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is not bad either. He works within the system and has a good character. He is 168. He was not enlightened before. As a girl, sometimes he feels that it is fate, so he does not take the initiative. Located in the 7th Ring Road of Beijing, if you don't look for it if you are 30 years old, you will be too old.
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The respondent has a good friend beside him, who is a magical woman. What's amazing is that she is married. It is said that married women usually have husbands and children, and their circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller; she is not, she likes to toss by nature. After getting married, she found that there were many singles around her, so she established a singles group in her spare time, and helped dozens of couples get married and get divorced. This persistence lasted two years ~ I often like to chat with her, because she can always tell me a lot of stories about their singles group, which are real and interesting, and I can see some unexpected meanings behind them through the stories.
I once asked her this question, do you believe in fate when you are looking for a partner? She said, let me tell you a few stories first~
The first story is about travel. She met a girl who liked to travel on a train back to Beijing from her hometown. The two had a great conversation and left each other WeChat messages. Later, she created a singles group and posted a small advertisement in Moments. A girl she met while traveling happened to be single, so she joined the group to play together. In fact, the story is not magical at this point. The girl is quite lively in the group. She often talks and shows her face. Over time, she got to know a few friends, including a boy (I guess you must think that they are together). On February 14th, she posted a circle of friends. Many of you must have played it before - like this circle of friends, and the second and 14th likers will introduce them to each other - you guessed it right this time. The second and 14th people who liked it were the girl and her current husband. The two hit it off as soon as they met, with very similar hobbies and experiences. Soon the girl announced that she was no longer single. Now the two are married and have children, living a happy life ~
After hearing this, I felt that these two people are really destined, but the probability of this kind of story happening is not high ~ It seems that it cannot be analyzed as a matter that can deduce universal rules. Immediately afterwards, she told me the second story.
The second story is about alumni. After my friend established a singles group, he felt that the small number of people in the group was not conducive to finding a partner, so he began to recruit people through multiple channels. He posted information about the singles group in many alumni groups, neighbor groups, and hobby groups. Soon, some single alumni came to visit. Let’s call the male and female protagonists of the story A and B. AB is not young anymore and has been drifting in Beijing for many years. He is a typical older leftover man and woman. A is a lively person and B is a dull person. They have never crossed paths in the group. Mr. A told my friend that he was getting older and it was difficult to find a job.
Until a group gathering, my friend specially introduced A and B to each other because they are both alumni. The development after this is also quite interesting. A initially had a general feeling for B, but since they were schoolmates, they chatted with each other. Later, they discovered that although B did not talk much, he was a very warm man. A's heart was slowly warmed and opened. Now, the two of them have received their wedding certificates, and it turns out that petite A has been fed a happy baby fat by B cooking in various ways every day, and is clamoring to lose weight:)
A friend told me that A and B stayed in the same Beijing alumni group for several years, and did not know that each other was single, and had never crossed paths until they met like fate in the singles group. I was about to say something when my friend told me the third story -
The third story was about urging marriage. It's just that it's not the male and female protagonist's parents who are urging the marriage, but the female protagonist's friends and my enthusiastic matchmaker friend.At that time, the singles group was already relatively active, and there were many cases of obtaining love certificates. One day, a girl found my friend in a hurry and repeatedly emphasized that she had a good friend in the group who was beautiful, temperamental, and capable. She also sent him several photos. My friend took a look and saw that she was indeed a beauty. There happened to be an event on Saturday, so he asked this girl to come too. Now that she has this beauty, it would be best if she has a handsome guy who is similar to her. Then she remembered that there once was a boy who was good in size and appearance, but he was too busy. He participated in one event and then had no time to come again. She contacted the boy and asked if he was available on Saturday. The boy said not necessarily, he had to travel on business during the working day.
She sent the boy all the information and photos of the girl, and advised the boy to come and have a look (the girl hoped to meet her for the first time at a group activity). The boy said do your best. On Monday, my friend asked the boy if he could come. The boy said he didn’t know yet. He had a full work schedule. My friend tried hard to persuade him for a long time. On Wednesday, my friend continued to hammer the boy. What do you think is more important, work or finding a partner? Maybe you will be single this time? ? On Friday, the boy took the initiative to find my friend, sister, don’t rush me, I have already booked a train ticket back, and I will definitely go to the event on Saturday. I was amused and asked my friend, maybe this is another happy ending? She said cheerfully, of course! The boy fell in love with the girl at first sight and abducted the girl before the event was over~ He got married this year and lived a happy life~~
After listening to this, I sighed, I know your answer! When looking for a partner, whether others believe it or not, you must believe in fate, right? She smiled, this is not the case. If you read these stories, you may see that these people are so destined that they are single. What I saw was their courage, persistence, and persistent yearning for beautiful love. Although the protagonists in these three stories are active or passive, they all open their hearts without exception, waiting for the destined person to walk in at any time. This can be seen from their courage to join singles groups, admitting that they are single and not ashamed, and participating in activities again and again to meet friends. Therefore, I believe that they are very destined, because this wonderful fate connects them, and maybe I am the bridge of that fate; but I believe even more that it is their fearlessness, never giving up, and not being discouraged that moved Grandpa Yue and helped them find their beautiful other half~ So, I like this "part-time job" full of love and positive energy. Compared with the matchmaker, I prefer everyone to call me "Lao Yue's little assistant":)
I sincerely hope that friends who read the answers to this article, whether you are single or married, or have just ended a relationship... I hope you will always believe in love and beauty, because the reward of fate may be not far ahead...
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