Everyone has various relatives, some of whom are blood related to themselves, and some who are not related to them.
There is always such a group of people. Every time during the holidays, they are forced together by various connections to have dinner, drink, and brag.
They compare with each other, look down upon each other, envy and hate each other.
Smart people can always do the following when getting along with relatives:
1. When talking about income, just say that your life is enough.
During the Spring Festival, many people like to talk about income. First of all, smart people will not ask about other people's income. In fact, this is a matter of personal privacy. How much money others earn will not be spent on you. It doesn't matter a dime to you. Why ask so much?
If you talk too much, some relatives will say you are bragging, others will be envious, jealous, and even excessively ask you to borrow money. What should you do?
When dealing with these things, you must remember that except your parents who want you to live well, no one else in this world wants you to live better than him, no matter what kind of relative you are.
2. Remember that “family scandals should not be made public”.
Don’t expose family scandals to anyone, which means you should never tell anyone about any bad things that happen in your family.
If you meet other relatives and talk about scandals about your family or other family members, you should not participate. It is best not to listen and stay away.
Not only should we stay away from places where scandalous things are discussed, we should also stay away from people who discuss these scandalous things in the future.
3. You must know how to reciprocate politely, and you cannot be a brave man who can only go in but not go out.
When visiting relatives, it is inevitable to bring gifts. If you give a gift, you will receive a gift in return. When doing this, remember one thing: don't let your relatives suffer. If you give you half a pound, you must return eight ounces to them, so that the relationship can last long.
4. When someone brings up old scores, you can get up and leave, or you can change the topic.
We have been in a relationship for decades. It is inevitable that there will be some interactions in life and work, and some conflicts will arise during the interactions.
First of all, conflicts between elders should not be passed on to the next generation, and the next generation should not care about their elders' affairs. They can get along with each other how they should get along. There is no need to hate anything.
When will the injustice be repaid?
During the Chinese New Year, all relatives and elders gather together. If someone talks about something unhappy in the past, you'd better change the subject or simply get up and leave. Don't argue with them. Arguing is completely meaningless.
It is true that distance creates beauty. Even though they are your relatives, there are also bad people among your relatives. For those kind-hearted relatives who are uneasy and deliberately suppress and bully you, you can choose to stay away from them.
