Some relatives have not been in contact with each other for almost several years. Suddenly one day, they appear in front of you again. They seem to be affectionate, but they actually want to ask for something.
htmlAfter the age of 260, family relationships will change a lot, and people's hearts will become colder and colder. Only when people get older will they understand that nothing will not change.
Even family affection will become weaker and weaker with age, which makes people heartbroken and helpless, but they have to admit that things are unpredictable and people's hearts are not ancient.
Sometimes, I really miss a certain relative. I think about how lonely I am in my life. I get older in a blink of an eye, and my mood changes accordingly. It seems that this cannot be changed.
Once a person passes 60, this change becomes more and more obvious. In the final analysis, each has the next generation, and each has a family. . Looking back at these brothers and sisters, everything becomes a lot "fader"...
When a person passes 60, relatives no longer Contacting you, maybe, is no longer so affectionate...
01 Borrowing money
A few years ago, an older cousin suddenly called me and exchanged greetings. She said, how are you doing? We haven't seen each other for many years.
Thinking about this cousin, I haven’t seen her for more than ten years. In fact, I have only seen her a few times in my life. Why did she suddenly think of me?
After chatting for a long time, the eldest cousin finally expressed his intention of coming - to borrow money.
My eldest cousin's family has not been living well in recent years. Many things happened at home, and her life was temporarily difficult. Therefore, she suddenly remembered that she still had a cousin living in this world...
In this life, there are some relatives who, although they are connected by blood, have little contact with each other. Maybe only when they are desperate, they will suddenly " meet " with you in the name of relatives.
This is a problem that is not easy to solve for many people. Lend her money? But I really don’t have much deep feelings in my heart. If I don’t borrow money, I am afraid of being kidnapped by morals and saying that I am ruthless and unjust...
After the age of 60, this kind of "initiative" often catches people off guard.
Some relatives who have not been in contact for many years suddenly come to visit you. I was full of joy and thought that there were still some people in this world who were thinking about you.
As a result, when you learn that he is looking for you because of "money", you can't help but feel extremely disappointed - it turns out that people cannot escape the game of "money" in the end.
Falling in love is just an excuse. Money is the bond of many relationships. The older you live, it is not that you no longer believe in feelings, but that too many people have proved that if it were not for interests, there are still a few people who care about you as you age.
02Please follow the "member" money
A few days ago, his neighbor, Old Liu, broke his leg. Old Liu was very sad. The sad thing was not the pain, but that no relatives came to visit. Some relatives knew clearly but pretended to turn a blind eye.
Later, one of Lao Liu's sisters suddenly called and asked if Lao Liu's leg was healed. This made Lao Liu overjoyed - it turns out that there are still some relatives who are thinking about you .
Before Lao Liu could be happy for a few seconds, his sister said, your niece's child has been admitted to college this year, and the family wants to celebrate. You must come to participate in !
Old Liu felt his heart sink when he heard this - it was not obvious that he just wanted to collect money!
Most of today's relatives will take the initiative to call you when someone's family is doing something. Logically speaking, if a relative's family has something to do, you must try to participate as much as possible, but only thinking of you when something happens to his family will inevitably make people feel frustrated .
Some relatives have been doing all kinds of "things" all their lives. Because there are so many children in the family, you can't remember the names of some of them. When you meet them, you say hello, and then there is no contact with them.
Some relatives often took the initiative to keep in touch with relatives in order to show that they were very popular in the family. Finally, we saw that when his family had something going on, many people took the initiative to attend.
Some relatives go to great lengths for a gift. Relatives regard the gift as more important than friendship. It can only be said that this family relationship is boring and cannot be shown .
There are also relatives who, for the sake of a gift, always want to earn a few cents more than others. We don’t know what such relatives want...
After you turn 60, many relatives have long forgotten you in the sea of people. Unless sometimes, when the family is doing something, they suddenly think of you. When you go, everyone at the table looks at each other, not knowing what to say.
In addition, nowadays, meals with relatives are full of vanity comparisons. When they meet, there is no strong family affection in the past, but there are too many conflicts between people. Comparing who is richer and who is more influential. Competing back and forth, and ending on bad terms.
03 Let you do things
There is a kind of relative called " No matter what happens, he will not go to the Three Treasures Hall ". He will only think of you when something happens.
I have come into contact with this kind of relative. When things are fine, they seem to have forgotten you. Whenever they encounter difficulties, they will contact you again. When they sit down at your home, they will say "you should solve this problem" and "you should".
There is a scale in every human heart, and everyone should know in their heart who has benefited from it in this life.
But some relatives take it for granted that you help them. If you can't help them, they will ridicule you, saying that you don't care about family affection and that you have no ability. But on the other hand, when you have trouble, he will turn a blind eye and at most say, "I don't like but I can't help ."
Over time, who won’t feel sad? It turns out that the so-called relatives are just in the name of use.
People can see through a little bit of people's hearts, especially when they are at a trough. It is clear at a glance who has you in their heart or not.
Relatives are supposed to help each other, but with some relatives, don’t expect them to do anything to help you.
htmlAfter the age of 260, too many people drift away, including some relatives. They often only contact you suddenly when they need you, and then forget about you again.
htmlAfter turning 260, I suddenly realized that nowhere is as good as home. Occasionally, when I go to a relative's house, there is an extremely strange smell. I should leave quickly and feel comfortable only when I return to my own home.
htmlAfter the age of 260, the relationship between relatives depends on one heart. They get together and disperse. Life is like a dream. When you look back suddenly, everything becomes empty.
Whether you are close or not, let everything take its course. There is no need to force it, everything goes with the wind.
