text | Reizi Feifei
In the original work, the male protagonist is Junsheng (that is, Chen Junsheng in the TV series), he is a doctor and the female protagonist is Zijun.
Zijun and Junsheng fell in love when they were in college. After graduation, he got married. After marriage, Zijun took care of his husband and children at home and never went out to work again. They have a pair of children.
till thirteen years after getting married, Junsheng filed for divorce, and Zijun was forced to leave home and a pair of children, and found a job with the help of his friend Tang Jing .
Junsheng and his lover Gu Lingling are preparing to get married.
Just one day before Junsheng was about to hold his second wedding, he looked for Zijun and wanted to renew his relationship with Zijun. Why?
original work reads:
"Zijun, if I look back, Zijun," he (Junsheng) suddenly reached out and held my hand, "If—"
I (Zijun) shook his hand away, "What are you talking about?" I cursed my brows, "We have signed a divorce long ago, you are not crazy."
Junsheng murmured, "Yes, you are right, it is me that I am not good. I always think you are stupid and not smart enough, but I don't know that because of my family, I have been locked in the house for a long time, so I will naturally be stunned... After the divorce, you became such an outstanding woman. I underestimated you, which is the punishment I deserve."
Junsheng was still thinking about it before the second marriage and wanted to get back with his ex-wife. He did this to hurt two women. It's really a dilemma.
Dignified Zijun has been alone for more than a year after the divorce. The divorce made her sad, but her life after independence broadened her knowledge and vision several times, which echoed the sentence: It is a blessing to lose her husband.
She refused Junsheng: "Junsheng, I sincerely wish you a happy life with Gu Lingling. She is a woman with great plans, just to supplement your weaknesses. You are very cooperative with you."
From then on, Junsheng has no way out. There is a river ahead, and he has to jump down, because Gu Lingling also has a pair of children, and he and his ex-wife Jun also have a pair of children. Just the huge interpersonal relationship of the family after remarriage makes Junsheng and Gu Lingling feel enough. Compared with the simple and pure family relationship he had with Zijun and his own couple before the divorce, it is enough to make Junsheng tired and bored.
remarriage cannot solve the marriage problem between Junsheng and Zijun. Remarriage is still in the trial marriage stage, and he regrets it. This can only explain that the problems of Junsheng and Gu Lingling come faster than the problems of Junsheng and Zijun.
Use remarriage to solve the marriage problem, for Junsheng, it is tantamount to drinking poison to quench thirst. What exactly is the problem of
?
1. Dislike
"I think you are stupid, not smart and lively enough..." Dislikes his wife being clumsy at home as a housewife, which is why Junsheng wants to divorce.
Marriage has been around for more than ten years, and life has remained unchanged and has lost its freshness.
Some people say: No matter how good the marriage is, I have had countless thoughts of divorce.
I firmly believe in this. One of the reasons is to dislike me. I think my husband is lazy, he thinks I am nagging, and they hate each other so much that they are itchy. I hate it deep and I wish I could end this relationship with him/her, so it would not hurt so much. He thought the same way.
can calm down. Children need to be raised, and parents cannot replace each other. Harmony at home requires a perfect match between men and women, which is more harmonious than fighting alone. In desperation, we need to let go of grudges and minor matters, so we reconcile again.
Junsheng disliked Zijun and thought it would be enough to change someone.
Gu Lingling is newer than Zijun. She is independent and capable, and has a career. When Zijun and Junsheng's relationship is slack, she takes advantage of the situation and provides Junsheng with the emotional value they need. This is exactly what Junsheng needs, and these happen to be something Zijun temporarily ignored.
Gu Lingling doesn't need Junsheng's money, but what she wants must be love. After marriage, Junsheng was exhausted from making money and patronizing his four children (Gu Lingling and his ex-husband were both awarded to Gu Lingling, and Junsheng gave birth to his own children), two women (Gu Lingling and Zijun), and he did not have time to talk about love.
text | Reizi Feifei
In the original work, the male protagonist is Junsheng (that is, Chen Junsheng in the TV series), he is a doctor and the female protagonist is Zijun.
Zijun and Junsheng fell in love when they were in college. After graduation, he got married. After marriage, Zijun took care of his husband and children at home and never went out to work again. They have a pair of children.
till thirteen years after getting married, Junsheng filed for divorce, and Zijun was forced to leave home and a pair of children, and found a job with the help of his friend Tang Jing .
Junsheng and his lover Gu Lingling are preparing to get married.
Just one day before Junsheng was about to hold his second wedding, he looked for Zijun and wanted to renew his relationship with Zijun. Why?
original work reads:
"Zijun, if I look back, Zijun," he (Junsheng) suddenly reached out and held my hand, "If—"
I (Zijun) shook his hand away, "What are you talking about?" I cursed my brows, "We have signed a divorce long ago, you are not crazy."
Junsheng murmured, "Yes, you are right, it is me that I am not good. I always think you are stupid and not smart enough, but I don't know that because of my family, I have been locked in the house for a long time, so I will naturally be stunned... After the divorce, you became such an outstanding woman. I underestimated you, which is the punishment I deserve."
Junsheng was still thinking about it before the second marriage and wanted to get back with his ex-wife. He did this to hurt two women. It's really a dilemma.
Dignified Zijun has been alone for more than a year after the divorce. The divorce made her sad, but her life after independence broadened her knowledge and vision several times, which echoed the sentence: It is a blessing to lose her husband.
She refused Junsheng: "Junsheng, I sincerely wish you a happy life with Gu Lingling. She is a woman with great plans, just to supplement your weaknesses. You are very cooperative with you."
From then on, Junsheng has no way out. There is a river ahead, and he has to jump down, because Gu Lingling also has a pair of children, and he and his ex-wife Jun also have a pair of children. Just the huge interpersonal relationship of the family after remarriage makes Junsheng and Gu Lingling feel enough. Compared with the simple and pure family relationship he had with Zijun and his own couple before the divorce, it is enough to make Junsheng tired and bored.
remarriage cannot solve the marriage problem between Junsheng and Zijun. Remarriage is still in the trial marriage stage, and he regrets it. This can only explain that the problems of Junsheng and Gu Lingling come faster than the problems of Junsheng and Zijun.
Use remarriage to solve the marriage problem, for Junsheng, it is tantamount to drinking poison to quench thirst. What exactly is the problem of
?
1. Dislike
"I think you are stupid, not smart and lively enough..." Dislikes his wife being clumsy at home as a housewife, which is why Junsheng wants to divorce.
Marriage has been around for more than ten years, and life has remained unchanged and has lost its freshness.
Some people say: No matter how good the marriage is, I have had countless thoughts of divorce.
I firmly believe in this. One of the reasons is to dislike me. I think my husband is lazy, he thinks I am nagging, and they hate each other so much that they are itchy. I hate it deep and I wish I could end this relationship with him/her, so it would not hurt so much. He thought the same way.
can calm down. Children need to be raised, and parents cannot replace each other. Harmony at home requires a perfect match between men and women, which is more harmonious than fighting alone. In desperation, we need to let go of grudges and minor matters, so we reconcile again.
Junsheng disliked Zijun and thought it would be enough to change someone.
Gu Lingling is newer than Zijun. She is independent and capable, and has a career. When Zijun and Junsheng's relationship is slack, she takes advantage of the situation and provides Junsheng with the emotional value they need. This is exactly what Junsheng needs, and these happen to be something Zijun temporarily ignored.
Gu Lingling doesn't need Junsheng's money, but what she wants must be love. After marriage, Junsheng was exhausted from making money and patronizing his four children (Gu Lingling and his ex-husband were both awarded to Gu Lingling, and Junsheng gave birth to his own children), two women (Gu Lingling and Zijun), and he did not have time to talk about love.
Once upon a time, when Junsheng and Zijun were together, his energy and time were not enough, let alone the current situation. Like Junsheng, Gu Lingling faces the pressure of being a stepmother and stepfather, and her new in-laws and four children, how can she not be more favorable than one or the other? How can one be favored by the other?
When Junsheng cannot face such a complex reorganized family relationship, it is inevitable that it is annoying. He can't help but think of Zijun's goodness and wants to escape the embarrassing situation now, but people always have to bear the consequences of their choice. Zijun won't remarry. Gu Lingling would not give up, and marrying Junsheng was her life plan.
New reorganization family conflicts follow one after another, and what Junsheng thinks of always "escape" and changing his wife. Apart from that, he has no better way.
In marriage, there will be more or less disgust. Those who really cannot reach the end are those men and women who cannot deal with the "disgust".
Zijun's "clumsiness" appeared after she divorced and independent. She could support herself at work. She made a small profit by doing pottery , which proves that her stupidity was caused by her being out of touch with society for too long. Go out and find a job and the problem is solved.
As long as there is a suitable platform, your partner will shine. The independent Zijun is radiant, and Lian Junsheng has seen her praise her for being in good condition more than once.
So, disgust is not solved by changing your wife, but by taking her to get better.
2. Lack of love
Read the original work throughout and found an interesting phenomenon: Junsheng and Gu Lingling are both people who lack love, but the types are different.
Junsheng said when he filed for divorce to Zijun: Zijun, I'm sorry for you. But I can't give up on love, Zijun, I loved you before, but now I fall in love with others, I have to leave you, please forgive me.
Junsheng also said: You don’t care about me. I don’t want to say more, Zijun, I don’t want to criticize you, but in fact, in recent years, I have not received any warmth at home. I am just a tool to make money. We didn't even have time to meet. When I want to talk to you, you always do other things: having dinner with your wives and playing cards at your parents' home...
or above is the accusation against Zijun when Juan Sheng divorced. As a husband, he believes that he is a cold money-making tool and has no warmth in this family. This feeling lasted for several years, and his wife Zijun was completely unaware of it.
From the perspective of economic status, men are at high positions and women are at low positions. But from the perspective of emotional perspective, Junsheng is a weak person, and Zijun becomes a strong person. Junsheng's emotional dependence is not satisfied. Once he meets Gu Lingling who cares about him, he falls in an instant, thinking that he has met true love, and once believed that this is love.
But this kind of love lasts not long and is defeated by reality. The trivialities of marriage will crush all the loves and loves. I just divorced my old beloved Zijun and regretted it before I got married when I fell in love with my new love Gu Lingling.
I have to say that if a man who can make money is blessed by a glass heart, he can go through fire and water for her when he meets a woman he likes. For him, nothing is more rare than comforting his fragile heart.
When you meet this kind of man, you have to be careful and continuously providing him with good emotional value until he truly matures his mind.
I believe Gu Lingling does not have this patience. In love, under the catalysis of dopamine , what she shows is the advantages Junsheng wants. Once an intimate relationship is established, both parties will no longer avoid it. Gu Lingling needs to make money outside, take care of children, serve Junsheng, mediate the elderly of both parties, etc. What she needs is a solid arm, not a man who is emotionally susceptible to injury everywhere.
Gu Lingling in the original work is not financially dependent on men and is low-key and not ostentatious. Her ex-husband is a down-and-out screenwriter. She is an actor with solid acting skills and high and stable income. After divorced her ex-husband, her children belonged to her.
This is a strong and opinionated woman. She chose Junsheng. Compared to Junsheng's ability, she was more interested in Junsheng's feelings and personality.
From later, Gu Lingling's ex-husband secretly contacted Zijun and wanted to join Zijun to expose Junsheng and Gu Lingling together. He claimed that Junsheng and Gu Lingling were ruined, his ex-husband was very scheming.
Gu Lingling has been injured many times when she met such an ex-husband man. Her loneliness meets the sentimental Junsheng; the lack of love meets Gu Lingling's independent and sensible attitude, and the two hit it off.
In terms of comprehensive strength, Gu Lingling and Junsheng are evenly matched. Junsheng wants Gu Lingling to make excessive efforts in love. In reality, Gu Lingling can’t even do it. In her life, she is not just love, but also herself, her children, and her career.
Junsheng is better than her ex-husband. Marrying Junsheng is to add icing on the cake to your life and achieve the effect of strong alliance.
But if one day Junsheng drags Gu Lingling down, she will not look back because she has the confidence to come and go freely.
3. The truth of marriage
Before divorce, Zijun relied on her husband. After the divorce, Zijun achieved independence.
Junsheng changed his two wives, but his life was still unsatisfactory. Before and after marriage, remarry, his problem is not others, but himself.
Gu Lingling, she is free to come and go in marriage, and no one can stop her.
The truth is that marriage is a mirror that reflects the demon, not the other person, but yourself.
Junsheng's problem is that he has always had a child who has not grown up in his heart. He needs to find comfort from the other party. If he can't find comfort, he goes to another place to continue searching, searching for his wife, and then he finds that the inner demon has always been in his heart.
If you cannot see your gains and losses from the previous marriage, grow up, and rush into the next marriage, the problem will never be solved, and happiness will only get farther and farther away.
From later, Gu Lingling's ex-husband secretly contacted Zijun and wanted to join Zijun to expose Junsheng and Gu Lingling together. He claimed that Junsheng and Gu Lingling were ruined, his ex-husband was very scheming.
Gu Lingling has been injured many times when she met such an ex-husband man. Her loneliness meets the sentimental Junsheng; the lack of love meets Gu Lingling's independent and sensible attitude, and the two hit it off.
In terms of comprehensive strength, Gu Lingling and Junsheng are evenly matched. Junsheng wants Gu Lingling to make excessive efforts in love. In reality, Gu Lingling can’t even do it. In her life, she is not just love, but also herself, her children, and her career.
Junsheng is better than her ex-husband. Marrying Junsheng is to add icing on the cake to your life and achieve the effect of strong alliance.
But if one day Junsheng drags Gu Lingling down, she will not look back because she has the confidence to come and go freely.
3. The truth of marriage
Before divorce, Zijun relied on her husband. After the divorce, Zijun achieved independence.
Junsheng changed his two wives, but his life was still unsatisfactory. Before and after marriage, remarry, his problem is not others, but himself.
Gu Lingling, she is free to come and go in marriage, and no one can stop her.
The truth is that marriage is a mirror that reflects the demon, not the other person, but yourself.
Junsheng's problem is that he has always had a child who has not grown up in his heart. He needs to find comfort from the other party. If he can't find comfort, he goes to another place to continue searching, searching for his wife, and then he finds that the inner demon has always been in his heart.
If you cannot see your gains and losses from the previous marriage, grow up, and rush into the next marriage, the problem will never be solved, and happiness will only get farther and farther away.
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