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My name is Li Ting, 36 years old, from Tongling, Anhui.
My husband Cheng Wen and I got married on a blind date. We were both in our 30s at the time, so we were married late.
Cheng Wen also has a younger brother named Cheng Wu, who had a girlfriend when he was in college.
When Cheng Wu got married, the woman’s family asked for a gift of 200,000 yuan. He has no money, all the money from his parents-in-law is used to build a house, and he has no savings.
At that time, Cheng Wen and I had not yet started dating. He had been working for several years and had more than 200,000 in savings.
My parents-in-law told Cheng Wen: Anyway, you don’t even have a girlfriend, you won’t get married for a while, and you don’t need money. If you get married in the future, we will pay you back the money.
Cheng Wen always listened to his parents and took out the money.
Who knew that Cheng Wen and I are both married and have children, and we don’t want the money back.
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When we got married, we didn’t buy a house. After getting married, we have been working in Dongguan and rarely go back to our hometown.
This year, because my children are about to go to elementary school, buying a house has been put on the agenda. Otherwise, without a household registration, the children will not be able to attend good public schools.
We already have a deposit of more than 300,000 yuan, and we are thinking of getting the 200,000 yuan that Cheng Wu owes, which will be enough for the down payment.
So I asked my husband to call him specifically and told Cheng Wu our difficulties in earnest, hoping that he could pay back the money. They have worked for so many years and their savings must be more than 200,000.
As a result, Cheng Wu directly cried to us and said: It's not like you don't know that the environment has been bad in recent years. Not only did we not save any money, but we also used up all our previous savings. We really have no money to pay you back. You can give us a few more years of grace.
When he said this, he had no sincerity at all. Even if he said he didn’t have 200,000, he could just pay us back part of it first.
I became angry when I heard this and said: You are in trouble, and so am I. You have owed us this money for so many years and should have paid it back long ago. Whether you really don't have it yourself or whether you don't have it yourself, we don't know. But no matter what method you use, please return it to us soon.
Cheng Wu made an excuse and hung up the phone. Then he went to move reinforcements. He and his mother-in-law complained, saying that we forced him and that we didn't care about brotherhood at all.
Unexpectedly, two days later, my husband changed sides again, saying that he was only a younger brother and could not ruin the brotherhood for the sake of the 200,000 yuan.
said otherwise, we should go to other relatives and friends to borrow some money first. I was so angry, but there was nothing I could do.
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We have a relatively good relationship with my husband’s aunt, and their family conditions are not bad. After I was ready to borrow money, I thought of her first.
I told my aunt that we were still short of 200,000 yuan and hoped she could lend us 50,000 yuan. We would borrow the rest from others.
My aunt agreed and told me to ask my husband to borrow some from Cheng Wu. I smiled bitterly and said, let alone borrowing money, Cheng Wu owed us 200,000 and would not pay us back a penny.
My aunt found it incredible when she heard this. She also said that Cheng Wu did not go to work this year. The couple raised hairy crabs at home and the sales were very good, with a net income of 260,000.
Several of our relatives and almost all the villagers in this village know it because Cheng Wu was showing off a few days ago. After my aunt finished speaking, she told me not to say that she was the one who said this.
I became so angry after hearing this that I didn’t even want my aunt’s 50,000 yuan. Since Cheng Wu has money, I have to give it back to him, otherwise I won't be in the mood for this year.
I put these chat records in front of my husband to let him see what kind of person his good brother is. And his parents are also protecting and favoring his brother.
My husband was also very angry, so we decided to go back to our hometown and get the money back.
Cheng Wu was surprised when we came back, and then he was polite to us for a long time.I didn't give him a chance to escape. I told him directly that we already knew that his net income from selling hairy crabs was more than 200,000 yuan. Make him pay back the money.
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Cheng Wu made another excuse, saying that he would continue to invest next year, and none of the money could be used.
Haha, do you need 260,000 yuan for investment? What's more, they can't only have these savings.
Seeing that Cheng Wu didn’t want to pay it back, my husband and I simply took our children to live in his house. We don't do anything. When they eat, we eat together and go to bed when the time comes. Than shameless, who wouldn’t!
originally thought that our move would be effective, but we all underestimated Cheng Wu's shamelessness.
He told us directly that he did have money, a mere 200,000, and he could get it now. But he won’t give it back to us, nor will he ever give it back.
Because the 200,000 yuan was borrowed from my husband before marriage, and my husband’s property before marriage also belongs to my parents-in-law. What belongs to my parents-in-law is his, so he doesn’t have to pay it back.
This is so funny, my husband is so angry. We immediately called our parents-in-law and asked them to give us some justice.
After the parents-in-law arrived, they didn't speak for a long time at first. Later, under Cheng Wu's urging, they whispered: In our case, all the money earned by children before marriage is given to their parents.
As soon as these words came out, Cheng Wu and his wife were extremely happy. They said that he had already said that there was no need to pay back the money, so he asked us to go back quickly and not stay at his house.
My husband was so angry that the veins on his hands popped out. He stared at his parents and said: Do you still have a conscience when you say this?
Then, he looked at Cheng Wu and his wife, and said word by word:
You may have made a mistake. If I am no longer here, then these 200,000 yuan is an inheritance. My parents have the right to inherit it. If they inherit it, they can use it to subsidize you. But I am still here, please clarify!
My parents-in-law felt that they were wrong and did not dare to look at my husband, but they did not say anything. My brother-in-law wanted to make excuses, but we didn't listen and just left.
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Since they are so shameless, there is no need for us to waste any more time. Fortunately, now we all use mobile phones to transfer money, and my husband also left a record when he transferred money back then.
It just so happened that my maternal uncle was a lawyer, and we asked him to help with the lawsuit.
After my parents-in-law found out, they came over and begged us to let us forget it, saying that we should regard the 200,000 as a filial piety to them. He also said that they were old and not in good health. We made such a fuss with my brother-in-law because we didn’t want them to live.
How did they treat us before, and now they still want to play the emotional card? My husband and I ignored them.
My brother-in-law became anxious and came over to ask us to withdraw the lawsuit, saying that he was willing to pay us back tens of thousands in advance. The other IOUs will be returned to us next year and the year after that.
I asked him to discuss it with my lawyer if he has any problem, and he doesn’t need to come to us again.
Later, with the help of a lawyer, the money was finally recovered, and our relationship with my brother-in-law also dropped to a freezing point.
But we don’t care. If such unreasonable brothers interact with each other too much, we don’t know what more extreme things will happen in the future.
also wants to tell everyone that even if you are close to someone again, you should pay attention to leaving evidence when borrowing money. Otherwise, if you encounter a rogue, you may not get your money back.
