However, if falling in love is so simple, there won’t be so many people who are single and lonely, there won’t be so many people who are sad and crying after a breakup, and there won’t be so many people who give sincerely but who are always in love. .
Falling in love is not enough just by feeling, but also by knowing how to talk to each other in order to get more happiness for each other , not in vain.
If you want to talk about a relationship that does not break up, and want to keep your relationship sweet from beginning to end, you must try to avoid the following three behaviors that are most likely to lead to breakup.
1. Always thinking about changing each other
Many people not only pursue perfection in their career and life, but also demand demanding in their relationships. They always want to change their lover’s thoughts, behaviors and habits, and expect the other party to do what they want.
"Your beard looks really sloppy, shave your beard clean!"
"Can you stop making noises when you eat, it sounds unappetizing."
"Your skirt is too short, go quickly Change clothes!"
"Can you go home directly after get off work, don't always hang out with your friends and friends so late."
think about it, you want to change the other party's place, is it really the other party doing something wrong? Is he really not good enough?
Actually, most of the time we try to change another person, just to fulfill our selfishness. Those things that you can't accept, such as growing scumbags, making noise when eating, wearing short skirts, coming home late... are these behaviors really bad?
may not be right, it’s just that these things are contrary to your living habits and aesthetic perception. You just can’t accept that the other party’s expectations are different from your own, and you are trying to transform the other party into your ideal look.
ask yourself, is he really the one you love? Or do you love him and become the lover of your imagination?
2, always waiting for the other party to take the initiative
Most girls will have a thought, if they are too easily obtained by a man, then she will definitely not be cherished, and will lose the right to speak in the relationship.
Therefore, girls will always "hang" the man intentionally or unintentionally, trying to catch it, willing to say "no" in the heart, obviously like but refuse, deliberately pretending to be cold and careless, always waiting for the man to take the initiative.
But men are just mortal bodies. They have heart, lungs, and feelings. They will feel tired after taking the initiative for a long time.
If after every quarrel, you have to wait for the man to coax three or four times before reluctantly showing a smile, and treat you indifferently, then sooner or later the man will be disappointed and leave.
Love is a kind of psychological feeling that needs to be expressed through words and actions. If you always hold love in your heart, and can't let go of your figure and face to take the initiative to show you good, how can the other person feel your love? After
takes a long time, the other party will feel that his initiative will never get your response. There are still "reciprocity exchanges" among ordinary friends, but falling in love with you is just like his unrequited love.
3, I always ignore the details of getting along.
Recently, a friend broke up in love. He complained to me: I neither gambling or drinking nor cheating on domestic violence. I have never made a principled error in my relationship, just because sometimes I have no scruples about getting along. It's just the feelings of the other party, why does it make it to the point of breaking up? In his opinion,
ignores the details of getting along in the relationship. These are all trivial matters that can be solved peacefully. There is no need to make a fuss. Z1z
does not know that most of the relationship breakdown in reality is not because of principles, but is defeated by the details of life.
Look at those couples who want to break up, how many of them are because of cheating and domestic violence? On the other hand, for those who have been domestically abused or derailed, how many victims have taken the initiative to break up?
In fact, those who really break up and decide to break up are often caused by unpleasant things and uncomfortable getting along with them. However, feelings that really made mistakes of principle rarely broke up.
Therefore, don't think that the little things in your relationship will not be ignored. Except for the few strong winds and waves, the remaining decades of getting along are trivial details.
Z5z sesame small things can touch a heart, and can also destroy a relationship.
Entering love is very simple. As long as the eyes are aligned, you can immediately fall into a sweet quagmire, but it is a technical job if you want love to maintain a beautiful feeling.
wants to talk about a good relationship. The best strategy is to learn the ability to love and master the methods and skills of managing love. The middle strategy is to work hard on the ground and provide happiness to each other wholeheartedly.
If you can’t do both the best and middle policies, then you can learn to learn the next, try to understand the misunderstandings of love as much as possible, and find ways to avoid these behaviors that can easily destroy relationships and lead to breakups.
make a little progress every day, you can definitely reap your own happiness!
