Contemporary college students are a very special group of young people. Personality, openness, and trendiness are their common characteristics, and they are also their constant pursuit of life goals. As college students in the new era, they face the temptation and magical feelings of love. What kind of love concept should be established? Today, Shang Xiaoyang will show you some tips on how to manage your love!
Existing love status and problems
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. It’s said that "a lot of love in the classroom is not open to public
." Couples of young lovers can be seen everywhere in public places such as museums, restaurants, and playgrounds.
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"Fast food" in the love process
Due to the immature thinking of the vast majority of college students, blind love motives, unclear mate selection criteria and other reasons, the original warm and sweet love ends early, and even small contradictions will result Break up with each other; long-term relationships can generally last for more than one year, and short-term relationships can last up to one semester. What's more, after four years of university, there are more people in love than the number of semesters in school, basically every Changing a love partner each semester has truly achieved "a new partner in the new semester."
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Diversified love motives
Most students who have just entered university campuses have a strong psychological need to associate with the opposite sex and to fall in love with the opposite sex they admire. Research has found that most college students are not very clear about the purpose and motivation of love, and they have diverse characteristics. It is true that some students enter the stage of love because of mutual appreciation and admiration, but there are also a considerable number of students who dabble in love only to meet their personal physical needs, eliminate loneliness, or follow the crowd.
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romanticize the form of love
The love of contemporary college students pays more attention to the emotional experience of each other, and most of them pursue happiness in reality. In the process of love, it is very common to give gifts to each other; especially on important days such as Valentine's Day or lovers’ birthdays, many people even plan and prepare carefully in advance. The purpose is to give each other a big surprise. As long as the lovers are happy.
Correct love view
Come and learn!
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clear love standards
college students should put consistent thoughts, common beliefs and pursuits in the first place of love standards, and regard kindness, reason, and responsibility as important standards for mate selection. Therefore, the most important criterion in the selection of lovers should be like-minded.
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must have a sense of responsibility
Many college students experience love with the mentality of "just want to have, not last forever". However, facts have proved that love is a kind of responsibility and requires each other to have a strong sense of responsibility. Only by treating each other with sincerity and living in harmony can we ensure that the love relationship continues to develop in a positive and healthy direction.
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understands that tolerating
love is a double-edged sword, it can not only bring people a happy experience, but also cause harm in many ways. If both parties in love cannot take care of each other with a tolerant attitude, once a conflict arises, not only will it be difficult to solve the problem effectively, but both parties will also be harmed. Therefore, both parties in love should have more understanding, trust and tolerance, respect each other and make progress together.
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Correctly handle the relationship between love and schoolwork
Love is an important part of life, but not the whole content. Therefore, once college students enter the stage of love, love and academics will naturally become the main problems they have to face. The proper handling of love relationships can promote learning efficiency between each other; improper handling may waste time, distract energy, and affect grades. If the problem is serious, it will lead to school waste and failure to graduate normally.
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do self-esteem and self-love
Generally speaking, it is inevitable that there will be direct or indirect physical contact with each other during love, and the emotional communication between the two lovers has not reached the point of deepening each other’s souls. Therefore, do not dedicate your most precious things prematurely. Things, in many cases, sticking to and maintaining the sense of obscurity and mystery between each other is conducive to the continuous sublimation of love.
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Cultivate the ability to deal with frustrations in love
As we all know, love is not all smooth sailing, it must experience various setbacks and failures. Perhaps it is due to character problems, or the discordance of the three views, it is inevitable that a series of contradictions and conflicts will occur, which will lead to a serious breakup and break up with each other. When faced with similar situations, as a college student, you must have a strong ability to face and withstand love setbacks, improve your cognition in a timely manner, and adjust your own abilities in time through positive language cues or emotional catharsis. Emotions, don’t seriously affect your normal life and study because of a momentary setback, let alone become "discovered in love" or even hate love because of a broken love. The key to understanding love is to meet the right person at the right time. People who do not need to confirm their eyes and gradually become happy.
If I love you--
is never like a climbing trumpet flower,
will show off with your high branches;
If I love you--
I will never learn the infatuated bird
is a song that repeats the monotone of the green shade; z2 zz 0 z Since Shu Ting's "To the Oak"
, love is desirable, because he will teach people to cherish, love, and give for each other's happiness. This is the highest level of human interaction. As college students, we need to promote like-minded love, but we must also pay attention to the correct handling of the relationship between love and school work, develop a correct concept of love, and ultimately harvest a beautiful love.
