When you break up, will you post long texts to the other party and express your heart?
To tell the truth, those heartfelt words that you think do not actually bring any shock to the other party.
Maybe you wrote it so hard that your face was filled with tears, but the other party just glanced at it in a hurry.
How can two people with different states of mind empathy?
Breakup is a choice and an ending.
Since it is already an irreversible thing, don’t do too much unnecessary “self-touching”.
When browsing online, you often see posts like this:
"After breaking up, my ex-boyfriend is going to get married. What should I wear to go to the banquet, so that he regrets missing me?"
"He wants to break up with me, how do I reply to make him miss me and feel uncomfortable?"
and other questions make people feel ridiculous and pitiful.
Behind all this, a psychological characteristic is reflected:
You can't let go of this relationship and want to continue to gain the attention of the other party.
In fact, it is you who can’t really get out of your relationship; it is you who can’t really let go.
attempts to regain the "upper position" of your feelings with some tricks, words or sensory stimulation, so that the other party can change his mind and be moved by you.
In essence, this is a self-deception and in vain.
I have met many people around me. When I was in a relationship, I wrote several pages of long messages. From the time the two met, they talked about the subsequent changes in their relationship, and a story novel was born.
But, what changes can this bring? What I got from
is probably the other party’s cold reply.
If you pour your enthusiasm into your heart and have a heart, it only belongs to you.
And the other party does not necessarily have the same feeling as you.
ta will only feel that you are too idle, bored, and indulge in your own fantasy.
If you continue to bombard the other party with information and long text, he will be more disgusted, get tired of you, and even delete and block you.
So, why bother yourself internally, hurt your self-esteem, and be despised by others?
Let me tell you about my past experience.
Once upon a time, after breaking up, I was reluctant to part with a boy, and cried all day long. No matter how I tried to keep him, he was heartless and refused to get back together.
Later, I quickly realized the status quo and restrained myself from looking for him.
I asked my roommate to hide my phone, not to look at it, not to send messages, and disconnect from the contact for a week.
When you gradually get used to the emotional support you no longer rely on the emotional support you give, your life will become easier and happier.
Gradually, I met new friends again, embarked on a colorful life, and no longer indulged in the pain of breaking up.
When you don’t deliberately pay attention to the other person, the other person will often turn around and peek at you.
The boy who broke up with me started to follow my social account again and peek at my new friends. Then, he came to me again.
He took the initiative to ask me to have a meal and gave me a gift, and could he make a reconciliation request?
But at this time I no longer love him.
did not take any intentional revenge or put any damage, but I began to sympathize with him because he returned to the stage when I just broke up. I understand the taste of
very well.
However, I have come out and don’t need to do things that make others regret and suffer.
On the contrary, I chatted with him once and I said to him:
"We will be good friends in the future. No matter when you need me, I will support you by your side.You haven't lost me..."
After saying this, he actually cried. He couldn't speak.
Because, this sentence is actually very heartless.
Compared to that hysterical break, sincere treatment in a plain tone is the most real and firm attitude.
He understands that I regard him as a friend, which means that this relationship can never go back to the past.
So, those who really want to break up just need to leave silently without saying much .
Bluffing the decision to leave is meaningless.
Breakup does not require any sense of ritual or resolution.
Tired and don’t love you anymore, just walk away.
Don’t let yourself be the laughing stock of others, become a person who is bored.
The person you once loved, I wish you good luck.
The most important posture should be taken.
