Someone asked online: "Is the son-in-law obliged to support his mother-in-law in the elderly?"
Many people's answer is no.
In fact, there is no so-called standard answer, and it must be determined based on the actual situation. If the mother-in-law does not have a son and she needs you to support her in her old age, can you refuse?
There is an aunt around me who has liver cancer . She wants to go to her daughter's house to support her. Her son-in-law's approach shows high emotional intelligence and is very wise.
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Yu Ma's 66 years old, she has two daughters, the eldest daughter works in the provincial capital for many years and has also settled in the provincial capital.
The youngest daughter married away from another place and came back a rare year. After being affected by the mask, she has not been back for two years.
When I was young, Aunt Yu's life was very good. She and her husband had a stable job income and did not need to buy a house for their daughter. They took their daughter out for a trip during the holiday, which was enviable.
Someone advised her to have another son. Aunt Yu was sober. Her answer was: "What do you want so many children to do? As long as the children are good and sensible, boys and girls are the same."
In fact, both of her daughters are indeed excellent. After graduating from college, they both achieved independent living. When they got married, Aunt Yu did not have too high requirements for the man. She only hoped to be better to her daughter. She symbolically asked for some bride price and also brought them back as dowry for her daughter.
When the eldest daughter got married, she gave her a subsidy of 200,000 yuan to buy a house. When the youngest daughter got married, her husband's family had already bought a house. She directly gave her a card with 200,000 yuan in it, so that her daughter could buy whatever she wanted.
Her wise mind has also won the respect of her son-in-law. When the old couple celebrated their birthdays, they would call no matter how busy they were. If they had time, they would come back to invite them to dinner. Aunt Yu was very content and told everyone that her son-in-law was sensible.
Flowers will never be popular, and no one will be perfect in everything. After the aunt retires, the worries of life will also come.
The second year of retirement, my wife was diagnosed with lung cancer. She did not let her daughter go home, but took on the responsibility of taking care of her wife alone.
When my wife was hospitalized, she ran back and forth to deliver food to him, and the person lost a lot of weight. But even so, when her daughter called back, she also said to her daughter: "Hid nothing is wrong at . Your dad is in a stable health. Just take good care of the child."
Her idea is very real. Her daughter has to go to work and she has to take care of the child when she goes home. She can no longer put a burden on her daughter.
My wife felt sorry for her and said to her, "Have you worked hard on , I have you taken care of you, who will take care of you in the future?"
Aunt Yu smiled and comforted her wife, "When you are old, go to the nursing home, take one step at a time, why do you want so much?"
chapter says this. When her husband passed away, she was still very sad and tasted the ultimate loneliness.
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According to the plan, Aunt Yu was about to go to the nursing home when she was busy.
As long as she can move, she lives in her hometown. After all, she has lived in her place for most of her life. She is familiar with the vegetable market and supermarket, and she doesn't want to move easily.
No one expected that Aunt Yu fell ill and she was diagnosed with liver cancer.
This disease can be performed in the early stages of surgery. Doctors recommend not to delay. If conditions permit, the treatment effect will be better in the hospital in the provincial capital.
Uncle Yu thought about it and considered that she was still young. If she could be treated well and could be with her daughter for a few more years, she discussed with her eldest daughter and prepared to go to the provincial capital for medical treatment and stay at her eldest daughter's house.
The eldest daughter agreed without hesitation and said she would drive back to pick her up, which made Aunt Yu very pleased.
It was just that the eldest daughter didn't expect that when she went back to discuss this with her husband, she encountered a problem.
The son-in-law knew that her mother-in-law was going to see a doctor and agreed readily, but when she learned that it was liver cancer, she hesitated.
He said to his wife: " Wife, my mother is here to see the doctor, of course we have to take care of it, but this disease is at risk of contagion. We have two children in our family, the second baby is only one year old, and my mother is also weak, so these risks have to be considered."
"What do you mean? I don't want my mother to come. My mother has no son. I must take care of her when she is sick. You promised."
" tube! Must care! But can we think of a solution that has the best of both worlds? "
sson-in-law's words are not unreasonable. Children are young, and if someone with infectious diseases comes into their home, there will definitely be risks. So, how should we arrange the mother-in-law?
After thinking about it, the son-in-law proposed to rent a room for the mother-in-law in the apartment next to the community. The apartment has complete appliances and heating, and life is more comfortable. The key is that it is close to home, and all the daughters and son-in-law can come to accompany her at that time.
My daughter agreed. It is more suitable to let her live at home than to let her stay at home, because the home is small and it is not as comfortable as the apartment.
arranged Afterwards, the daughter and son-in-law drove back to pick up the mother-in-law, and then went to the apartment together. Looking at the new sheets and quilt covers, the mother-in-law was very satisfied.
son-in-law let her stay in peace, and the medical treatment matters were arranged by the son-in-law.
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Aunt Yu was in the provincial capital for medical treatment, and the son-in-law asked for leave to accompany her. From paying the fee to accompanying the care, the son-in-law made good arrangements.
patients in the ward who were uninformed thought he was his son, and they envied Aunt Yu for his good fortune.
Aunt Yu was very proud and told the patient: " This is my son-in-law, which is better to me than my own son. "
Indeed, both of her son-in-law were very filial. Because the eldest son-in-law was always by her side, the nurse took special care of her, and the youngest son-in-law was not vague. When she learned that her mother-in-law was sick, she transferred 20,000 yuan to tell her not to worry about the money.
Through Aunt Yu’s real experience, we can also see that whether is living well in her later years has nothing to do with having a son or a daughter. As long as the son-in-law is sensible, even if you are sick or not Living in your son-in-law's house will not have any problems with your life.
Some people may say that renting a house is not comfortable to live at home.
In fact, the answer is not the case. There is a saying that distance creates beauty. If the whole family lives together, it will inevitably lead to friction and conflicts arise due to different living habits, which is not beautiful.
Some people also wonder why you want to rent a house? Isn’t it more comfortable to go to a hotel?
The hotel is indeed in a good environment, but it lacks some fireworks and is not convenient to cook. Patients are not suitable for takeout and need to make some nutritious meals at home. This is not suitable for the hotel.
The most important thing about the mother-in-law is in a happy mood and the son-in-law can stay by his side to take care of him. This filial piety is enough to comfort the elderly.
So, if you have children at home, how is the elderly living in their later years? The most important thing is the attitude of their children's partner. Only when their daughter-in-law and son-in-law are filial can the elderly truly feel happiness.
What do you think about this? Do you think the son-in-law has the obligation to take care of the mother-in-law? Welcome to leave a message to tell your opinion .
