For my father’s 70th birthday, I gave him 20,000 red envelopes and specially prepared a banquet. However, my father scolded me for being unfilial and left the party angrily.
I am Brother Kai. I am 45 years old this year. I am a child from the countryside. My parents are both farmers, and I am the only child in the family. Although my parents didn't make much money, they were very concerned about my studies. They said they wanted me to study and take the college entrance examination even though they were trying to sell everything. I also worked very hard. I had been good at studying since I was a child, and I was basically always first. I was also the only one in my village who was admitted to a key university that year.
I was studying in the city and started working as a part-time student. Later I met my wife, she was knowledgeable, sensible and considerate, but I felt that I was not good enough for her. But she didn't mind my background, and we got married two years after graduation.
Later we opened a company. After all kinds of difficulties, the company finally started to improve. After the company became stable, my wife happened to be pregnant, and she took care of the baby at home. From now on, I will take charge of the outside and she will take charge of the house. However, I will discuss with my wife any major decisions the company makes. We gave birth to two children, a son and a daughter, both of whom are now in junior high school.
When life got better, I bought a two-bedroom apartment in the community and moved my parents over so that I could take care of the elderly.
Last month, it was my daughter’s birthday. We called my parents and we had a great time celebrating together as a family. After my parents left, my daughter suddenly asked me why my grandparents never celebrated their birthdays. We should also celebrate their birthdays.
My daughter’s words reminded me that my father is turning 70 this year. He used to be frugal and didn’t like celebrating birthdays, which he thought was a waste. But now his life is better and he will live a full birthday this year. We decided to give Dad a surprise.
I was originally going to book a banquet at the hotel, but I was afraid that it would be unsafe to eat out and it would be bad if I got infected. It's better to eat it at home, it's my wife's hard work.
My wife was busy from morning to night that day, preparing a table of delicious dishes, including hairy crabs, crayfish, boiled live fish, Dongpo pork, etc., all of which my father loved.
I went to pick up my parents in person. I didn’t say it was for my birthday, I just said that I cooked some vegetables and had a meal together as a family. My parents are very happy. They haven't been out much recently because of the masks. Now I am accompanying them for a walk downstairs in the community. They all feel very happy and they are talking and laughing along the way.
When we got home, a table of dishes was already served. I helped my dad sit down. He was looking at a large table of his favorite dishes and he was very greedy. Mom usually cooks light dishes, and dad can only follow the light diet. In fact, dad likes to eat these the most. Dad kept eating and talking to us cheerfully. We feel very happy to see dad so happy.
I winked at the two children, and they said, "Grandpa, let's do a magic trick for you." With that said, he immediately went into the room and turned off the lights. I only saw two children slowly coming out with a cake. The candlelight on the cake was shining, reflecting the children's faces. We started to sing "Happy Birthday to You..."
The cake was put on the table, and we asked Dad to blow out the candles, but Dad didn't move. Mom smiled and said, "Let's blow together, let's blow together."
The candles went out and the lights turned on. Only then did I realize that my father’s face was ashen, as if a storm was brewing in the dark clouded sky. Suddenly the fiery atmosphere dropped to freezing point.
I quickly took out a red envelope and said with a smile, "Dad, you have worked hard. Take this 20,000 yuan red envelope, and I wish you happiness and longevity."
Dad stared at me with bulging eyes, as if he wanted to eat me. Suddenly, my father tossed the red envelope and cursed angrily: "Unfilial son, you are really unfilial son, you want me to die early, don't you?"
My father pointed at me and cursed, his whole body was shaking with anger, and he kept cursing, and he pulled my mother out of my house. We were left confused, looking at each other.
The next day, my mother came over and told us the reason. It turns out that when my father was a child, someone told him his fortune, telling him that he could not celebrate his birthday in this life, otherwise there would be disaster. So Dad never celebrates his birthday. I always thought that my father was frugal, and I thought celebrating birthdays was a waste of money, which is why I didn’t celebrate my birthday.Didn't expect this.
"But what age are we in now? You can't believe this fortune telling, you have to believe in science."
My mother said: "We are not educated, your dad just believes in this, you just follow him, he is 70, he just believes in it. It's not just a birthday, none of us have birthdays in this life. You young people can just live your life. Don't live ours."
Everyone said, what should I do now? Dad has been ignoring me and is still angry.
Xia Xiaoyu said: Although the old man is superstitious, your mother is right, but birthdays are not a big deal. Your father is old and you have to follow the old man's wishes.
We often love others in a way that we think is good, but we don’t expect to hurt the other person. We thought that the old man could not save his birthday, so we wanted to express our filial piety and wish him a happy birthday, but unexpectedly we touched the old man's inverse scale.
Therefore, good feelings require communication. If there is no communication, we will not know the real reason why the old man did not celebrate his birthday. Without communication, Kai Ge's father would not know that Kai Ge actually had good intentions.
So let’s communicate well and let mom mediate in the middle to let the old man calm down. More communication can allow love to flow smoothly between each other.
Didn't expect this."But what age are we in now? You can't believe this fortune telling, you have to believe in science."
My mother said: "We are not educated, your dad just believes in this, you just follow him, he is 70, he just believes in it. It's not just a birthday, none of us have birthdays in this life. You young people can just live your life. Don't live ours."
Everyone said, what should I do now? Dad has been ignoring me and is still angry.
Xia Xiaoyu said: Although the old man is superstitious, your mother is right, but birthdays are not a big deal. Your father is old and you have to follow the old man's wishes.
We often love others in a way that we think is good, but we don’t expect to hurt the other person. We thought that the old man could not save his birthday, so we wanted to express our filial piety and wish him a happy birthday, but unexpectedly we touched the old man's inverse scale.
Therefore, good feelings require communication. If there is no communication, we will not know the real reason why the old man did not celebrate his birthday. Without communication, Kai Ge's father would not know that Kai Ge actually had good intentions.
So let’s communicate well and let mom mediate in the middle to let the old man calm down. More communication can allow love to flow smoothly between each other.
