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Written at the beginning: A love story
I saw a post posted by a girl :
"You were born before I was born, but I am old after giving birth to you. God is really unfair. Why can't you let me meet the right person at the right time and stay together forever?"
After reading the girl's story, it turned out that she was deeply involved in an extramarital affair.
After graduating from college, the girl returned to her original school to apply for some certificates and met her former teacher again.
The two people were originally just silent avatars on their respective WeChat accounts, but this time by chance, they chatted for a few words, and suddenly they felt familiar with each other.
The man is ten years older than her. When the girl was studying, he helped her a lot.
After this meeting, the two slowly started chatting on WeChat. When the girl encountered trouble at work, she would ask him directly for advice. The man would always patiently help her analyze and calm her anxiety from time to time.
Just like that, it didn’t take long for the two people to have an affair.
One day later, the girl invited the man to dinner as a thank you. The two of them had dinner and sang songs. That night, they crossed the line in their behavior. After that, they became like lovers, talking all kinds of sweet words non-stop every day.
However, a man has a family, but his wife is not in the same city as him because of work.
The girl is greedy for the man's love, so she forces herself to ignore the fact that he is married, and even often goes to see him secretly, and the man also finds various places to have private meetings with her.
The man told her that he and his wife met on a blind date and got married because of family pressure. The girl believed it deeply and waited wholeheartedly for the day when the man would divorce.
However, not long after they were together, the man told her that his wife was pregnant.
The girl had a big fight with him because of this, but she still didn't want it to end like this, and she couldn't let go.
So, even if the man doesn’t want to contact her anymore, she will still go downstairs to his house, hoping to meet him by chance, but she still can’t control her longing and wants to go back to the past with him.
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The love psychology of young girls
Perhaps, the girl in the above case did love thoroughly.
However, she did not realize that she was just a lover developed by the other party.
Xin Qiji once wrote a poem: A young man doesn’t know the feeling of sorrow, he wants to go up to the next floor, he wants to go up to the next floor, so he composes a new poem to describe his sorrow.
Young people always have a lot of imagination when it comes to love, and they always feel that their love should be different from other people's.
Even if this love is painful and cannot be blessed by the world, they will feel that their love is different and their life should be such a "story".
Therefore, girls will have the emotion of "You are born before I was born, and I am old after giving birth to you." However, this so-called "wonderful" and "storytelling" is just her deceiving herself.
You must know that no matter how many ups and downs you have experienced in life, being a lover of a married man means that you are creating pain and trouble for yourself. From the very beginning of your relationship with him, you have predicted your failure.
This kind of love is like a girl who is in love for the first time, obsessed with being a "lone hero", but can't find any happiness at all.
Once a woman matures in this life, the love she pursues will be peaceful, warm, and ordinary. She will not want too many disturbances, and she does not want her marriage to be involved with a married man.
You must know that true love should be mutually beneficial.
The person who truly loves you will be eager to be by your side and bring you stability and solidity; he will want to truly and truly want to live a good life with you; he will look forward to being with you hand in hand every sunrise and sunset.
Instead, you go to him secretly, and you are in a corner, telling each other your feelings.
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The affair psychology of middle-aged married men
When a man reaches middle age, no matter how much he once loved his wife, he will probably hate his wife.
When the passion fades and there is no attachment to the past, the piece of paper in marriage really no longer has a sense of ritual, but has truly become a sense of legal restraint.
We were once in love with each other, and the sight of each other for thousands of years has now turned into boredom and boredom when we look at each other.
In particular, for some men who are eager to find romance and youthful feelings outside, they will increasingly feel that their current life has become a kind of constraint.
He will be eager to meet someone and bring some changes to his life. He will look forward to someone coming to his side, knowing him, understanding him, so that he can relive the beauty of love.
As a result, extramarital emotions burst out at a certain moment.
In particular, there are some men whose bottom line is very low. On the one hand, he does not want his current marriage to be destroyed, but on the other hand, he longs to meet a woman who can let him escape at any time.
Therefore, he will be eager to meet an extramarital lover, especially a young girl, so that she can feel that he is very considerate and gentle.
However, what he is better at is understanding women's "clothes".
As for love or not, he was very clear in his heart. He had never wanted the love of this extramarital woman, and he had never thought about paying anything for this woman. Instead, he just wanted to have some ambiguity to add some color to his life.
Therefore, his usual tricks are to pretend to be stupid, pretend to be melancholy, pretend to be deep, and say to the girl, "My wife and I have no relationship," or "I am a tigress at home, and I have not wanted to be with her for a long time," etc., to disguise his marriage as an empty shell. In fact, he is just telling her subconsciously: I am very pitiful, come to my arms and comfort me.
However, once a girl falls into his trap, she will find that the last thing he wants is for the red flag to stay at home and the colorful flags to flutter outside.
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Women must be sober. The moment you "cross the line" with him, you are already destined to be hurt.
In life, we always hear complaints from various women:
"He said he loves me, but he just refuses to divorce. Marry me";
"He is rich and can buy me a lot of things, but every time I think of him sleeping with other women at night, I feel heartbroken";
"Since I love After I fell in love with him, I almost never smiled happily, and I was worried every day that his wife would find out about our affairs.":
...
Every sentence is full of resentment and melancholy.
It can be seen that many women become the lovers of married men. In addition to bringing more uneasiness and grievances to themselves, they do not realize the joy of love at all.
Just like the girl in our case, the man told her that he and his wife had no relationship. They got married under pressure from their families, but soon the man got his wife pregnant.
It can be seen that while he was having sex with the girl, he also acted like a good husband after returning home.
And what can a girl do? Firstly, she is not pregnant, secondly she has no legal protection, and thirdly, the man does not really love her at all.
Moreover, when their story is spread, the girl will not only be beaten up in the street by her original wife, but will also be criticized by relatives and neighbors.
So, when faced with such a man, withdraw as soon as possible.
If you still want to stay in this kind of relationship for a few years, then not only will you waste your youth, but also the opportunity to make money in the future will be lost with the passage of time.
In life, there are still many girls who want to take revenge after learning that they have been cheated, and want to turn the man's family upside down.
However, with this kind of thinking, you probably won’t lose anything to the other party, and it will also waste your time and get you involved.
So, be free and easy, don’t get entangled, and don’t give bad people the chance to hurt you again.
For your future life, find a man of the same age as you, handsome, gentle, with good physique; fresh tone and sincere heart.
Only in this way can you be worthy of your youth and your life.
author, calm fox
picture, network
I hope you can find the deep affection in the ordinary years in my words! Thanks for your attention!
