Apple founder Steve Jobs once mentioned: "When you grow up, people around you will tell you that the world is like this and cannot be changed. Your life is like this. Just live in the world. There is no need to try too much. Try to cause as little trouble as possible and run into obstacles. Build a happy family, live a happy life, and save a little money. This is a very limited life, and life can actually be broader. Once you find a simple The truth: that everything around you that you call life is made up of people who are not as smart as you. You can change your life, you can influence others, you can create anything you want and make it available to others. Remember that you can change your life, you can reshape it, and that is probably the most important thing. Get rid of that misconception! "Life is like this, you can only endure it", we should embrace it, change it, improve it and leave your mark. Once you discover this, you will not It’s you again!
In today's society, everyone is abiding by a lot of rules. Others are working hard to make money, buy cars, houses, get married and have children. Everyone is telling you that you should live like them, don't talk about your ideals with others, just be a simple ordinary person. In fact, calm down and think about it carefully. All the rules in society are set by people. A weak person always hopes that he can cater to others and gain their favor. Sure, so live like a tamed pet every day. People in different classes have different worldviews. The lower the people are, the less they have their own views. They listen to the rules set by the upper class, learn the examples and moral demonstrations promoted by the upper class, and long for the recognition and help of the upper class. They listen carefully to the teachings of the upper class teacher like a primary school student. With constant repetition, people gradually become smooth and have no edges. Once they make a mistake, they will be sanctioned by the upper class. And mobilized ordinary people who had been brainwashed and lost their individuality to jointly suppress it, so people began to gradually lose themselves and numb themselves with entertainment and games.
What should a strong person do? First, fully understand the rules of society and know which ones are desirable and which ones are oppressive. Therefore, when strong people understand social rules, they will not be afraid of being laughed at by others because they do not understand the rules, and they will not care too much about those who have lost their independent thinking. conformity is nothing but foolish obedience. For example, I know that it is not advisable to be naked on the street, but I will never be afraid of other people’s criticism because of my plain clothes; I know that I should pay when I buy things, but I will not give up on myself because I have no money and worry about others’ accusations. Too many rules will suppress your personality. You will always consume yourself mentally. You are always worried that you will do something extraordinary. You are afraid that others will hate you and dislike you. This kind of thinking will continue to be drained away. Your courage.
Second, a strong person will not sympathize with the weak at first, because the weak always wants to abide by the rules, so he hopes to get help from others, tell him the rules of society, and lead him to abide by the rules. He just wants to live his life as if he were following the crowd, and is completely passive. A strong person also becomes strong from the weak. He deeply realizes that only by taking the initiative to understand and understand these rules can he not be led by the rules and understand the rules. Only then can you break the rules and live your life. So for the weak, he is a relatively cold-blooded person who is unwilling to help others, lives a very selfish life, and has no sympathy. The strong looks at the weak, just like looking at the cowardly self in the past. He knows that all these must rely on his own efforts to become strong. Temporary help and sympathy are of no use at all. The weak makes mistakes entirely due to his own reasons. If he takes the initiative to understand the rules and thinks and acts independently, then he will not be bound by the rules.
So what are the characteristics of a strong person? The first is to realize that the rules are set by people, and they are set by a large group of people who are not as smart as you. It is like the rules of a child's game. You can know and understand these rules casually, and it doesn't matter even if you make mistakes, so they will never be afraid of making mistakes, giving others a feeling of confidence. The second is lack of compassion. You won’t spend all day thinking about helping those who don’t understand the rules and are unwilling to understand them. All efforts must be made by yourself. This kind of thinking seems to be ruthless and indifferent to others, but in turn it is a warning to yourself. After all, people have to rely on themselves, so you seem to have no human touch. Third, strong people have their own set of rules for doing things in their hearts. They always have to focus on their own peaceful inner feelings and never be disrupted by external rules. Therefore, they always take the initiative, are not afraid of failure, and are very active in their actions and emotionally stable.
Regarding breaking the rules in career, the first thing we need to understand is that maybe it’s not that you don’t work hard enough, or that you are not as smart as others, but that the way or direction of your efforts is too ordinary and lacks distinctiveness, just like what is written in " Luotuo Xiangzi", " Xiangzi has been pulling a rickshaw all his life, and he will feel that he has not lived a good life until his death. It is because he did not work hard enough to pull the rickshaw." All kinds of rules in this society have long been set. Some people work so hard that they can only fill their stomachs, while some people rely on opportunism to live a lifetime of food and clothing.
Let’s not first say that these people may have taken advantage of loopholes in the system and violated the authority of the law. From the perspective of rules, they took various risks and broke the rules. And those who follow the rules every day think about how to break the rules and get rich, but they don't dare to take too big risks, start a business, or invest. They can only satisfy their desire to break the rules by watching movies or novels, such as suddenly saving a gangster brother who will help you get rich; or gaining some kind of super power, marrying Bai Fumei, and using this fantasy to resist dissatisfaction with reality. So when we talk about breaking the rules, no matter what you do, you must have your own characteristics. These characteristics may still be very controversial. You have broken the rules of ordinary people or an industry. This rule may represent social authority, a moral code that people generally abide by, an operating rule that everyone in an industry must obey. Only those with enough courage and determination dare to break through.
