Nietzsche said in "The Other Side of Good and Evil": "The so-called noble soul means the awe of oneself."
Everyone should be in awe of his actions, because of good and evil There is reincarnation. If you are irresponsible to your family, one day you will be bitten by your actions.
Wu Wenjie, who lives in a rural area, did not do business when he was young. When he was old, his eyes grew tumors. His son didn't care about him, and his ex-wife kept a distance from him. He was struggling to eat.
But the neighbors all said: "Yes, this is the punishment he deserves."
So what did he do? Make everyone so irritated?
Wu Wenjie originally had a happy home, his wife was virtuous, and his children were sensible.
But he didn't cherish this family at all. When his son was over a year old, he was arrested for theft and stayed in it for more than 3 years.
In the mind of his son Wu-in-law, he has no impression of his father, because he did not accompany him when he was a child, and he was ashamed of his father's behavior.
But the family is still tolerant of Wu Wenjie. After he came out, they accepted him and encouraged him to start again, but Wu Wenjie was too lazy and didn’t want to work, so he played with some unmotivated people all day long. .
When it is dark, go home to eat, and if you have no money, ask your wife for it. What's more, if the wife doesn't pay, he will beat his wife.
The disappointment again and again, in exchange for the wife’s despair of marriage , because each other did not get a marriage certificate, the wife left home with a pair of children,It can be considered to be out of relationship.
In the heart of his son Wu, he grew up without his father's participation, and he has no affection for his father, and his daughter is even more strange to his father. They have not seen his father for more than ten years, and they have been working on a family under the labor of their mother.
But Wu Wenjie still did not let them go. He fell ill and had a tumor in his eyes, so he found his son and asked him to see a doctor. He said that the operation fee would cost 50,000 and he had 20,000 savings. Let the son get 30,000.
The kind-hearted son-in-law Wu, although he couldn't understand his father's personality, but considering the blood relationship, he still gave his father 30,000, and told his father to pay attention to the doctor and not to delay.
Unexpectedly, after the father got the money, he only spent more than 3,000 to see a doctor, and found a girlfriend with the remaining money. What's more, his girlfriend is the same age as his son.
This matter was pointed out by many people. Wu Xu was also so angry that his stomach hurts, but he couldn't manage it. After all, his father said he had the freedom of feelings.
If he lives with confidence, it's okay. What's ridiculous is that he was squandering the life-saving money his son gave him. The life of sitting and eating in the sky quickly passed, and his little girlfriend left him, and his eye disease became more serious.
has no money, he repeats the same trick, finds his son to ask for money, and feels confident: ", you are my son, you should support me. "
After reading about Wu Wenjie, he remembered a sentence, is not everyone , Both are worthy of being parents.
It turned out that I have read a book " water knows the answer ".
An academic has done an experiment and divided the water into many parts,Write different words in each glass of water, half of which are positive, positive words, such as I love you, gratitude, happiness, etc., and the other half are negative, negative words, such as I hate you, angry, anger, etc.
Then put the water in the refrigerator, and when I took it out again, I found that the water had different ice flowers. The cups with positive words were beautiful and complete, while the cups with negative words were ice flowers. It's ugly and broken.
He came up with the answer, that is, everything has spirituality. If you have positive energy, you can attract good things to happen. If you have negative energy, it may bring bad things.
In Wu Wenjie’s body, really saw the reincarnation of good and evil. When he was young, he was not responsible for his family, he hurt his wife again and again, and he did a lot of bad things. Who do you blame for missing the best opportunity for treatment? It's all self-blame.
At the end of the mediation, his son promised to provide him with old age, and even willing to pay to send him to a nursing home. He just didn't want to live with him, so he left tears of regret and said that he owed him too much.
In my opinion, his son is already very kind. Although there is no way to forgive him, he has fulfilled his obligation to be a son.
Compared with eye disease, it is blindness of the heart. In the long years of life, Wu Wenjie did not fully understand, nor did he fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and a father. He was able to meet a son who was willing to support. It is his best blessing. I hope he can reflect on himself for the rest of his life and stop angering his children.
In this matter, I admire the attitude of Wu Wenjie’s wife.
She saw the wrong person at first, but when she found out that the other party was a scumbag, she was able to take her children away bravely and use her own abilities,Protect the healthy growth of children.
Judging from the attitude of children, they are all kind people, which is enough to show that their mothers give them a sense of security.
Here I also want to tell female friends that we may not be able to see each other at a glance, but we must learn to protect ourselves. If we find that we are not entrusted by others, stops the loss in time, which is also an option.
In the book " Intimacy ", there is such a concept " Journey of Disillusionment".
Psychologist Christopher believes that when a relationship encounters problems, it is actually a good time for us to introspect.
When you introspect, you will find that there is a problem with a relationship. It is like walking to a triangular wall. The three walls represent the victim, the persecutor, and the savior. These three walls also represent three This kind of thinking, many people will linger in it, and produce negative, angry and other emotions.
is the "I hate you, but I can't leave this home" in the relationship between husband and wife. The reason is because I can't let it go.
Over time, the negative emotions between husband and wife accumulate more and more, not only the problem is not solved, but the child is hurt.
At this time, learns to jump out of the frame is a very important thinking. Only by learning to cross the wall and jump out of this triangle can you get rid of your past cognition and think from another angle. Where is the human problem?
For example, Wu Wenjie’s wife, she gave her husband a chance, and found that the other party refused to change, so she simply left. It may be difficult at first, but life will definitely get better and better.
With her efforts,The son has grown up, has a stable job, built an independent yard, and bought a car. The living conditions are very good. The daughter is also successful in school. After graduating from university, he started an internship and his future is bright.
Therefore, we always say that choice is very important. Before entering a marriage, you must carefully examine the other person’s personality. If there is a character problem, you can’t marry no matter how much gift you give. Generally, it will bring you a good life in the future.
Of course, if you find the wrong person halfway, you must also learn to re-examine the relationship. If you find that you cannot change the other person, you can choose to separate to reduce the possibility of yourself being hurt.
Sometimes it is harder to choose to give up, but it's worth it.
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