I feel like I have the conditions, but why am I still not eligible?
Obviously many people are not as good as me and can be single, but why am I always single.
In relationships, many single people often have such doubts. They don't understand why many people who are worse off than themselves, not as good-looking as themselves, and not as capable as themselves, fall in love and get married successfully, but they can't.
doesn't understand where he lost and why he can't do it.
From time to time, when I think of this reality, I feel depressed and unacceptable.
To be honest, there are really not many such situations, but quite a lot. This phenomenon occurs in
because the various conditions are only one aspect. In addition, those people did some other things right.
is more proactive and is taking good care of it.
has met many people who think they have good conditions, but are never willing to take the initiative to approach someone. Even if they like someone, they always hope that the other person will take the initiative towards them first, and will not do anything by themselves.
has always been very passive, very reserved, relatively self-righteous, thinking that there will be many people who want to get this kind of me, and be with him, but in the end, there is no one at all.
Even if your own conditions are good, but the circle is too small, no one will know about it. I seem to be pretty good, but there is always someone who will be better. What's more, for many people nowadays, conditions are only one aspect, and it is always necessary to be good to yourself.
In love, you are not proactive at all, but you imagine that love can come and that person will come directly to you and knock on your door. That is unrealistic. You have to go out and take the initiative, and you will be more likely to meet love.
There are many people whose conditions are not that good. In fact, they have achieved this and are proactive enough.
When he doesn't know anyone, he will think of ways to expand his circle. When he meets someone he feels good about, he will take action directly.
will not just wait for good luck to come, but will create opportunities and strive for a possibility for himself.
can be particularly attentive, so generally speaking, the results will be pretty good and you will gain something.
is willing to try and knows how to get along better.
Although many people want to fall in love, in real life, they simply cannot do it. On the one hand,
is clamoring that he wants to end his life with someone, have a beginning with someone, and be able to be together. On the other hand, whenever someone approaches him, or he is interested in someone, he cannot take that step at all.
I am afraid that I will not be able to do it at all, and I am worried that if I start, there will not be a good result. I have made various presets from the beginning, scaring myself, and not being willing to invest properly.
doesn't want to, and really doesn't know how to stay with someone.
cannot tolerate the other party, and will always feel that the other party is not suitable because of some small aspects, and is unwilling to continue.
Being too scared, worrying too much, and being too picky about the people you meet is naturally not a good thing. It will only make you stay where you are, trembling there all the time.
People who can successfully say goodbye to singles may not be afraid, but even if they are afraid, they are still willing to pay and get along with each other.
Gradually, we found a way that was more suitable for each other, that allowed each other to get along well, and continue together. Unknowingly, we broke through the fear in our hearts and got the result we wanted with the other party.
can lower the standard appropriately and make do with it.
Meet someone who is very satisfied with you and is suitable in all aspects. In fact, that is not an easy task.
In other words, there is no one who will fully meet your expectations and be 100% as you wish.
When you can't meet such a person at all, you are not satisfied with the person you meet. Too many people will not just ignore it, but will just resist it and convince themselves to continue waiting instead of slightly lowering their requirements.
As a result, even if I met many people, there was never anyone I was satisfied with, so I was still single.
Compared with always being so stubborn and never changing their minds, some people will not always insist. As they get older and their desire for marriage, they will no longer insist on the other party being completely consistent. They will be willing to meet only a few aspects.
Anyway, there is no need for the other party to reach eighty points. Even if it is only sixty points, we are still willing to give each other a chance.
figure out what you care about most. As for the other things, if you are willing to make do with them for a while, you will be able to convince yourself to accept them.
If you can persuade yourself and accept someone who is not up to standard, it will really make it much easier to find a partner, and you will be able to catch someone and complete the marriage. At least on the surface, everything will be considered complete.
Being single, alone, there is nothing wrong with that.
However, if you really long for love and want to start a family, you can't just sit on your laurels all the time.
You can't just rely on your good conditions and just do nothing, don't learn how to love, and don't get along well with someone. No matter how good
is in all aspects, it is all your own business. If your own conditions have nothing to do with others, it is destined to be buried and no one will insist on stepping forward.
After all, love is about conditions, but more about the feelings and friendship between each other.
A good lover will not be obtained out of thin air. You need to put down your dignity, have reasonable standards, be attentive, and work hard.
Many times, many people are not much better than you, but they just know better about fighting for and maintaining.
text/Tan Meng
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