Xiao Chen is a warm-hearted girl. When she first got married, she was full of confidence and thought that as long as she was in her position, her mother-in-law would not deliberately have trouble with herself. So she treated her mother-in-law as a mother from the beginning.
's first year of marriage, in time for Mother's Day. Xiao Chen bought a bag of about 300 for his mother, but bought a gold necklace for her mother-in-law for 3,000 yuan.
When she was sent to her mother-in-law with joy, her mother-in-law said with disgust that the style was not beautiful.
Although Xiao Chen didn't feel like it, he didn't say anything. After
, she will still buy clothes for her mother-in-law, but her attitude is neither cold nor cold.
Later, Xiao Chen became pregnant. When the mother-in-law knew that she was pregnant with a girl, she lost her face on the spot.
Xiao Chen said that I had to bear it, and she was about to give birth later, and her mother-in-law said that she was unwell and could not take care of her confinement.
So, Xiao Chen invited the concubine, and her mother-in-law was happy to cook a meal, and she went out to play when she was upset.
Xiao Chen recalled: “It’s fine if she doesn’t help! She still troubles me, dislikes the nanny I’m looking for, doesn’t work, and messes with her clothes. In fact, fortunately, during that time it was the nanny taking care of me. It’s going to go crazy.” At
, Xiao Chen’s husband was at work, and her parents were busy at work. One time, Xiao Chen’s father was worried about a business trip, so he called her mother-in-law and asked her to spend more time to take care of Xiao Chen. But after a few days, her mother-in-law said to Xiao Chen, "It's her own child. The cat's cat hurts, and the dog's dog hurts."
Xiao Chen almost scolded back after hearing it, but she resisted it. What made Xiao Chen even more angry was the double standard behavior of her mother-in-law.
Once, the mother-in-law said that her daughter was angry at her husband's house and had a fight with her husband.
Xiao Chen asked her brother-in-law, why did she quarrel with her aunt? Unexpectedly, my brother-in-law said directly: "Your good sister doesn't care about anything at home, she doesn't bring children, and doesn't do housework. He plays with friends, friends, friends, except for going to work. After Xiao Chen talked to her mother-in-law, the mother-in-law said confidently," Isn't your sister tired to sleep with a child every night? ...What happened to him! "Z1z
Xiao Chen felt speechless after hearing this. His daughter-in-law had to do everything, and her daughter would be tired when she hugged a child to sleep! At this time, Xiao Chen remembered that when she was tired, she asked her mother-in-law to help bring the child. Just say how she brought three children and no one helped me. Xiao Chen said, if it weren’t for my husband’s kindness to me, I would have been divorced more than 800 times. My husband knew him. What kind of virtue is mom, tell me just to ignore her.
So, now Xiao Chen has just opened one eye and closed one eye. When her mother-in-law is too much, she will not politely go back.
Actually, the contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are all It is caused by differences in daily life, different living habits, and ways of dealing with people, which can easily produce various frictions. If they are not handled well, they will affect the relationship between husband and wife. According to relevant statistics, among divorced families in China, About 47% of couples divorce because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is strained. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become an important factor affecting family harmony. So, should the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be divorced?
In fact, if the conditions are possible, living separately with in-laws is the best way , Don’t get divorced unless you have to. It’s not easy for two people to form a family
. There is no problem between husband and wife, but it’s a pity to separate because of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Z1z
. You should live independently. It’s best not to mix things up between your husband’s family and your own family.
In reality, many elderly people like to participate in the trivial chores of their children. For example, if a young couple wants to buy something, the mother-in-law must keep an eye on "no flowers are allowed." Money buys those useless things".
Actually, the mother-in-law thinks that she is an elder, and I have no problem with my son, but I can’t ignore my daughter-in-law, because any decision they make is to live their own little life. At this time, mother-in-law Still not "delegating power", the daughter-in-law will feel that her mother-in-law has not respected herself and interfered too much.
At this time, the role of the husband is particularly important here. As a son, there is no problem in filial piety to the mother, but we must pay attention to the method.law. How to prevent the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from becoming sensitive? A man must have a consciousness, you must have a basic cognition, you are married, you have come out of your original family and set up a small family. To grasp the boundaries of getting along well, you can't get along like the previous mode.
To deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband can do this, and without violating the principle, he must take care of his family first and then everyone. You have to respect your wife's contribution to this small family and care about her feelings. Know that the happiness of your little family is the greatest filial piety to your parents.
When there is a disagreement between his wife and mother, the husband must remember to show his mother an attitude. Just tell mother that I will take care of our affairs and leave it to me. Please don't interfere. Don't avoid problems or stay silent.
As a daughter-in-law, you don't want to throw all the problems to the other party, blindly complain about the other party. You have to understand the quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. On the one hand, you have to rely on your husband to reconcile it. On the other hand, it will also test your ability to handle things.
Women should understand that you have to improve your value and ability, and don't limit yourself to depressing emotions. Regarding the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some women have a wrong understanding of this relationship from the beginning. They believe that "being as good to mother-in-law as mother-in-law can be exchanged for mother-like love." When the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be changed, she will say "Mother-in-law is not mother".
In fact, a girl has to realize that a problem is that you and your mother-in-law have a life intersection because of your husband. She is your husband's mother and an elder. All you have to do is to respect her politely, don't expect to ask her to be like your own mother, keep a proper distance, and leave it to your husband to deal with if there is something, which is best.
So, don't complain and torture each other at the same time, believe that there is always a solution to the problem, of course, the premise is that you and your husband are in the same camp. The tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law does not have to be divorced. If there are many conflicts in life together, we will separate. This will reduce a lot of unnecessary friction.
