On the way home from get off work, I encountered a vendor driving a small four-wheeler to sell grapes on the side of the road.
I saw a piece of cardboard standing next to the car, which was written with a black carbon pen: Local high-quality Jufeng Grape , sweeter than first love.
The word "first love" also uses a red marker to draw a big heart shape.
I couldn't help but smile and thought to myself, "This boss is very good at doing business!"
Indeed, first love is beautiful, and almost everyone has an unforgettable first love.
It is the first time that flowers bloom in our lives, both good and bad.
The good thing is that each of us will remember our first love; the bad thing is that generally first love has no good results, and we often lose our TA.
Of course, I can't remember my first love.
Because there are too many: I call the first love every time I have a crush on and who later fail.
Now I don’t know who they are and what they look like.
However, my husband has an unforgettable first love. For many years, it has become a thorn that cannot be erased in my heart. It comes out from time to time to pierce you, but it will not die but it will make you feel uncomfortable all over.
Just like Zhang Ailing novel "Red Rose and White Rose" says:
"Maybe every man has two such women, at least two.
Married Red Rose Over time, the red one turned into a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still the bright moonlight in front of the bed;
and married a white rose, the white one turned into a rice stick on the clothes, and the red one turned into a cinnabar mole on the heart. "
I am the mosquito blood on the wall and the rice stick on the clothes. And his first love is the bright moonlight in front of the bed, the cinnabar mole on his heart!
I don’t know what happened to him and his first love, but I only know that the love was so passionate that it was at the point of talking about marriage.
My mother-in-law took her elder brother to discuss their marriage with her parents. The first one was well discussed, but later, her mother made a request: I must be their home-based son-in-law, because they only have four daughters.
My mother-in-law was not willing to be beaten to death, and her mother refused to give in. So the marriage fell through in this negotiation.
At that time, the girl was almost fainting from crying. She called my husband and said, "Why don't we elope?"
Of course, my husband would not agree, because he is a filial son who deserves his name. My mother-in-law is famous in the local area. He has been under the oppression of my mother-in-law for many years. As long as my mother-in-law doesn't agree, he will not dare to do anything even if he thinks about it.
Of course, I was still young and not very mature at that time. If it were now, he might have been stabbed by God!
The reason why I know this is what my mother-in-law secretly told me after my marriage. I think if I had known it, I wouldn't have married him.
Later, we got married. And she has never been married.
The first time I was stimulated by my husband's first love was one year after getting married.
At that time, my husband had surgery for tonsillitis and needed to be hospitalized for one week. I took leave to accompany him in the hospital, and I was busy with him every day, upstairs and downstairs, fetching water and food, and washing clothes and wiping my body. I was busy all day long. My husband didn't say a word of thanks.
One day, when I was packing up the leftovers, I suddenly saw the screen of my husband's mobile phone light up. I stretched my head and saw that there was a message from a man named Lian. There was only a short sentence: When I am not with you, take good care of myself, eat less spicy food, and drink more boiled water.
I know it must be the message sent by his first love.
Next I threw away the garbage like nothing happened. After I came back, I saw my husband smiling like a fool, the kind of happiness I had never been before. After he fell asleep at night, I picked up his cell phone and looked at it. Don't ask me how I know the password. He is afraid of trouble. All passwords are his birthday. After
was opened, I saw my husband replying to her message: It’s great to have your care, my illness seems to be cured all at once, you are my good medicine! There are still some chats behind
, and I am no longer in the mood to watch it.
man! It is the best thing that you can never get. People around you will never cherish them after a long time.
I am by my side every day, and he doesn't even miss me any better. At that moment, my heart was cold!
No matter what, life still needs to continue. After a few years, I haven't heard of her first love getting married.
Just shortly after my youngest daughter was born, one afternoon, my husband told me that he had a dinner with colleagues in the department at night, and I didn't think too much about it. It was 11 o'clock in the evening and no one answered my phone.
It was not until 2:30 in the morning that my husband came back drunk. As soon as I got home, I fell asleep.
I guess there must be something in it. So, I took out his cell phone while pretending to take off his clothes. When I opened the information bar, I saw that there was something really wrong. I saw Lian send a message this afternoon: A Tian, congratulations! I will become someone else's bride tomorrow! Goodbye, my first love! Goodbye, my lover!
My husband did not reply, so he must have gone to drink to drown his sorrows at night. How sad should he be if his first love is about to marry someone else? I couldn't help but laugh, "Men, it's true that they are not good things. They eat what is in the bowl and look forward to what is in the pot, why don't they go to God?"
Just like that, life is living slowly. I thought there are families now, so I shouldn’t be stimulated by my first love again, right?
However, just a while ago. One day I came back from work and just walked to the door, I heard my husband chatting with someone else. I can't hear who the other person is? I only heard my husband talking, and he seemed to be talking about my daughter to the other party.
My daughter's high school entrance examination scores were not ideal this time and she failed to get into a key high school. She was very upset every day.
I tiptoed to the door and eavesdropped, and saw him say: If we hadn't separated before, the children born would definitely be very smart. The boys were as handsome as me, and the girl was as smart as you!
I didn't know what was going on at that time, and a burst of anger rushed to the head. I kicked the door open and shouted at him:
"Since you want to live with her so much, let's get divorced! I've had enough of this kind of life!"
In the end, the marriage was not divorced, and life was just like this.
Recalling the past, vividly remembering it, as if it happened yesterday. Before I knew it, I had already walked to the door. As soon as I opened the door, my daughter ran towards me, took my hand and said, "Mom, the grapes at home have been eaten. Go and buy some, right?"
I replied to her: "The grapes are not delicious, so we won't buy grapes in the future!"
My daughter said, "Mom, didn't you like eating grapes the most before? I also said I had eaten them. Grapes' eyes will be very big and bright, embarrassing and enchanting."
I replied: "That was before. From now on, I don't want to eat grapes anymore. It's so sour, sour that my toothaches makes me sore all over my body, and I feel uncomfortable all over!"
My daughter looked at me with a confused look, her face full of disbelief!
Looking at my daughter's appearance, I just smiled and didn't explain anything to her. After so many ups and downs, my heart has gone from soft to hard, and I am no longer the person who was once so angry for irrelevant people.
At least my life is much better than the Zhang Youyi of that year, right? After experiencing the heavy blows such as being forced to divorce and abortion, she was able to break out of her cocoon and become a butterfly, living out a person's blue sea and blue sky. Why can't I learn from her? I can also have my own blue sea and blue sky!
I think women should be self-esteem, self-love, independent and strong. A beautiful marriage is not blindly accommodating, nor is it regarding the other person as the whole of his life. It is only a part of life. A beautiful marriage is the encounter and integration of two souls who are free and equal to each other.
May we women all live the way we like, not others’ accessories. We are a unique existence in this world, and no external factor can hurt ourselves. If you love, please love deeply. If you don’t love, please let go in time. If you bloom, the breeze will come. If you are wonderful, the heaven will arrange it!
