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I am 20 years old and I am in my sophomore year.
Boyfriend is 26 years old. He has been together for two years. He lives next door. The family knows each other but have never met.
My boyfriend was unemployed last year because of the epidemic. I recently went to another place to find a job. Four to five thousand a month.
Last week’s winter vacation, I told my mother to go out to find my boyfriend for five days, because his salary was not one month longer and he had to pay the car loan and pay the rent, so I didn’t play much during the few days I went. , Just eat better, more than 100 a day.
So, I'm not willing to let him buy me the ticket back, but the ticket to go was bought with his money, and then the ticket to go home was given by my aunt out of town. I went to the aunt the day before I returned. Stayed at home for one night, and she drove me to the station the next day.
Then my mother suddenly asked me why I didn’t let my boyfriend buy the ticket back for me. I said he didn’t have much salary, and I didn’t want him to pay any more. They all use his money.
My mother said that what's the point of your talks? You don't even get a ticket. If he has no money, why did you go to him at the time.
Then we argued for half an hour, she felt that my boyfriend should pay all the money. If there is no money, he shouldn’t let me go. I’m really speechless like my mother.
Before, she always said let me find a rich person to fall in love. I have said several times about the kind of "I also want to find rich people, but they look down on me." "The door is not right." Tell her the truth of .
But she still thinks that I just want to find rich people, and the boyfriend I am talking about is not so good.
And now, I really don’t know if it’s my mother’s problem or my problem, or my boyfriend is really not good enough. I used to watch netizens say that they should listen to their parents when they fall in love.They all experienced it and saw it more realistically, so, I am so confused and upset now.
-02-
Your question is very simple, it means don’t use your family money to fall in love.
Calculated by age, he graduated from college for two years and was with high school students. Now he has been working for a few years, and even a student pays the fare to go home. Your mother was originally dissatisfied with you to find him , Even more dissatisfied with spending their own money.
The economy is not independent, and your mother reaches out for money. Isn't it just to tolerate her finger-pointing to you? At the age of 20, dating is not just about spending needs. Isn’t it normal for parents to be dissatisfied? Besides, I ran to my aunt's house and asked my aunt to buy a ticket?
Don’t talk about whether your mother’s three views are correct, the core problem is that you are not financially independent.
To be realistic, except for "let you find a rich man" in the article, your mother has no problem.
Maybe you are still a student, so you can't think of too much. What your mother considers is your quality of life in the future. Poor couples are the experience of the older generation for many years.
If you really like this boyfriend, let him do something that your mother can value, otherwise, don’t say anything. The economic base determines the superstructure.
-03-
At the age of 26, I only earn 4,000 or 5,000, and still have to pay the car loan? He is so poor. It's normal for your mother to look down on him. Why do you like him again? All kinds of saving money for men, the love brain is really nothing good.
I think my mother is right. I don't have money to meet or talk about love.
You are 20 years old, and you need your aunt to buy you a ticket.
I have no money to make good money,Don't bother your family, you are all over 18 years old.
Mom thinks well. Unless you make your own money and go out with him, don't dislike your mother's thinking.
I'm 20 years old. When I fall in love, I have to buy a ticket from my parents or even my aunt? In all respects, he is very considerate of her boyfriend, but he doesn't care about what his dear mother said, and sooner or later he will realize the hardship of reality.
If you want to be free, please be independent first. If you want your mother to agree, please show your sincerity.
Your mother is right, you are still a little young, and you are satisfied if you think that a man will give you a better meal, and you can give yourself selflessly to a man without any shortage. When students are in love with other members of society, they should pay more attention to protect themselves.
Obviously, mother feels that this man is neither good enough financially, nor loves you enough, you are destined to be a waste of time and affection with him.
However, if you say this to you, you won’t be able to hear it, so you can only give you more attitude.
Falling in love is not for you to be considerate of your partner. If you are not happy once, there is no need to play for the second time. Have you ever thought about going home without money before going?
If you can't afford it and you don't want to count on a man, you should not do things you can't afford.
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