Recently, in Tongren, Guizhou, a car hit the guardrail late at night and the whole body was "pierced".
The trapped man reluctantly asked the firefighter many times: "Save my wife first." Fortunately, the co-pilot woman was not injured.
allegedly, just as the firefighters were preparing to rescue the trapped man, the man came to his senses, endured the pain, trembled and cried, and repeatedly asked the firefighters to "Save my wife, save my wife...". The
man had a quick tone and was a little excited. The firefighters hurriedly comforted him: "The woman in the passenger cabin is okay, not injured, and is already outside the car. Don't worry."
At present, the man has been discharged from the hospital. He told the media: " I have a deep relationship with my daughter-in-law. When I was sober, I asked the firefighters to save the daughter-in-law first. It felt nothing but a man’s instinctive reaction.”
Today, when wife murders are frequent, this kind of news makes girls who fear men feel a little bit of news. Comfortable.
Many netizens said: I believe in love again! Some netizens sighed that such a man is rare in the world. The heroine must have saved the galaxy in her previous life, and this life can meet this beloved.
However, reality is not a fairy tale. How many loves that depend on life and death have finally come to an end.
My cousin and sister-in-law are a pair of friends. They love it vigorously and make a noise.
finally got the divorce after ten years of trouble. Coincidentally, a few days after finishing the divorce procedures, the two of them were hit by a large truck when they went out to work. The first thing after
cousin woke up was to ask how cousin was?
When he learns that his cousin has an intracranial hemorrhage and is in the ICU, and the perpetrator is uninsured and unable to pay for medical expenses, the cousin will take out his savings without saying a word and give the doctor a word, no matter how much money he spends, he must keep it For his life, even if he becomes a vegetable, she is willing to take care of him for life.
Under the careful care of his cousin, the cousin turned the crisis into peace and basically returned to normal.
At that time, we all felt that the cousin was affectionate and righteous. After this incident, the two of them would definitely be able to reconcile and grow old together.
turned out a year later, the two really separated.
I asked my cousin why afterwards? He said: "Your cousin is a good person. I am grateful to her for the rest of my life, but I just want to go home and have a bite of a hot meal. When I am tired, I have a quiet home for me to rest. Your cousin is very gentle now, no matter how late I am. When I go home, I have hot meals, and I can always listen to me quietly." From the experience of my cousin and sister-in-law, not every pair of lovers who live and die can go for a long time.
is sometimes because of feelings, sometimes because of character, and sometimes just to show the mental state at that particular point in time.
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What kind of people will meet with fate?
1. Deep feelings
For example, if parents love their children, if there is a need, most parents are willing to exchange their lives for their lives, at all costs in exchange for the health and safety of their children.
This is physiological instinct, and it is something that does not need to be considered at all.
If love wants to reach this depth, or it is still in the passion period, you can give everything for the other party, including life.
For example, when Jack and Ruth are in the most fanatical stage of love, they have to leave the hope of life to each other, and they have composed a passionate love swan song.
is also this kind of love that is written most in various film and television dramas and books. Romeo and Juliet, Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, all praised this kind of love between life and death.
The other is that the two have established a deep trust, believing that each other will make the best choice for themselves and their family.
2. A man with a sense of mission
said in the news: “I have a deep relationship with my wife. When we were sober, we asked the firefighters to save her. It felt nothing. It was a man’s instinct.” The instinct of
was to save himself first. , But the man’s instinctive reaction was to save his wife first. On the one hand,
shows that he has deep feelings for his wife, and on the other hand, it also shows that he is a responsible person.
As a man, he feels that he has the obligation to protect his wife and children. This sense of mission has been burned in his heart and melted into his blood.
More than ten years ago, my father was critically ill. The doctor said that only 5% of the hope could survive, but the corresponding effort wasA lot of money.
My mother had a belief at that time, saving my dad at all costs, even if there is only a glimmer of hope.
The love of the parents' generation is more of inevitable family affection. Her only idea to treat my dad is not to let the child be without a dad. This is her sense of mission as a mother.
3. People who have no bottom line
girlfriend Xiaoyan had many suitors when she was in college, and eventually she chose the shameless Xiaochang.
She said that Xiaochang is the one who loves her the most, because he can do anything for her, including giving his life.
However, after marriage, he changed a bit. He could do anything for her, but cursing, controlling, and domestic violence were all included.
When it's good, I can't wait for the stars to be taken off. When it's bad, I can say anything vicious.
Every time Xiaoyan filed for a divorce, he forced him to death and staged a farce of jumping bridges, jumping buildings, and drinking medicine. Every time, the reason is that he loves Xiaoyan too much and is afraid of losing her.
Xiaoyan wanted to reform and save her lover at first, but after years of entanglement, she made up her mind to leave. What was left to her were hundreds of thousands of debts and a broken heart.
She said: It's terrible to be alone without a bottom line. It's time to end this nightmare. A person like
is essentially a person who has no bottom line. He can freely deliver his own life or end the lives of others.
They may commit a serious crime once they lose control of their emotions. This kind of person is the kind of person we should stay away from, but in real life they are the most.
Staying away from such people is our only way to protect ourselves.
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What kind of love can really go in the long run?
1. A full understanding of
can be arbitrarily said, without understanding, there must be no love.
I always remember what my cousin said to me. She said: "I don’t understand him, so what about life and death, it’s no better than a few good words from others." Why is
someone who can trust life and death, but can’t make it lifetime? What my cousin
wants is three ordinary meals a day, cold and warm. But what the sister-in-law can give is wonderful dare to love, dare to hate, and vigorous.
is like I love small noodles, you must force me to eat seafood.
A lot of love starts too suddenly, love at first sight and get married in three days, it is not loving each other, it is the imagination of loving yourself.
If you love someone, you must understand him. Like Teacher Leng Ai said, everyone wants to be seen.
We need to be able to really see the other half, understand his thoughts, understand his love and hatred, understand the real him, and not just live in our own imagination.
2. Three views compatible
Recently, the sister of a friend broke up again. This is her seventh time to break up. A friend of
asked why. She said that I like to eat durians, and he hates durians.
friends can’t laugh or cry: “Where can I find someone who is in full tune with you? Prepare to be single for a lifetime.”
We often hear that our friends break up because of the discrepancy of three views.
is either a disagreement in personality, a disagreement, a different attitude towards life, or a different outlook on money. But can't you love each other because of these disagreements?
The three views are in good luck, and the compatibility of the three views is the realm we should pursue.
I love to eat durians. You hate durians, but I never force you to eat them. It is enough if you allow me to eat them.
You love to go out and play, I like staying at home, but I don’t ask you to stay with me, it’s enough if you don’t drag me out.
I love to buy, buy, buy, you are diligent and thrifty, but you don't restrict me, it's enough to spend money within your ability.
3. Make progress together
A few years ago, I went hiking with my husband. My physical strength is not as good as his. He needs to wait for me and pull me. When
took a break, he sighed: Love is like climbing a mountain. Two people want to go all the way. Either the slower struggles to catch up, or the faster slows down. If you think about it carefully, all love that can reach the end is evenly matched: you are good, and I am not bad. If
are two peopleThey are all walking in place, no one dislikes anyone, but love always seems to lack some taste.
Because the first love is in a fresh period, the two people are both full of curiosity about each other, and constantly explore everything about each other. One day when they are almost exploring, the two will get bored.
If you can't find something that makes the other person always curious at this time, then the two people will no longer have the feelings of the past, and the lack of it is freshness.
At this time, many people are lamenting that life is like a stagnant pool, with no taste or hope. But you know, this stagnant water also has half your credit.
If one party makes great progress, the other party will stand still. As time goes by, the distance and barriers will grow.
You can't get involved in his affairs, he can't help you with your difficulties, and you can't even chat together. How to keep love fresh?
When the gap between two people gets bigger and bigger, the final outcome is likely to be a breakup, rather than the other party spoiling you more.
Just think about it, who would be willing to find a partner who will only hold back?
People like freshness, especially in love, and a very important way to keep love fresh is the mutual progress of both parties.
You work hard for your dreams, and he is also working hard for life; he takes you over the mountains, you take him to appreciate the scenery.
He participates in every choice in your life, and you support every difficulty in his career.
Love is blended and sublimated in every participation and company. No one knows him better than you, and no one knows you better than him.
The only constant in the world is change. Feelings will not stay the same, and life will not be like this every day.
The best way to maintain true love is to make progress together.
Don’t walk too fast by one person while the other is still asleep; don’t kiss another person on tiptoe.
may be cruel to some people, but this is reality.
Those who have gone through many years, but the feelings have only increased, they have been on the road, and their steps are firm and unified.
Let us embrace change and make progress together!
Author | Long Shuang National secondary psychological counselor, senior aroma therapist, more than ten years of aromatherapy experience, focusing on balancing the physical and mental health of visitors.
