Anyone who has experienced it understands that a woman gets married not only to marry this man she loves deeply, but also to spend time with her family members. If the parents-in-law do something wrong without a sense of boundaries, the daughter-in-law will be very depressed.
At this time, the husband needs to reconcile the conflicts, comfort his wife and parents, and communicate with his parents, and learn to respect his daughter-in-law. Only in this way can the family be happy for a long time.
Incident Review, a young couple from Hubei worked outside for a year and went home early to celebrate the New Year. The woman was in a state of excitement, after all, she was so good before going out, and she didn't have the comfort and freedom of life at home.
What she didn't expect was that the first thing she did when she got home was to quarrel with her parents-in-law and had a very unpleasant quarrel.
This time they returned home early and did not inform their parents, just to give the people at home a surprise. The couple dragged their clothes to the house with exhaustion, and were very happy to imagine that their parents had prepared simple and delicious meals.
This is true. It was dinner time when they arrived home, and the old couple sat at a simple dining table to eat. Seeing the two suddenly appear in front of them, they were still a little uncomfortable. The mother-in-law reacted first and hurriedly took off the burden she was carrying.
When my daughter-in-law saw her mother-in-law like this, her face was unhappy. My father-in-law asked them to sit down quickly, and he went to cook two more dishes and put some noodles. They only cooked two people's meals tonight, worried that they would not have enough food for their son and daughter-in-law.
The woman waved her hand and said no, but she couldn't eat too much after taking the car for a day. She said as she walked towards the bedroom, wanting to change her pajamas and come out to have a meal.
The parents-in-law didn't expect that they would hear the sound of their daughter-in-law throwing something next, and they didn't care about cooking noodles. They rushed in and saw what was going on. They felt a little uneasy and felt that their daughter-in-law was angry.
Before they could walk in, they saw a pile of quilts, clothes, mattresses and the like thrown to the door, piled up in a mess. The daughter-in-law ignored them and shouted her husband's name loudly.
When the husband heard the news, he saw his wife pointing fingers and scolding his parents. He is a little overwhelmed. What's going on?
When my wife's temper was almost vented, she gradually calmed down and the mother-in-law timidly told the whole story.
They live in self-built houses in rural areas, one of the old couple lives on, and the second floor where the young couple lives on. Their family is relatively open-minded and they are always at peace and do not disturb each other.
This is because my father-in-law felt that their bedroom was too wet in winter and wanted to move to the second floor to sleep. My mother-in-law went to the empty room on the second floor to make the bed, and my father-in-law strongly opposed it.
He thought the couple would not come back until Niangen. The room was usually empty, so there was no need to clean up another room. There is nothing in the empty room, and you have to buy an extra bed, so there is no need to spend this money in vain.
As soon as the two elders discussed, they decided to take the mattress on the first floor and go to the second floor to sleep. When the son and daughter-in-law called and said they were coming back, they moved down directly.
After all, according to convention, the son and daughter-in-law only live at home for about ten days and have to go out to work. In this way, they only need to stay in their room for more than ten days. When their son and daughter-in-law leave, they can immediately move to the couple's room to sleep.
They didn't think there was anything wrong with this matter. Even if the son and daughter-in-law discovered it, there was no reason to get so angry. This time, seeing his daughter-in-law get so angry, the mother-in-law couldn't stand it on the face. She lay on the ground and cried and made a fuss, asking her son to say something fair.
When the daughter-in-law saw that the two of them had such an attitude, she knew that they did not realize what the problem was. As the saying goes, summer insects cannot speak of ice, and she is too lazy to explain too much to them.
She kicked out the things on the ground one by one. Then he pushed his in-laws out and asked his husband to accompany them to have dinner, saying that he wanted to clean the house. She is in this mood now and has no interest in eating.
In-laws looked at their son awkwardly, and saw that he didn't say much, so they had to retreat in disappointment.
Author's opinion: The family hasn't been together for almost a year for dinner, and it's a pity that they parted in a bad mood as soon as they met. The biggest problem with this matter is with my parents-in-law.
The room of the son and daughter-in-law is the private clean land of the couple. The parents-in-law should not have lived in rashly without their consent. After all, if anyone changes, I feel a little uncomfortable when I see this picture.
The daughter-in-law is not a completely unreasonable person. Considering the physical condition of her parents-in-law, she will also find a way to solve this problem.
The relationship between husband and wife is to consider each other more often, to help each other solve their worries and difficulties, and to share good and bad fortune. In this matter, the husband should stand up and comfort his wife and explain it clearly to his parents.
The wife is not an unreasonable person. The reason why she is angry is that the two elders moved into their room without permission, which is obviously disrespectful to their daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law is the mistress of this family, not a guest.
In various emotional relationships, we must understand that there should be a clear sense of boundaries between people and not do what we should not do, so that a family can be happy for a long time.
