My family is too financially under pressure from marriage, and I hope the woman can do her best. There is nothing to blame. After all, marriage is a matter of two people, or a matter of two families. There is no reason to let the man and the questioner make their contributions one-sidedly. However, the author has prepared the house, car, decoration, etc., and hopes that the woman may cooperate with the expenses such as banquets, wedding photos, travel, etc., or the previous loan for the RV decoration.
To say that is the most realistic or perhaps the most mean thing is to see the unreturnable expenses . Because I don’t know how much it is, I can agree without hesitation that I can agree that . 6.1 million+ or more is the house plus the above . If the house itself is full and does not require the house to be repaid after marriage, then I am willing to write a to notarization for you to notarization . is notarized for you in order to encroach on your property in the name of marriage, nor will it cause the marriage fund you deposited by yourself or your parents to eventually waste it. Here is a prerequisite that your wedding house is about one million. If you only win hundreds of thousands or less and then ask the woman to pay 100,000 yuan for the marriage fee, but the house is not named, anyone will settle the accounts, and I will not agree. Yes, I'm just so petty.
Share my cousin’s experience. This is her self-report:
10's long-distance love race, and after two years of negotiations, it finally got the certificate in September this year.
My family is similar to the situation of thousands of rural children. A sibling combination, prefers boys over girls. I have clearly known since I had a concept of money in high school that I would not take out a penny at home when I got married. So since I started my senior year internship, I have worked hard to save money. By the time I planned to get married, it was my third year of work and I had a deposit of 220,000 yuan.
My boyfriend and I started to fall in love early in the first year of high school, with the same values and a good relationship. In addition, I already have enough savings, so I always feel that getting married should be smooth.
Later, the parents of both parties met, and my parents asked his family to transfer the house in the provincial capital to my name, with a market value of about 1.1 million yuan and a mortgage of more than 300,000 yuan left. My boyfriend’s parents were not willing, but they couldn’t take out other property as a bride price, so they decided to transfer it to us after two years of struggle. During these two years, my boyfriend asked me from time to time, his parents spent all their savings, what did my parents spend?
was able to communicate well at the beginning, but later there were more and more complaints. I figured it out. If I don’t understand this question, I will leave a joke in my heart after getting married. When he asked this again, I confessed very seriously: I cannot choose my original family. It was because I foresee the current results that I worked hard to save money. If you can accept that my family can’t pay a penny, and my 250,000 yuan (a year has passed when I said this) is a dowry, then don’t say anything about this matter in the future, let’s talk about marriage again. If you can't accept it, then don't waste each other's time and find a good relationship again.
Boyfriend thought about it seriously, compromised, and never mentioned it again.
My daughter also wants fairness, and she also wants her parents to give her new home some support, even her feelings. At least make yourself stand up straight in your new home. But many parents can't do it, they only have their sons in their eyes. It is almost impossible for you to get the woman's parents to pay.
If you cherish this relationship, you think the woman is good. It is recommended to rationally analyze the advantages and disadvantages of marrying this girl, such as SWOT, and evaluate your position in the marriage and love market. If you still want to get married, write down your expectations and bottom line, talk to the woman to see if the other party can be satisfied.
It is not suitable for getting married if you have a joke in your heart. There are so many contradictions after marriage that are unpredictable. If you still lay mines before marriage, you will be destined to be difficult to be happy. The houses and cars of
belong to your parents. In fact, you have nothing. In many places, you ask for a bride price when marrying a wife. If you don’t mention the bride price, you probably didn’t give your wife any money. It’s too cheap to marry a wife in Shanghai for 50,000 yuan.
I personally think: marrying a wife and cleaning up the house is the man's business. If you love your wife, you should give her a warm home. The two of them discuss decorating the house and living a good life together, instead of bargaining with their wife here before marriage.
To love someone, you should put yourself in the shoes of the other person and make the other person happy, you should think from the perspective of others; if the father-in-law and mother-in-law get 100,000 yuan of decoration fee, if one day the couple can’t make it, will the man return the decoration fee to his father-in-law and mother-in-law? Will my father-in-law remove the decoration materials? By then, all that was removed was waste and worthless.
If a man wants to marry a wife, hurry up and decorate the house and take wedding photos with the girl. Don’t mention any conditions. As the saying goes, “Buy a horse and prepare a saddle.” Marrying a wife is a big happy event. Never lose weight because of small things, don’t make your father-in-law and mother-in-law unhappy because of tens of thousands of dollars, and don’t hurt your wife’s heart.
It is a good habit for men to be careful in calculating, but it is necessary to use it. Being smart and capable in business is a skill. Marrying a wife is to add imports. There is really no need to be petty.
