When life is down, learn to "install"
Life is like a dream, and dreams are like life. The money is gone, the career is gone, the love is gone, all the hard work is wasted! Being alone is like a pile of mud, where do you go?
A life of desolation is called not every day and the earth is not working. I have tried this taste! At that time, no one could think of me, and my friends stayed away one by one. Want to borrow money? No doors! However, the reality is like this. When you are beautiful, many people follow you, and even cats and dogs want to be close to you; when you have nothing, everyone will hide away.
After two years of desolation, I think no matter how bad your life is, you must learn to "pretend".
1. What is "installed"?
First of all, learn to "pretend to be deaf". Cannot hear other people's voices, just do what you should do.
Many people say that since it has failed, why not listen to others’ suggestions? However, will other people's suggestions work? If it is effective, why should he tell you?
In my cognition, I don’t believe in unprovoked opinions and suggestions. When they say those things, they don’t think about taking a little responsibility. If you do what they say, it will be fine. , If it fails, do you want them to settle the accounts? If you find them, they may have forgotten what they said.
Doing more is worse than doing less. At this time, you need to calm down, adjust your mentality, close your ears and pretend to be deaf, treat what others say you haven’t heard, and focus on doing what you should do.
"Pretend to be deaf" is to avoid interference. We must "pretend" to be inaudible to gossip, and we must bear in mind the unfaithfulness.
Secondly, learn to "play dumb". No nonsense, no complaints, no rants, and no deception.
All things are low-key, not publicity. If you like to brag, you should close your mouth and work hard at this time. It's hard for people who talk about it to be recognized by others, let alone when you are down!
There are some things that can be said, some things cannot be said. Don't make promises lightly. If you promise others, you must do it. This is the foundation of doing things.
When some people are in a bad mood, they like to find friends to complain, complain about this, complain about that, talk to others about his misfortune, and look forward to receiving care and sympathy. But what will he get?
What he gets is more sadness, more entanglement and anxiety. His negative emotions will continue to increase, and he will also live in confusion and loss.
Hurry up and stop complaining! The moment you close your mouth is the rebirth of life; the day when you learn to "play dumb", you will find that quiet is so beautiful.
"Pretend dumb" is just to let you not talk nonsense, if you need to promote yourself, please speak freely without hesitation.
Finally, learn to "play dumb". Great wisdom is foolish, modest and prudent, and save more energy.
There is always a reason to fall in life, it is impossible to fail without a reason! At this time, we need to prepare with both hands, while finding the cause while finding the way. However, when we start again, there are not many people who believe in us. How can we win their trust?
must be willing, that is, "play stupid". When we do business with others, we only get the least profit; in partnership with others, we only get the smallest share. Give silently and serve more people. When more and more people say that you are a "stupid", you are not far from success!
Of course, "silly" must be silly cute, "Stupid" only to those who know how to be grateful, and forget it to those white-eyed wolves. We must know people with our eyes, be wise, and keep a clear head at all times.
"Playing stupid" is a kind of wisdom and an attitude of giving in life. As long as you want, you can stay "stupid" forever.
2. Why do you have to learn to "install" when you are down?
No one can stand up to the down and down. Those so-called friends are already very grateful that you have fallen into trouble. Unless he and you are good brothers and firmly believe that you can make a comeback!
We care about the opinions of others, especially when we encounter cynicism, we can't help but feel inferior and even run away. At this time, our mood was very low, we wanted to cry without tears, and our inner anxiety increased little by little. Pain, regret, sadness, and loneliness are all good. If this continues, when is the day to turn over?
Faced with difficulties, all kinds of pressure are coming. Maybe you will worry about debts, maybe you will worry about emotions, no matter what you worry about, your mood will be the worst. At this time, if someone said to you: What if you were like before! How would you answer? Maybe you won't make a voice of denial, in addition to regret, regret in your heart!
Actually, you no longer have any independent opinions. No matter who you hear, it seems to be right. The little bit of your faith also begins to waver, you no longer believe in yourself, your life begins to live in the mouth of others, or you have begun to live for others.
Others told you that you should pay off your debts when you make money, so you go to work and receive a lot of your salary to repay your debts; others teach you not to dream of getting rich, just go to work with peace of mind. You are obedient; others say this woman is almost the same. Get married and have children, you also obeyed. Everything, you have complied with what everyone said, can you turn around?
The answer is obviously no!
At this time, you may have become a walking corpse. The more you live, the less tasteful you are. One of my relatives is like this. His business failed. His parents helped him as a matchmaker and married a wife, and he went to work with peace of mind. However, he divorced within two years, hurting not only the wife but also the innocent children. I sincerely hope that this tragedy will not happen again! Anyone who has no opinion or confidence in himself must pay for his behavior, and it is even more impossible to get up from the bottom.
In the two years when I fell, almost all relatives and friends looked down on me, including my best friend. He said everywhere about me how miserable and impossible There is a day to turn over! I was very angry when I heard it, and I wanted to ask him for a theory, but when I calm down and think about it, it is better to be angry than to strive to be better. When I stood at the peak of my career again, he said to everybody that he had guessed that I would turn over.
If I was irritated by him at the beginning, or was overwhelmed by his saliva, thereby shaking my confidence, I might not be who I am today. Although I am not very successful yet, I believe that the future is not a dream. A person with strong self-confidence will one day pass the period of depression.
I don’t believe that people who are poorer than me can guide my life; I don’t believe that the underwhelmed should be inferior to others; I don’t believe in what others can do and I can’t do it. I only believe that man will conquer the sky!
3. It’s not wrong to fall down, it’s wrong to fall down all the time.
The best time to review is when your life is down. Looking back and reflecting, exploring and improving, one cannot be less, where the heart is, the future is! Whatever you can "pretend", you can live what it looks like.
If you have no money, just "pretend" to be rich! Without a career, "pretend" to be a entrepreneur! "Pretend" to be a happy person without love!
Do you dare to "install"?
"Pretend to be deaf," "pretend to be dumb," "pretend to be stupid", is our best strategy to get out of the predicament. What kind of person you want to become, first "pretend"What kind of person.
When the two armies meet, the brave wins. Zhuge Liang's empty city plan can retreat from the enemy, why can't your "pretend" win?
Everything is possible.
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Teacher Yimu, a dream seeker, talks about life, affects the heart with heart, and changes when you meet!
