Smart people will find a balance between giving and taking. They know that love can bring happiness, but they must also maintain and manage well.
When judging feelings, everyone has their own principles. If you meet a partner who is willing to give and accommodate everything, then you have become the happiest type of person.
We can enjoy the contribution of the other half, and even take the initiative to make some requests. Because the person who truly loves you will always hold you and always put you in his heart.
But the lover’s heart must be coaxed too, always overdrawing his patience, ignoring his feelings for a long time, and asking for it uncontrollably, then his sincerity will also be exhausted.
"You divorced my sister, don't bother me at my house in the future" "Please move away, this is my house"
01. After graduation, Zhou Jun (pseudonym) went to the city to find a job, and his parents used their savings to help him Bought a house. He keeps it in mind that he pays a small half of his income home every month. A few years later, he met Xiaohui (a pseudonym) in a dessert shop.
Xiaohui has a good image and good temper. Every night, she will take home the leftover cakes from the store. When dating, she always pays attention to the clothes worn by her brother. Zhou Jun felt that she was very similar to herself, and both were filial young people from the Gu family. After
identified Xiaohui, Zhou Jun took the initiative to hand over the salary card to her, showing loyalty, and he let the other party free to control. But not long after, he discovered that all the money in Kali had been taken away, and the money that was supposed to be sent to his parents every month had disappeared.
Faced with the questioning, Xiaohui was very impatient: "Didn't you say you let me control it at will? I called my brother the money, and he hasn't found a job yet. Now that you have identified me, don't behave. So stingy!"
02. Zhou Jun was very angry, but at least the money was not spent on outsiders, so he didn't care too much. But when she got engaged, Xiaohui actually asked for 380,000 gifts. Zhou Jun's income is not low, but this requirement is really excessive.
Xiaohui said that the bride price is related to face issues and must not be less, let alone the money can be used to buy a house in the future. In order to consider the overall situation, Zhou Jun chose to agree. After emptying his family, he finally arranged the marriage arrangements. After
got married, the two bought a house with gift money. In life, Xiaohui is very diligent and gentle, but Zhou Jun is under great pressure. Xiaohui sent all the income back to her natal family, and Zhou Jun was solely responsible for the family's expenses and mortgage.
Xiaohui suggested that it was a pity that the suite was empty before, so that her brother could live there temporarily. Zhou Jun was embarrassed to refuse, so he agreed. But after that, he found that Xiaohui's attitude had changed a lot.
03. Zhou Jun ushered in a salary increase, and Xiaohui asked him to pay his mother-in-law 3000 alimony every month. One day, looking at Xiaohui’s cell phone, Zhou Jun saw this message: “Don’t worry, your brother-in-law is soft-hearted, I can fix it, and that suite will be yours sooner or later.” Z1z
Zhou Jun was very chilling. He did not expect his generosity. Only in exchange for calculation. Thinking of Xiaohui's differential treatment of both parents, he was very angry. Soon after, Xiaohui even asked him to donate 100,000 yuan to sponsor her brother-in-law's dowry.
's long-term grievance broke out, and Zhou Jun filed for divorce. When he was about to take back the previous house, Xiaohui’s brother actually stopped him at the door: “You divorced my sister, don’t come to my house to disturb me in the future, I don’t welcome you!”
“This was bought before my marriage. The house, what does it have to do with you? Please move out, this is my house!" Zhou Jun at this time, once again saw the other side's face. This encounter made him relieved.
Yan Yan has something to say:
Zhou Jun is a generous and generous person, but his tolerance and compromise did not return in return. In the marriage, he was not understood and respected, and even became the object of calculation. For him, letting go is a wise choice.
In Xiaohui's mind, family is more important than love. She has repeatedly overdrawn her partner and often takes advantage of the other half's softheartedness. She has regarded love as a stepping stone to family affection. This selfishness and ignorance are destined to make her lose this happiness. After
gets married, we must divert attention as soon as possible. Putting your mind on your new family and treating your lover as the most important person is to harvest a bright future and create a warm atmosphere.The premise of surrounding. Unclear priority is destined to cause contradictions.
Whenever, two people in love must compare their hearts to each other and repay their gratitude. Even if we get married, we must treat each other sincerely. The existence of deception, routines, and too much careful thinking is tantamount to self-destroying happiness.
Appropriate request and return with heart are the prerequisites for harvesting happiness; supervising family members and protecting lovers are the skills of managing marriage; treating each other frankly and coordinating all aspects of the relationship are necessary means to ensure family harmony.
In love, please give up some sense of superiority
is sought after by others and enjoys care. This is indeed a great happiness in life. But if we want to reap a stable and harmonious relationship, we have to let go of our superiority and learn to change and give. All long-term relationships of
must be built on the basis of each other. Don't let those who love you chill, don't let those who care about you despair, take the initiative to maintain, you can keep happiness.
