that your marriage is too dull and your life is boring.
There is a complaint about loneliness in marriage, and there is also a longing for imaginatively. People have seven emotions and six desires , love has mercy and regret, some things inadvertently break into life, accidentally fill in loneliness, and from then on disturb the mind. Once the heat arrives, it is difficult to stop the first step.
When the next romance and snow reappear, many people will feel that marriage is a mistake.
If another opposite sex had not entered life, most people could keep their original aspirations. No matter how dull the marriage is, it is not too difficult to live long.
The difficulty lies in the fact that there are too many temptations outside of marriage, which leads to a deviation in the cognition of marriage. When they meet a "better" person and move their hearts that they shouldn't be moved, they realize that they have no original intention at all, let alone the persistence of marriage.
If you live a better life after divorce, no one would say that you were stupid at the beginning. Only those who regret it are stupid. In fact, this is also due to human nature. No matter what right or wrong...
2. He gave hope, but gradually eroded hope
The following text, I will tell you about this woman's marriage case. In her tone, I only narrate it truthfully, and briefly organize it to improve readability, and readers can understand it themselves.
Sometimes the distance between ideal and reality seems not far away, but after walking along the way, I found that that distance is already out of reach.
I have loved a married man and have loved him for several years. I fell in love with him before the divorce, and still loved him after the divorce, loving him wholeheartedly.
For him, I gave up my marriage for more than ten years and just wanted to spend the second half of my life with him. But until today, he is reluctant to fulfill a promise, and instead he is less and less willing to meet me.
Even if he meets me, he will only ask me to wait a little longer and divorce and marry me after dealing with my wife.
For the past two years, I have been waiting and I have worked hard for everything I should do. He only wanted to date me and find countless excuses to calm my emotions, but never had any substantial actions.
Not only did he not divorce, he also had a child with his wife. His family is getting stronger and stronger, while I am getting more and more embarrassed, enduring loneliness alone.
I can bear the infamy of "San'er". I can't be understood by others, but I can't accept him playing tricks on me like this. After all, I do all this because of him. Everyone can ignore me, and they can even say that I am ashamed, but he shouldn't treat me like this.
Sometimes I feel that I am so stupid and too naive.
I often ask myself repeatedly: Is it meaningful to spend time with him day after day?
If I were rational, I should have given up on this relationship long ago, but I always feel unwilling to give up.
I gave up everything I could for him. If I give up on him again, where should I go? I'm 42 years old and have little choice.
If he hadn't had a second child with his wife, I still believe he would marry me. I can continue to wait, and I am not afraid of waiting for three or five years. But his wife gave birth to him a second child, and the relationship between husband and wife increased instead of decline.
I don’t know how long I can last. Thinking about the original choice, I have the heart to die.
From the beginning to now, I have always loved him and wanted to live with him. If he couldn't make up his mind, he shouldn't have promised so much at the beginning. He gave me hope for happiness, and gradually eroded my hope...
3. The helplessness of marriage cannot be explained clearly
. Regarding my love and marriage, I can no longer explain clearly. Although I made an unforgivable mistake later, I was very innocent. This is not a defense, and the reason for the divorce is not understood by everyone.
Now I can only recall in regret and move forward in tears, but I dare not explain much...
When I was a child, I was a good daughter in the eyes of my parents, and when I grew up, I was a quiet and honest good girl. When I was a student, many boys pursued me. I studied all the time and blushed when I saw small notes.
Since I was a child, I have been a person who can take things as they please.
It was not until I graduated from college that I plucked up the courage to accept a suitor for the first time. He is the first man I have ever loved, my college classmate, and even my colleague. I really fell in love with him and willingly gave myself to him.
We have talked about it for more than a year and have eaten and lived together. I thought we would be husband and wife, but my family disagreed.
My parents think that his hometown is too far away and the conditions in the countryside are not good enough. It is difficult for him to buy a wedding house in the city within 5 years and he is not worthy of me...
Although I long for love, I dare not disobey my parents' arrangements. Both elders are old traditions, and they always say that they cannot decide on major marriages by themselves, otherwise they will be shameless. It seems inappropriate to find a partner by yourself, and you will be laughed at by others...
I was too influenced by my family and had to give up that love.
During a blind date, I met my husband (ex-husband). When we first met, we felt that he was a good person, not ugly, and his family conditions were similar to those of my family. I tried dating him for a while, and he was honest and shy and even blushed when he spoke.
I was very hesitant, but my parents said this was called a good match and he would treat me well in the future.
The two adults discussed it once and agreed on the wedding day. We got the certificate after only half a year of falling in love. Later, I bought a house, got married, moved, and had children, and I almost finished it in one go.
He was just as his parents had "predicted" at the time, and he was still honest after getting married. Over the years, he has never taken the initiative to argue with me.
speaks with conscience. I know my husband is good to me, but what I need is not only this kind of goodness. Maybe he is a good man in the eyes of others, but in my eyes, there are some things that make me embarrassed and want to cry without tears.
He is not manly, and even if he sleeps in the same bed, he never takes the initiative. It was barely normal for the first few years of marriage. Later, he only cared about work and was not interested in me. He often refused to throw himself into his arms and refused to be close...
4. Some marriage problems are common but not solved
I long for love, but there are many kinds of love. I know he loves me in his heart and buys whatever he wants, but this kind of love is more like a kind of neglected compensation.
As a big man, he should take the initiative in some things. If even the couple wants me to beg him, and I will always be rejected after begging him, would this kind of love besides love?
I don’t know what happened to him. No matter how beautiful I dress, it’s hard to see the lightning of his eyes. Others think that our marriage is happy and we have no worries about food and clothing, but in my opinion, life is dull.
10th anniversary of my marriage, I carefully prepared wine and dishes and specially sent my children to my parents' home. He went home and drank a few drinks, saying that his wife had worked hard, and shouted "I love you" in his mouth, but he didn't want to touch me when he was sleeping.
I cried that night, and other people's husbands were trying every means to accompany my wife to make her feel at ease. My husband didn't touch me for 3 months and was still unmoved by me. The days ahead will be very long, how should I survive...
For personal face, I thought of a way and forced him to have a second child. No matter how tired you are, you have another child while we are young. My colleagues have all wanted it, and our family’s conditions allow it, so there is no reason for you to not.
He agreed. He worked very hard in just half a year and finally took the initiative to approach me. I thought he was normal, but I didn't expect that it was the last warm time of marriage.
After giving birth to the second baby, he almost never accompanied me for the rest of the three years, as if he was very afraid of me.
It is obviously normal, and there is no problem with your health. Why do you neglect me like that? I can't figure out, is this what a couple should look like?
Whenever I make excuses to complain, he says save some energy to do more meaningful things. He took me to watch movies, took me on a trip, and took me to eat delicious food. Maybe he thought it was compensation, but I felt more and more lonely.
Some marriage problems are unsolvable. I have heard of this before, but I don’t believe it. Until I met it, I realized that nothing was impossible.
He couldn't examine this marriage from my perspective, and always thought I was making a big deal. I was living a very depressed life and there was no other way except to survive.
If the marriage has always been dull, I can keep my original intention. No matter how depressed life is, I can still spend my whole life with him, and I will never have any other thoughts until I die.
But there are many unexpected encounters and impulses in love. I accidentally met my ex-boyfriend and thought I had met love...
5. I never care about the consequences when I am moved
That happened 3 years ago. At the product exhibition, I met my ex-boyfriend who had resigned for many years. After not seeing each other for more than ten years, he recognized me as soon as he walked towards me. He took the initiative to say hello to me and passed by him.
he still looks like I like, he is mature and steady than before, and has a successful career. Although times have changed, the love that suddenly ended back then once again echoed in my mind.
is very emotional. We should have been together back then, but I blamed me for not sticking to the end.
I thought we only had the fate of saying hello at most, and there would be no unnecessary communication. Unexpectedly, after the exhibition, he took the initiative to come to me and invite me to a meal. My heart pounded and I wisely rejected him.
We added our friends again, in name, to talk about work. I can’t tell what the real purpose is...
We often chat, talk about the recent situation of our classmates, talk about the experiences of the past ten years, and talk about their respective families. I often lament that life is like a play, and that love and hate are impermanent.
I loved so deeply back then, but unfortunately, we all have 2 children.
chatted for more than 20 days, and I promised him to come out for dinner. I drank a lot of alcohol that day and drank myself and cried. He comforted me and said, "There is nothing big in the world."
is this sentence that reminds me of his courage when he was young. He still has that kind of courage, but where is my courage?
I couldn't help but hug him actively. He advised me that we both have families, so you should try not to do this. When he first came out to meet, he refused me like that. But the second time we met, we were together.
once loved one, and there was a lot of tacit understanding. Lamenting the magic of fate, I have him again, and I feel the wonderfulness of the other side of this world.
He said he had regained his feelings back then, and I thought he was referring to love...
I told him: I can make you fall in love with me again, and I will never forget it again, I still want to be your woman.
He said: Maybe, there are still many things between us that have not been dealt with. If possible, I would love you all the time. I won't hide it from you, my wife and I don't have much feelings for each other.
love a person without any effort. As for family, friendship, personality, and dignity, it is no longer important. Since I was a child, I have never done many courageous things. Divorce is the most courageous thing I have ever done.
My husband doesn't want to divorce, and even let me deal with emotional issues by myself, and he doesn't interfere. For the sake of divorce, I forced myself to die. If I am ashamed, I am actually forced to have no way out.
I was moved by my ex-boyfriend and was willing to be his lover.I didn't think about the consequences, and never wanted to miss him again, and wanted to live a normal life...
Six. In the end, there was a waste of time
He had made up his mind to divorce and marry me, but his wife was unwilling to let go and searched for death all day long. Now he has not only not divorced, but has also given birth to a second child with his wife.
Since he has a second child, he has seen me less and less. I understand, the hope for divorce is already slim.
I can't hold on anymore. For this love, I bet on everything. After waiting for him for more than two years, I not only ruined my reputation, but also disappointed my parents.
If I can't marry him, I will fail in my life. But in the face of reality, I still failed.
Some time ago, he told me: Sorry, I can't marry you. If I divorce, my wife will not be able to survive.
I finally understood. He was embarrassed and he finally said it. If he had said he would not marry me, I would not have come to this point.
I feel so stupid. His family is so happy and he has such a devoted wife. Why should I give up the whole family for me? I don’t want to ask him why he lied to me anymore. It’s time to break up this relationship...
This marriage case ends here, the story of a divorced woman a few weeks ago. Regarding this case, I will not express my unnecessary views, just tell it truthfully.
In the adult emotional world, some relationships between men and women can easily destroy marriage. Even though love has become a thing of the past, there are still some indescribable thoughts that bother each unstable heart.
If another opposite sex had not entered life, many people would be content with the status quo and would not have reached the point of divorce, but this is not an excuse.
Sometimes marriage is like opening a blind box, and some things make people helpless. But no matter what, you should not hurt other people's families, you should not think of love so simply, and there is no love for no reason.
Many times, love is a reflection of drama life. It doesn’t matter how much you give, what matters is the final ending, just accept it.
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