As the saying goes:
"Raise soldiers for a thousand days, and use them for a while."
When you treat others with a sincere attitude, you actually leave a way for yourself. One day you will use the other party. The other person can also help you.
In life, when we get along with friends, we will follow this principle; in the family, when we get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is also inextricably linked to this principle.
So some mother-in-laws are very kind to their daughter-in-law. Any good-looking jewelry and fun things are first given to the daughter-in-law, and then to their daughter or themselves.
However, some mother-in-laws said:
“I still keep it for my own use. After all, it’s a daughter-in-law and not related by blood.”
We have good mothers-in-law and not-so-good ones around us. Will you be happy?
Many people have questions. A reporter interviewed three elderly people. These three 70-year-olds told the truth.
01. When I was young, I was kind to my daughter-in-law, but my old age was not good. Z1z
Ba Jin said:
"Maybe we will face injustice, maybe we will end up not worth the gain. But everything is just right, even so, there is no complaint. No regrets."
Sometimes we are good to one person, not necessarily in exchange for the other person to be good to us, this is also true in the family. The first old man of
said that when he was young, he was very kind to his daughter-in-law. The old man said that he had two daughter-in-laws, one is the eldest daughter-in-law and the other is the younger daughter-in-law. When
was young, the old man was always very kind to the eldest daughter-in-law, but when the old man got old, he found that the eldest daughter-in-law had no choice but to rely on the second daughter-in-law. The old man
said that at that time, he gave the best to the eldest daughter-in-law, and all the beautiful jewelry was left to the elder daughter-in-law, even his jade bracelet was also given to his eldest daughter-in-law, which was still a family heirloom Passed down from generation to generation.
turned out to be sick after getting old, and the eldest daughter-in-law did not care about herself, only the younger daughter-in-law stayed by her side, caring.
Therefore, the old man said that even when he was young, he was very good to his daughter-in-law, and he would not live well when he was old, because some people just don’t appreciate your kindness, so they won’t take care of you. .
At this time, looking around, there are many people like this. They only know how to take it blindly. They never give others half a point. When others go well, they will get along with others. When others seek themselves At that time, Tao Zhiyao was always Tao Zhiyao. There are also many people around
. When they were young, they were very partial and always treated their eldest daughter-in-law very well, but when they were old, they could only rely on the second daughter-in-law.
Therefore, when you are born, you must treat others fairly. At the same time, you must learn to keep your eyes open and recognize who the other person is.
Smart people know what kind of people are grateful and what kind of people are not grateful. When a person understands this, they will be old-fashioned.
02. When I was young, I was kind to my daughter-in-law, and had a good old age.
The second old man said that when he was young, he was very good to his daughter-in-law and had a good old age. The old man
said that there was only one boy in his family. At that time, he only wanted to rely on his son, so he could only treat his daughter-in-law better. The old man
said:
"When I was young, I was willing to give everything to my daughter-in-law, and treat her as my own daughter-in-law, because I don’t have a daughter, so my daughter-in-law and I are very Kindness. Now I am in my 70s, and my relationship with my daughter-in-law is still very good, and the daughter-in-law takes care of me." Some daughter-in-laws at
still know how to be grateful, provided that the mother-in-law treats herself well.
In fact, there are very few mothers-in-laws in life who treat them as their own daughters, because they are not their own daughters after all.
And then again, even if you treat your daughter-in-law as your own daughter, sometimes you don’t have to be comprehensive, just like we quarrel with our parents or children, so even you Regarding the other party as your own daughter, you may not be satisfied with everything.
butSome people's relationship with their daughter-in-law is so good that they can enjoy family happiness in their later years.
has to say that a successful mother-in-law is to be such a mother-in-law. It is also very happy to be a daughter-in-law for such a mother-in-law.
03. It depends on what kind of person the daughter-in-law is.
People are not the same as people. As the saying goes:
"people don't serve themselves, and heaven will die."
But some people are a little selfish when doing things, but they are still measured, and some people do things without being even right.
has to know the bottom line for everything, but some people have no good heart, let alone talk about the bottom line.
is born, you must keep a kind heart, if you are someone else's daughter-in-law, as long as the other person treats you well, then when the other person is old, you must know how to support each other.
But few people understand this way, and people always regard benefits as very important.
My grandfather was sick a few days ago. As my grandfather’s biological daughter, my aunt didn’t care about grandpa. We were not at home at the time. My aunt called us and said:
"You want to send me tens of thousands of dollars," My dad is sick, and I don’t have any money now.”
Later we almost sent the money, and grandpa called and said: “I’m just a little arthritis. I have already bought safflower oil. I don’t have to pay for it now.”
My aunt asked my father to give herself money by using the name of seeing a doctor for my grandfather, and the lion opened his mouth, which cost tens of thousands of yuan.
So even if some people are their own biological daughters, they have no bottom line to do things that others cannot understand, let alone daughter-in-law.
Meeting a gentle person, meeting a kind person, is commendable, even if the other person has no blood relationship with you, but as long as you are sincere, it is the best thing in the world.
So a smart mother-in-law, she never offends someone who is good to her because of her relatives, because they know that some biological sons and daughters are not as good as their non-born daughter-in-laws.
is born to be a person, we must practice a pair of eyes, we must know what kind of daughter-in-law is worth paying, and knowing what kind of daughter-in-law is not worth paying.
Life is like a journey, life goes round and round, how much love have we paid wrong? In the end, we find that our contribution is not worthwhile, and sometimes we also fail others' goodness to us.
In fact, you have to be kind to people who are good to you anyway. Maybe some people don’t seem to you, so you don’t like the other person very much, but it’s wrong to deny the other person based on this. It depends on whether a person is good or not. ? It still depends on what the other person is doing, not whether the other person is congenial with you.
Some daughter-in-laws are worth paying for the elderly, and some are not worth it.
At the same time, the elderly should leave a way for themselves when they are young, and leave some savings for themselves for the elderly.
