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at the beginning:
Perhaps, a plain life is like drinking boiled water for many years, tasteless.
Therefore, many people like to travel to other cities, change their living environment, and find some fun, but the difference is that some people enjoy the beautiful scenery, while others look for the romantic and romantic.
Life is like walking on the asphalt road in the habit of being hard and without any anger.
So, when he can occasionally walk the field paths, look at the surrounding wheat fields, and pick a few wild flowers that are not so fragrant, he will feel that this is an unexpected "romance".
Throughout history, many men, in order to pursue the so-called "romance", want to have some connections and stories with a woman outside of marriage, especially a salty and sweet woman, and then make that woman become her "confidant".
is like, when Wu Sangui was angry at the time, he was angry with the beauty; King You of Zhou beacons to play with the princes, just to make a smile on Baosi ; Yuan Zhen showed off his relationship with Xue Tao, so that he could set off the legend of their talented men and beautiful women... But these so-called "confidants" eventually became their lovers.
is visible. As long as you are beautiful enough to be a "beauty", for a man who wants to find "romance", he will be unavoidable.
So, for modern married men, he will fall in love with a confidante, because of this sentence: he longs for the red flag at home, and the confidante outside can not make a fuss.
After all, once a woman is given the hat of "confidant", they will immediately sublimate emotionally, no longer physical harmony, but soul dependence.
-02-
Married men treat "confidant" in a routine relationship
Everyone says that it is very easy to catch a woman.
probably means: if she is not familiar with the world, then take her to see the prosperity of the world; if she experiences all the vicissitudes, take her on a carousel.
can be seen that if a man is well versed in a woman's mind, he treats his confidante just to get the other person.
To put it bluntly, it is a routine relationship.
After all, he already has a wife at home, and he cannot act recklessly, and when he proposes to treat you as a confidant, you will immediately feel sweet.
So when you think about it, you are bound by souls and he understands you best, you have already gotten into the trap.
As for whether you understand him, he doesn't care, because he will try his best to make you feel that "you are the one who understands him the most."
During the Tang Dynasty, the female poet Xue Tao was such a silly woman who fell into love.
You must know that in this life, Yuan Zhen met one romantic and talented man after another, and he was always on the road to finding his "confidant".
And Xue Tao is the woman who missed her life after seeing him.
The first time I met, the man was very talented, and writing was just an article, which made her lose everything in an instant. They were together for only three months for a short time, and they were as loving as a couple. The man was a noisy person. He wrote poems for her without any hesitation, causing a stir between them.
But in the end, he turned around and left, opening another gentle hometown, and treated this relationship as a romantic encounter.However, the woman took off her red makeup, changed into a Taoist robe, and walked alone for the rest of her life.
It can be seen that the definition of " confidante " by a married man has never wanted to love her well, but just looking for a romantic encounter.
They regard this kind of love as a opportunism . If you get flirting with, you will make a profit; if you can't get flirting with, you will be a "confidant relationship".
-03-
Married men have never had a sincere love for their "confidant".
A few days ago, a girl left a message in the background to tell her experience.
Once upon a time, she went to an ancient city and met a man on the train. They had a great chat. When they left, they left their WeChat.
After arriving in that city, she met the man again at a scenic spot. That night, the man went to the room next to her hotel. Although nothing happened, the two of them chatted until very late.
The next day, they went out together. She found that the entire ancient city seemed to exude a romantic sweet smell. They held hands together, like a couple, walked through the stone road with bright lights and wine, crossed the small stone bridge with gurgling water, as if they had entered the dream of the movie.
When she was moved and wanted to make some progress with him, the man suddenly told her that he was married, but he would always treat her as his confidante in this life."
Leave a message and let people feel a little nervous when they see this.
Who knew that the girl made a few laughing expressions and said, "Now, there are men who use confidants to fuck women. All fools can see that he wants to happen to me."
couldn't help but feel relieved after reading her words.
can be seen that the girl is very sober, and she knows very well that men are just looking for romantic encounters.
Whether it is a movie or in real life, in countless extramarital affair versions, most of them are flashing with the shadow of "confidant".
How many men are passionately proclaiming "you are my confidant", but in the end, they all become 's trick to play .
He is with you and will not want to talk about everything, work, and ideals. What he wants is to talk about love with you.
When one day, he has a confused look and a hint that he likes you, and finally he will speak the truth after drinking. Then, when he reaps results and kicks off the passionate drama, it will come.
So, women, don't be obsessed with the title of "confidant". You must know that this will be for your man. It’s better to those men who blatantly tell you to have an ambiguous relationship with you.
-04-
Real love will not be labeled as a "confidant"
Still remember, Bian Zhilin once wrote:
"You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people who are watching the scenery are watching you upstairs. The bright moon decorates your windows, and you decorate other people’s dreams. But no matter how beautiful a dream is, it always wakes up."
Isn't that the emotions between confidants?
A married man, who clearly has a family, still has to perform the scene of falling in love with you at first sight, making you give up "true love" and perform with him how to "rationalize" an encounter.
This kind of emotion is like having a big meal. Although it is delicious, it will eventually reveal its attributes. When you turn from a "confidant" to a lover, and then he turns around and leaves, then you realize that romance is just an excuse for bloody affair.
So, for girls who are not married and married women, don’t think that your confidant is so romantic. The more romantic the things are, the more risks there are hidden.
Married men are looking for you to be your "confidant", but they are just looking for a sense of freshness.
people have been very tired in their lives, especially women. If they have time, those who are not married will still have sex, which is better than any romance; if they are married, be your elegant mother and beautiful wife, and do what they like to do seriously.
Author, calm fox
picture, online
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
