Introduction:
html The 262-year-old Aunt Su has an only daughter. This daughter is very beautiful. Many people liked her before she got married. At that time, her daughter said to Aunt Su: Some of the people who like me are richer and some are more educated.
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Aunt Su said: "If I were asked to choose a son-in-law among the rich and educated, I would choose an educated one." Her daughter had a particularly good relationship with Aunt Su since she was a child. After learning her mother's thoughts, her daughter also chose a highly educated person to remarry.
In the end, her daughter, who only had a college degree, married a son-in-law with a doctorate. Aunt Su always felt that having a son-in-law with a doctorate was the thing she was most proud of. Although she had always been satisfied with this son-in-law, she only really got along with this son-in-law last year. After living with her son-in-law with a doctorate for a year, she realized that studying and being a human being were two different things.
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Although her son-in-law is a doctor, he is a bit clumsy in life. After Aunt Su moved into her daughter's house, she discovered that her daughter did all the housework alone.
Let alone cooking. If my daughter is not at home one day, my son-in-law can only eat instant noodles at home. He can't even cook the simplest white rice or stir-fry vegetables. One time, my daughter was sick. Although my son-in-law was at home, he did nothing because apart from studying, he was actually very lazy and passive in life. He didn't know how to take care of patients. Instead, he kept asking his daughter what he should do alone. He was so accustomed to his daughter's care, but when he got sick, he felt like the sky was falling.
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Even though my son-in-law has a doctorate, he is really not as good as his daughter with a college degree in terms of emotional stability. As long as he encounters a slight setback, he will be in a bad mood. Whenever he encounters a little bumpy thing, he will complain. He spends almost 300 days a year in a bad mood because of small things. I originally thought that my son-in-law had a doctorate, so in many cases, the son-in-law should make suggestions and take charge of the daughter's small family. However, it turned out that except for being able to read, the son-in-law was not as good as the daughter in every aspect.
In the past, Aunt Su thought that her son-in-law had a doctorate, so his salary must be high, but when she asked occasionally, she found out that her son-in-law's salary was less than her daughter's, because her son-in-law did not know how to behave in the company and did not know how to deal with interpersonal relationships. Although her daughter only had a college degree, she was optimistic and cheerful, and had a good relationship with her colleagues in the company. Therefore, her daughter had worked for many years, was promoted faster than her son-in-law, and earned more than her son-in-law.
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My daughter gets along very well with the neighbors nearby. She makes delicious food and brings it to the neighbors. She is also willing to help her friends if they need anything. But the doctor's son-in-law, on the contrary, is not a social person. When he goes out to meet his neighbors, he just lives in his own world and doesn't pay much attention to his neighbors. The doctor's son-in-law is very cold towards others.
After living in this year, Aunt Su realized that studying and being a human being are two different things. Although some people are strong in reading, they have nothing to do with success in life. They often only live in their own world and are indifferent to others. They only focus on studying most of the time and lack common sense about life. Aunt Su felt that her daughter's life would be very tiring after marrying her PhD son-in-law, because the son-in-law was like another son and had to rely on her daughter for everything in life.
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Aunt Su once thought that it was something to be proud of for her daughter to marry her son-in-law, who has a doctorate. She thought that this marriage was a sign of the daughter's superiority. It was not until she lived with her son-in-law for a year that she realized that it was not the daughter who was the superior of this marriage, but the son-in-law who benefited more.
I originally thought that my son-in-law had a high degree of education, so the offspring would definitely have high IQs. However, neither of my two grandsons loved studying very much, and their academic performance was very average. Looking at this situation, Aunt Su thought that if she could choose again, she would not choose a son-in-law with a high degree of education, because in Aunt Su's heart, being a human being is actually more important than studying. Every time she sees her son-in-law being clumsy in life and timid in dealing with the world, she feels a little disdain for her son-in-law.
Conclusion:
Therefore, when looking for a partner, you should not only look at the other person’s academic qualifications, but also how the other person behaves. Although some people have high academic qualifications, they seem to be not very good at anything except reading.
Marriage requires not only a diploma from the other party, but also support from the other party in life and worldly matters. For a son-in-law who is not good at anything other than reading and well-educated, then when his daughter marries him, she has to take care of everything, which is very hard for the daughter.
If she could choose a son-in-law again, Aunt Su would choose someone who would not only make money, but also be considerate in dealing with people, so that her daughter would not be under financial pressure when marrying him, and would not have to do everything by herself in life.
