"What should the elderly of the second-girl household do when they get old?" The question asked by this netizen can tell the prejudice in the mind of the questioner from the literal meaning. Why did the second-girl household only be raised? Doesn't the daughter need to support the elderly? However, the question raised by the netizen also revealed the cruel truth. No matter how long society has progressed to the present, gender equality has been mentioned. In rural areas, it is an indisputable fact that the old age depends on the son.
daughters grow up to marry, even if they are not far away, they usually have to be ten miles away. Regardless of the inheritance of the family, the elderly who do not have a son are indeed desolate and embarrassed from the perspective of old-age care alone, but the opposite example is that because they do not have a son, their old-age care plans are properly posted in advance.
01: I am supporting my daughter at my daughter's house, and my daughter is filial, but I really regret not having a son.
Uncle Li is 78 years old today. His wife is gone. He is a little bit inconvenient due to the sequelae of a fall. The two daughters are not far away from the marriage, which is only about 20 kilometers. The daughter is not worried that he is alone, one hand is easy to use, it is inconvenient to cook and do things, and he eats too well. So the two daughters discussed that the family would take turns to live for a year. The son-in-law of
didn't have any opinion, that is, Uncle Li himself was not happy. In his village, when nothing happened, a few old people played a small card and squatted their teeth. They were all old buddies from childhood to old age. When I arrived at my daughter’s house, I didn’t have any acquaintances, and even the most terrible ones were all from the village. He seemed out of place as a villager. In the countryside, old people without sons would be called "dead households", which is hard to hear. Living in my daughter’s home for the elderly, I feel that wherever I go, I’m announcing that I’m a dead account. If someone doesn’t know him, anyone who knows him will introduce his father-in-law.
Rural men have a characteristic. They like to make fun of the term Lao Zhangren behind their backs, as if the term Lao Zhangren is a curse.
He lives in his daughter's village, and he wears the hat of the old man wherever he goes. He no longer has a name.
thought of being uncles, uncles, grandpas, brothers and brothers in his own village, and in the daughter's village, there was only one identity left, who's father-in-law, he couldn't accept it, and insisted on returning to his village. Even if only one hand cooks rice, she firmly refuses to live in her daughter's house. When
can't take care of herself, let her take turns to take care of her parents, he thought.
But my daughter lives in her natal family to take care of her parents. It really affects normal life. There are a lot of things at home.
02: If you don't have a son, you have to plan for your old age.
Uncle Zhang also only had two daughters, but because he knew that daughters are not as easy to rely on as sons when he was young, he worked harder to make money. Unlike some people who only give birth to daughters, they don’t have to build a house for their son and marry a wife. Easy.
He didn't think so. Without a son, he had to plan for his old-age insurance. When the old-age insurance started in rural areas, it cost tens of thousands of yuan per person and both the old couple bought insurance.
In other people’s old age, when they asked for a few hundred yuan in living expenses for their children, their old couple could receive two to three thousand yuan a month. Together with the diligent farming, they were not only self-sufficient, but also left.
After the two daughters bought houses in the county towns one after another, Uncle Zhang took out a sum of his savings and his daughter added a little bit to buy a small house near her daughter. A hundred years later, the two daughters are divided equally.
The old couple moved to the county seat afterwards, guarding their daughters, and bringing children to them. Both daughters are also filial and filial. They are only five minutes away from their daughter's residence.
03: The three daughters take turns to provide for the elderly.
gave birth to three daughters. In his later years, he was bedridden with a fracture. Only three daughters took turns to take care of them. The three daughters were married quite far apart, and they were tens of kilometers apart. The conditions were not good. Because of poor physical condition, they had to discuss for three months in turn There is no car, and every time I change my daughter’s house, I use an agricultural tricycle to pull it.
once encountered continuous rainy weather. When it was time to change houses, the weather had been bad. It had been delayed for three or four days, and the weather was still showing no signs of goodness. Naturally, the daughter would not say anything, but the son-in-law was unhappy, and finally Still sent away, a large piece of plastic cloth was covered on the tricycle, and it was sent from this daughter's house to another daughter's house. The road was muddy everywhere.
has to insist on sending it away in such bad weather, which shows that the son-in-law's adoptive mother-in-law is also very unhappy.
Aunt Lin andPeople say it’s better to live like this than to die.
is written at the end:
aside from the people in the city, in the city, the difference between children should be small. In the countryside, it is unavoidable that the son is more "useful" than the daughter. Even if they are not filial, it is convenient for the son to stay by , Even if the daughter is filial, it will be inconvenient to stay away from home if she marries.
Therefore, rural people are still very patriarchal. The fundamental reason is that when their daughter grows up, she has to leave her own living environment to marry her husband. If the elderly follow to provide for the elderly, they also have to go to other people's villages. There will be many discomforts.
Living in the city will not have this concern at all. You can buy a house together. There is no such thing as a daughter marrying to her in-law’s family. There are villagers from her in-law’s family.
Everyone is stranger to each other when going out, on the contrary, there is no sense of incompatibility as a foreigner.
Therefore, rural people who only give birth to daughters still try their best to move to the city to live for the elderly. The rural environment is really unfriendly to the elderly without sons.
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