In a relationship story, the most terrifying thing is not that you give without results, but that your efforts are just a joke from the beginning.
It's like, you've been waiting in a long queue and are about to board the ship. When you are queuing, you suddenly realize that the ship is not the shift you want to take at all. So what's the point of your efforts? The same is true for love. Before you decide to be moved, or even before you decide to give, you should first figure out whether the person you are facing, whether you love you or not, and how many possibilities are there between you?
After all, everyone is no longer a child. It is impossible to be like a first love. If you like someone, you can give whatever you want. Even if you are rejected, you don’t even have the chance to confess your love. It doesn’t matter. First love is infinitely beautiful, as long as everything that feels warm in your heart is enough.
However, no one can always maintain the state of first love. Although no one is a prophet of life, it is impossible to predict the end of a relationship. But even though you know it is impossible, you still love it without knowing how to live or die. In the end, you can only touch yourself.
So, how do you judge whether a man loves you? The method is actually very simple. Just look at these three places and you will find the real answer.
A man who is unwilling to spend his time on you will definitely not really love you.
Everyone has only 24 hours a day. In his heart, where these time should be spent actually means that he is ordering his life.
Just imagine, if a man spends all his time on work, study, or even eating and drinking with friends, but he doesn’t even have time to call you or send WeChat messages with you, then how can you be so important in his heart? Of course, love is just a small part of life, and it is impossible for men to revolve around you 24 hours a day.
However, the more important a man sees you, the more time he is willing to spend on you, naturally. No matter how busy he is, he will squeeze out enough time to accompany you and give you enough security and warmth. It won't make you feel like you are having a nihilistic love, it is a one-man show directed and acted by one person.
The most important thing about love is actually companionship.
Some men always find all kinds of reasons to postpone meeting you and postpone dates with you.
If men are really busy, there is nothing to say. But if he is just busy with you, that's another matter. Of course, the so-called companionship here is not just about spending time with you, nor is it limited to accompanying you to go shopping, watch movies, and eat, but about his soul, how much time is there to share with you.
In other words, when you encounter difficulties, will he be willing to accompany you to solve them? When you are sick, would he be willing to accompany you to the hospital? When you are sad, would he be willing to lend you a shoulder? Will he feel annoyed when you need him at any time, or will he appear next to you without hesitation.
A person who is willing to protect you, even if he may not love you so much, in his heart, you must be extremely important. People are the same. When facing the people around you, they always have a good or bad order.
Some people are just ordinary friends, so just nodding, smiling and indicating, while others are the most important people. Even if they quarrel, they will carefully find ways to maintain and create opportunities to reconcile. If you are his lover, no matter how hard you make a fuss, he will face it with a smile.
After all, if you are lost, then what's the point of even if he wins in this quarrel? Of course, if it is a matter of the bottom line of principles, it is normal for men to not give in to you.Even if you lose him in the end, you can only say that you are committing suicide by yourself, no wonder men.
In short, if a man loves you, then when he sees you, there must be poetry in his eyes, smiles on his mouth, and every cell in his body exudes joy. On the contrary, he hides from you everywhere, always wants to keep a certain distance from you, and is not willing to be close to you in public. Then there is no doubt that he will not be able to love you, at least he will not be able to love you too much.
