Text丨Love in the West Chamber
Time is not long, I hope you will meet in my words and it will not be too late!
Someone said: "The more stories a person has, the more weaknesses he has, and almost all weaknesses in this life are related to a certain person."
Everyone actually has their own weaknesses. The more stories a person has, the more weaknesses he has.
The unforgettable love he has experienced, as well as a certain unforgettable experience, will make him have psychological weaknesses.
I have to say that in real life, many people always have a person living in their hearts who has never mentioned it to others.
This person was rooted in his heart. He was the person he once loved passionately, and he was also the one he didn't want to touch easily now. Every time I think about it inadvertently, it hurts so much that I can't breathe, as if my whole body is being pricked with needles.
"Psychological weakness" can be a person, a thing, or his psychological defense line and psychological needs.
If you can understand the other person's psychological weakness and prescribe the right medicine when getting along, then he will definitely cherish you more.
Many women always make silly sacrifices for men, but never really get a man's heart. In fact, in the final analysis, the method is used wrongly.
You must know that what men need is often not your endless flattery and dedication.
He doesn't want such humble love, nor is he willing to bear it. He just hopes that his partner is a woman who knows him and understands him.
So, don’t always do things that are meaningless and hurt others and yourself. Don't be stupid and don't understand. There are three psychological weaknesses of men. If a woman grasps them, he will not be able to live without you.
Remember, no matter how much effort you put in, it will be meaningless if you don’t have a good sense of proportion. It is better to understand the other party's psychological needs and prescribe the right medicine to improve efficiency.
Satisfy his self-esteem
Men have strong self-esteem. He longs to be valued, recognized and supported by others. Therefore, if you want to capture his heart, you must grasp and satisfy his psychological needs.
Some women have always been very independent. They always handle their own affairs and almost never trouble men.
Regarding this, you may think it is for his own good and not to disturb him. But in fact, your independence seems to hurt him directly.
He will feel that you do not believe in his ability and feel that he cannot help you.
The feeling of being ignored and not taken seriously grows in his heart, and his self-esteem cannot be satisfied by you. As time goes by, he will become more and more indifferent to you.
Therefore, you might as well give him more opportunities to show his existence and abilities. You need to make him feel that you regard him as your best support, so that he will want to stay with you all the time.
Understand his psychological defense line and enhance his sense of dependence on you
Everyone is vulnerable at times. Although men appear to be strong on the surface, they are very calm no matter how big things happen.
But in fact, he is also very sad inside, but he rarely shows it in front of others.
What you have to do is to stay with him when he needs it most, without asking him what happened or whether he is in a bad mood. Since he doesn't want to say anything, don't ask any more questions.
You must know that a man's emotions are inward. If he has any unpleasant things, he likes to hide them in his heart.
On the one hand, it’s because of their personality, and on the other hand, it’s because men are very face-conscious. It’s not a glorious thing for them to express their inner vulnerability.
So, you just need to pretend that you don't know anything, stay with him, and spend the saddest time with him.
Even if he doesn't say it, he will be very moved in his heart. Moreover, as he spends more time with you, he will find that he needs you more and more and can't live without you.
Occasionally keep a distance, which makes him feel a sense of crisis.
It is said that distance creates beauty. Men and women should occasionally keep a distance, so as not to make the relationship lose its freshness.
If you keep pestering him, the distance is too close, and over time, no matter how good the relationship is, you may get tired of it.
Therefore, occasionally keep a distance from him, which will make him feel a sense of crisis, cherish you more, and be unwilling to let go of your hand.
Many men are like this. If you are too good to him, he may not be willing to appreciate it. Once you start to become cold, he will realize how important you are to him.
Of course, you can't withdraw blindly. Your withdrawal can't be without reason, and you can't let him think that you have second thoughts.
So, how to maintain distance? The best way to use is to make your own life richer and live a more fulfilling life.
In this way, he will not only see your efforts and excellence, but also have his own space, and he will also have some thoughts about gains and losses.
After a long time, he will naturally be afraid of losing you and can't live without you!
Conclusion :
Someone said: "Don't rely too much on one person, because it will become a habit. When separation comes, what you lose is not a person, but your spiritual support."
Indeed, dependence and habits are both It's a terrible thing. Never rely too much on someone. You have to try to make others rely on you and make others unable to live without you.
If you rely too much on a person and have been accustomed to his existence and being by your side, then when one day he leaves you, you will feel that your soul has been taken away.
From the day he left, you seemed to have become a lifeless puppet, with your eyes losing their luster and your life losing motivation.
Without him, you will suddenly lose your direction in life and live like a zombie every day. If you are like that, when you wake up one day and think back, you will feel scared.
So, never completely rely on one person, he is not the only one in your life.
A smart woman will never live so passively. She will change from passive to active, which in turn makes the man rely on her and make him yearn for her.
Regarding this, Ximei hopes everyone understands that men have three psychological weaknesses. If a woman grasps them, he will be unable to leave you.
Love can never be won through endless efforts and flattery. The key to maintaining a relationship is understanding.
You need to know the other person well enough and understand his psychological needs in order to prescribe the right medicine. Otherwise, everything you do will be useless because the other party doesn't need it at all.
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