: A wife who has been married for many years becomes a wife. When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many people will frown unconsciously, as if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is incompatible. The mother-in-law always feels that the daughter-in-law has robbed the son she has raised since childhood, while the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law is too nosy and affects the life of the couple. Coupled with some trivial matters in life, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are inevitable.
Recently, in the popular online variety show "New Diary 2", GAI’s wife Wang Siran had some unpleasantness with her mother-in-law, but when a crowd of netizens were waiting to eat melons to watch a good show, they were caught by GAI and Wang Siran. The "milk-covered couple" was caught off guard and sprinkled a handful of dog food.
The incident happened when Wang Siran had just finished his confinement and took the baby home. The family waited and waited for the baby to come home. Naturally, it is indispensable to want to look more and talk to the baby. Cultivate feelings. But this also resulted in people always coming in and out of Wang Siran's room.
As a novice mother, we know that the body is still relatively weak just after confinement and needs more rest. Coupled with the influence of hormone levels, the mood changes are also relatively large. On the one hand, Wang Siran didn't want everyone to see his fragile appearance. On the other hand, there are always people coming in and out of the room, and it is inevitable to be embarrassed when feeding the baby. This makes Wang Siran feel like an animal in a zoo and feels very uncomfortable.
Therefore, Wang Siran, who wanted to be "just alone", finally couldn't stand it. Facing the emotionally erupting new mother, Wang Siran's mother-in-law said nothing, closed the door and left. As the husband and son of GAI, Z1z
smelled the unusual meaning. After understanding what happened, his operation was truly a "textbook", which made many netizens admire.
First, he immediately went downstairs to coax his parents who had just endured Wang Siran's emotional outburst, and explained to his wife: "Because she thinks she is still a little girl." "I told her, you two will meet I love her and will tolerate her." Z1z
After comforting his parents, GAI ran back to the room non-stop to coax his wife: "You are very beautiful today. You are not like a mother at all, you are still my little baby." "My parents and I have been vaccinated. Your hormone levels are a bit unstable and you may lose your temper." After a round of hugs,
: "Don't worry, be good, okay?" "When you breastfeed in the future , We are all going out, no one is allowed to see, including me", while talking and patted his chest to promise: "I can do everything I can do!" Some people say that the best thing a man can do is Love wife. GAI is undoubtedly a textbook-level model. It's no wonder that some netizens will shout in the air: Do you really not consider opening a dad training class?
In fact, the age-old problem of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is indeed weighed on the heads of many families like a big mountain. GAI also said in an interview after the incident: "What I worry most is that I can't be good at this lubricant." One side is his wife, and the other is his parents. They are caught in the middle and are embarrassed.
things are often like this, maybe everyone in the family is out of good intentions, but inadvertently hurt each other. At this time, the husband, as an intermediary and link in maintaining the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, must do a good job at both ends.
So in ordinary life, what can a husband do?
1, in front of your mother, boldly express your love for your wife
Some people may think that they show affection in front of their mother. Isn't this obviously making their mother jealous and putting on shoes for their daughter-in-law?
But it is not. Think about it from another angle. As a husband and as a child of a parent, he shows respect and care for his wife in front of his parents. You can let your parents feel that your husband and wife are truly affectionate and sweet, and your wife can make you happy, so that your parents can rest assured and eliminate the grudge against your daughter-in-law. And as parents, they will take the initiative to help you maintain this happiness.
2. Leave the opportunity to be a good person to your wife
. The little things in life are often more impressive. For example, some husbands give their parents money, but they always like to carry their wives. This invisibly makes it easy for parents to feel that their daughter-in-law refuses to pay for themselves and is too stingy, so the son has to secretly give to himself , This is undoubtedly making his wife a "wicked man."
and if the husbandI can leave this opportunity to be a good person to my wife, and after discussing with his wife, the wife will come forward to give the money. On the one hand, letting parents know the status of their wives in their own homes, invisibly reflects their importance to their wives. On the other hand, it can also make parents feel that their daughter-in-law actually cares about themselves, so that even if there are some small frictions in daily life, they can also be considerate of each other and not be too careless.
3, do not instruct your wife in front of your parents
Some husbands may be due to the nature of a big man. They feel that teaching or instructing their wives to do things in front of their parents has a special face, which can reflect their masculinity and special status in the family. But I never thought that doing so would actually be an act of disrespect for his wife. It would easily hurt his wife and make his parents feel that they could learn to "bully" their daughter-in-law together.
4. Try to help your wife integrate into your family.
When a wife gets married, she doesn't know her family well at the beginning, and it is inevitable that she feels like an outsider. In this family, the husband is the closest person to the wife. If the husband is not sympathetic to his wife and ignores his wife's feelings, he will blindly accuse his wife when a conflict arises, and even go along with the family and say that his wife is not, which will only make the wife and your family more and more distant.
Therefore, as a husband, he usually works hard to help his wife integrate into the family. When a quarrel occurs, don’t be a complaint megaphone. Instead, you should silence some discordant sounds in your ears and talk more. Good words, so that the wife and family can increase mutual affection, deepen the relationship, and it will be a lot more comfortable as a husband.
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