It is said that to save love is to increase value, but why can't I save it?

I believe that when many friends look up ways to save love on the Internet, they often see that there is a link in saving love, which is called value enhancement. Some people will ask, what is called value enhancement, is it as long as the value is increased, the restoration is Can you succeed? The so-called value enhancement of

is to increase your current value. To put it simply, it is to make you better. You sound like a little vague. How can you make yourself better? Change yourself to a better outfit? Make your life better? These seem to be summed up as "make yourself better".

So in this issue, we will talk about how to properly enhance the value.

To enhance value, we must first know what value contains. In my opinion, value includes three aspects, namely external value, internal value and additional value.

External value is your external image, internal value is your internal characteristics, and additional value is your material status. For example, as we mentioned above, letting oneself change into a better-looking outfit is to enhance external value. After

has figured out the content of value, let’s talk about how to increase value. It has two cores:

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. First, increase the value and find the correct positioning

. In our previous article, we mentioned about saving love. The first step is to find your core contradiction. In the process of enhancing value, it is actually related to this step. You also need to find out your positioning for enhancing value.

For example, you have often quarreled because of your strong style before, and finally broke up because of too many quarrels and too many contradictions. In this situation, how can we increase the value?

First of all, you broke up because of a strong style. At this time, the other party's rating of your intrinsic value is very low, so what you need to improve first is your intrinsic value. Specifically, you can try to empathize when dealing with things, think twice before acting, and don’t worry when dealing with things, etc. The so-called positioning of

to improve value refers to finding the value that you lack at the moment, and when your value is increased, your value judgment in the heart of the other party can rise rapidly.

However, it does not mean that your other values ​​do not need to be improved, but that you can improve the parts that need to be improved first, and other parts should also be improved together.

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Second, there is a limit to improving value

Some friends may ask, since improving value is an inevitable link to save love, is it true that the higher my value increases, the better, and the easier it is to restore success?

is not the case, and there is a limit to value enhancement. The root cause of the cracks in your relationship is that your value is out of balance. At the time of the breakup, your overall value is lower than that of the other party.

And as your value increases, you will find that your overall value slowly increases until it is equal to the other party, and then even a little higher than the other party’s overall value. At this time, if you continue to increase your value, then your Value may become much higher than that of the other party. This is another kind of value imbalance that prevents the other party from recombining with you.

Therefore, there is a limit to increase the value. My suggestion to everyone is that you only need to increase your value to be slightly higher than the other party, so that you can maintain the value of both parties without serious imbalance, but also let you Master the initiative of feelings, after all, people with high value will have more initiative.

The value-balanced love can make you go further, and similarly, you must maintain the value increase when you redeem your love, let your value return to a balanced position, so that the success rate of your redemption will be greater. Promote.