In today's life, most elderly
people are also very open to second marriages. Therefore, many elderly people will continue to look for the true love of their lives after they get older, or after losing their wives, or after two people end their marriage due to personality differences, and then spend their old age together.
However, in life, if two people get married as a second marriage, the purpose of their marriage has actually changed. Most elderly people choose second marriage because they want to find a partner they can live with when they grow old, so there is actually no deep relationship between the two people. The relationship between two people can also be described and metaphorized as "Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately in times of trouble." In short, the relationship between husband and wife for half a lifetime feels very insecure.
Recently, 68-year-old Aunt Liu has been asked more and more questions by her second wife just after her second marriage.
Lonely old age
Aunt Liu is 68 years old and has lived for ten years. Because her wife died of illness at the age of 53, and her son has his own family, it is said that Aunt Liu has been living alone since her wife passed away. Although Aunt Liu's son lives not far from Aunt Liu, Aunt Liu feels that now that her son is married and has his own family, as an old man, she can only help her son by not doing anything to disturb her son, so she tries not to cause any trouble to her son in life.
However, in such a life, although Aunt Liu does not need to worry about other things, she also feels endless loneliness in such a life. Although Aunt Liu has lived alone for ten years, she is still not used to it, so in order to relieve her loneliness, she often goes out with others to dance square dances and play mahjong for entertainment. But when she returned home every night, she returned to loneliness with no one to talk to.
So Aunt Liu has been very lonely in her later years. Although Aunt Liu stayed at her son's house for a while at his invitation, she originally wanted to take this opportunity to relieve her loneliness. However, after living in her son's house, as the stay became longer and longer, some conflicts arose between her and her daughter-in-law. In order not to let her son and daughter-in-law's feelings be affected by her, Aunt Liu chose to go back to her home alone. After
returned to her home, although the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was eliminated and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was improved, Aunt Liu's loneliness returned. Under such circumstances, Aunt Liu also considered the idea of a second marriage at the suggestion of her friends.
Choose second marriage
Because none of Aunt Zhao’s friends had examples of second marriages, Aunt Zhao still hesitated after listening to her friends’ suggestions for second marriages. She was also afraid that her son would be unhappy because of what she did. Therefore, she also asked her son's opinion immediately. After Aunt Zhao told her son her idea, she did not expect that neither her son nor her daughter-in-law objected.
Both of them felt that Aunt Zhao had lived alone for so many years, and now she was old and no longer around her. If she had headaches and fever when she was a child, they wouldn't be able to catch up immediately, so they don't have any objections to Aunt Zhao's second marriage.
After getting the consent of her son and daughter-in-law, Aunt Zhao was also very happy, so she began to look at the life of her second marriage partner with peace of mind. Because Aunt Zhao's friend introduced her to people nearby, Aunt Zhao quickly chose a nearby Uncle Li to get to know her.
There is actually nothing to understand about making friends with the elderly. In the final analysis, the two people's thoughts are just to make themselves less lonely in their later years. So the two quickly chose to remarry after consulting each other's children. Originally, Aunt Zhao's original intention of remarrying was to find someone who would love her. However, she didn't expect to find out after getting married that Uncle Li was not such a person.
Crying after marriage
Soon the two had a meal with their children and lived together. However, Aunt Zhao originally thought that her marriage was the beginning of happiness, but she did not expect that under Uncle Li's strong desire for control and machismo, Aunt Zhao's life after marriage would be miserable.
After the two got married, Aunt Zhao was also very diligent. She not only kept the house in order, but also gave almost everything to Uncle Li. But this also makes Uncle Li almost use Aunt Zhao as a nanny in his life, and not only that, because Uncle Li has a bad temper, so as long as Aunt Zhao doesn't do something that suits him, he will get angry in his life, which makes Aunt Zhao soon unable to stand such a life.
As the two of them got married, Uncle Li made more and more demands. He not only asked Aunt Zhao to give him all her pension, but also did not allow Aunt Zhao to give her grandson too much money. He even asked Aunt Zhao not to interact too frequently with her son, which made Aunt Zhao increasingly unbearable.
Soon after her marriage, she couldn't help but cry to her friends: "I want to be loved, but the second wife's demands are getting higher and higher, and I can't satisfy it." In such a marriage, Aunt Zhao could not accept it very quickly, and she separated from Uncle Li. Only after Aunt Zhao returned to being single did she realize how happy she was now. After a miserable remarriage, Aunt Zhao has found her own state again.
Nowadays, in life, we can often see old people remarrying. Most elderly people choose to remarry in life, mostly because their old life was too lonely, so they want to find someone to accompany them in life. But in life, this is only what some people think. There are many elderly people. The reason why they continue to look for the other half in life is to find someone like a nanny to take care of them. This is why they have the idea of finding a partner when they are old.
Because when they choose a second marriage, they do not choose to enter marriage because love has some other purpose. Therefore, even after marriage, when they live with their significant other, they also have their own purpose. Especially for couples who are halfway through their relationship, if something happens to them after one party is together, their children must be their first consideration. So such a married life is actually very unnecessary.
The reason why most elderly people have to find someone to continue their lives after they get older is because of the loneliness in life, so they have no feelings for their remarried wives, especially when the wife compares with the children, they will definitely choose the children without hesitation, and the wife who got married midway will be abandoned by them.
In fact, no matter what age group, as long as two people can be together, it is fate. Therefore, after we enter into marriage, we must cherish the fate between two people. In the process of two people getting along, only by giving your own sincerity first can you get the sincerity of others, and the marriage between two people can last for a long time.
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