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01
When I was still in school a few years ago, I would sell things on campus every night. Once I went to Yiwu to buy goods. While waiting for the train at the train station, a man and a woman made a big fight. The woman scratched the man dozens of times. After that, I yelled, "I loved you and waited for you. You don't cherish it, but now you say you can't bear it. What do you think of me? I'm not your dog. I can't let you call it! "Z1z
I was so impressed because I happened to be disappointed during that time. I also waited and hoped, but I finally got nothing. At that time, I saw that the two of them were separated, the woman cried and ran away, and the man slammed his chest. I was very touched by the side.
Love is always beautiful at the beginning. Both people believe that they will be together forever. However, not everyone can go on without forgetting their original intentions. Some people will be careless when they love halfway through, some will change their hearts when they love halfway through, and some people, although they have not forgotten their original intentions, but due to the pressure of reality, they have to choose give up.
The first few unhappy situations, it doesn’t matter if you are unhappy at the end anyway, and the last situation is forced by the pressure of reality, I think if you want to break up, even if you can’t get together and get together, It's better not to lack respect. You can't bear the realistic pressure to explain to the other party, it can be regarded as benevolent.
02
once talked to S about the topic of affection, she said, “The older you are, the more you have to be more savvy. In this life, a more sloppy will lead to success.”
Because I am not sure of what I understand, talk to her. Whether the understanding of the fetishism is the same, so I want to hear her explanation. She started to explain it from her own emotional experience:
"The fetishism is not ruthless, it is relative to the infatuation when she was young. Once I, like many people, value love very much. Not only did I decide to be with a man forever after I had love, but also I have been dreaming about it and working hard for it. However, the result was different from what I expected, and it happened to respond to that sentence. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.
Don’t look at this sentence with only eight words. Everyone who has experienced it knows that this is an unforgettable feeling. For me, all the psychological construction I have done all the time, at the moment of disappointment, all collapsed.
At that time, my relationship with my ex-boyfriend had reached the point of discussing marriage and marriage. At that time, there were two alternatives: Either their family did not give the bride price, but they had to be solely responsible for the related matters of buying the house; or the bride price, we both Home share. However, the mother-in-law did not agree to these two plans. She did not want to give the bride price, but also wanted to share the house purchase between the two families.
I didn't just do what I wanted, but asked for his opinion. He said that he would choose the second plan and that he would definitely convince his parents. I believed him, and after that I waited for the result, but at this time, he broke contact with me and disappeared.
I have waited, hoped, and the trustee has looked for him, but he never sees me and does not contact me. This is a unilateral breakup for me. What can I do? I can only break up. I don't want to trouble him. It's all my benevolence!
If he really loves me, values me, and wants to marry me, he can't do this to me. If he really loves me, and then I will go on a blind date with others, confirm the relationship, and prepare to get married, it is impossible for him not to hear about it or to remain indifferent. That being the case, why should I be nostalgic, why should I be infatuated, of course I have to look forward, of course, to welcome the marriage that truly belongs to me.
Sadly, after I got married, he showed up and said to me like a okay person, "My mother agreed to give the bride price, let's get married!"
I asked him, "Are you stupid or pretending to be stupid?" I’m already married and married to someone else, don’t you know? Now that you say you want to marry me, what is it? Do you think I’m a bully? Do you think I can’t live without you? I think I will get a divorce right away. Are you marrying you? Don’t you think that your behavior is naive and ridiculous?"
His words made me realize that I am not wrong with him, because he said, "I never said not to marry you , I never said that my mother wouldn’t give the bride price, why didn’t you wait for me, why couldn’t you wait to marry someone else?”
I really wanted to slap him at the time, but just think about it and let it go, instead telling with anger he,"I waited for you, but you just pretended not to know. Our chat records can prove that I have sent you countless messages, called you countless calls, and asked friends to find you. It is because you do not care about it. Reason, why should I say that I’m not waiting for you? I’m not impatient to marry someone else. I only marry someone else after I was so disappointed in you, because for me, your love and carelessness is a sign of breaking up, since you I broke up with me unilaterally, so why should I be infatuated!"
He seemed very sad when he left, but I don’t feel distressed at all. Now that I decided to be affair, I must be affair to the end, at least, my affair has already given me Happy marriage, from now on, I will continue to show affection to those who are unworthy, and will not waste my efforts for those who are not worthy! "Z1z
03
Many people who make up their minds are often the same as S. They make decisions after experiencing infatuation and being let down.
is just like some people say that they have to be cruel. If the relationship goes smoothly and the person you love always loves yourself, who wants to become a lover? Passionateness can make you happy, so you must be more affectionate. It is precisely because many people's sentimentality are exchanged for disappointment and do not want to repeat the same mistakes, that's why they decided to be unkind.
Affectionate people often do not show affection to everyone, but, as S said, show affection to those who do not deserve their affection, such as those who look down on themselves, such as those who have hurt themselves, It's not good for you to get too close with this kind of person, of course you should be a little more lenient. The reason why
says "In life, you learn to be cherished, and then go smoothly" is because affable allows you to screen out those who are worth cherishing, and allows you to weed out those who are not worth cherishing. When your life only has value Meaningful people and things naturally go along.
If you really love someone, I don't want you to wait until the other person becomes savage because of your betrayal, and then regret it. Since you are in love, you must hold her hand tightly, and if there is a problem, the two people will face it together. It is really forced to separate due to the pressure of reality. You must also explain it with respect so that you will not chill the other’s heart. Finally, leaving some warmth to the other person is the last respect you leave to love.
