I really envy their fearlessness and will not be as inferior as I am.
This idea often lingers in my mind, and pops up from time to time, disrupts my plans, affects my emotions, and influences my life.
The difference between my inferiority complex is that those girls I envy always live confidently and proudly, warm and powerful, smooth and lovable.
Often, there seems to be two me in my body. One is not good to comfort me, just be yourself; the other hates yourself and hates your inferiority complex.
In the end, suspicion and disgust prevailed, and the seeds of inferiority became deeply rooted.
is quite ridiculous. I really realized that my inferiority complex has had a huge adverse impact on my life, but after being forced to go on a blind date.
During that time, I was filled with thoughts such as "bad background, poor education, poor appearance, poor sociality, and poor environment".
Seeing that I was so depressed, my younger brother said he would introduce me to have dinner with one of his senior brothers and get to know each other.
I didn't want to go at first, but my brother told my family and friends about this first. At the urging of my family and friends, I wanted to have a simple meal, so I reluctantly went with my brother.
I don’t know how to describe that dinner party. Rather than saying that I am a person in the game, I am like an outsider, watching their excitement and embarrassing my own disbelief;
Rather than saying that I am Party A, I am a clown at the mercy of others, watching their talk and losing in my own disbelief.
My younger brother's senior brother is from a good family and handsome and tall. What really makes us feel distant is the confidence and superiority he exudes. In such a clear contrast, I am like a child who cannot find his mother, at a loss and panic.
What impressed me was that he seemed to say inadvertently: "My senior sister is amazing. She was admitted to Peking University. She was always generous when chatting with her, confident and sunny, and gave people a feeling of being attractive."
My inferiority complex reached an unprecedented expansion at that moment, and even made me unable to sit still and wanted to get up and leave.
What is the gap between us?
He is a 211 graduate student, I am just an ordinary undergraduate;
He is the child of a rich family, I am just a child of an ordinary family;
He is a villa in the city before he graduated, I am just a person who paid the mortgage with a dead salary.
Many people say that my conditions are actually good. Although my family conditions are ordinary, they are also good. I have a stable job, have my own house, and have some savings.
Many people say that in fact, we are a match for each other, but my inferiority complex does not allow me to have any other thoughts. Even if he is a good person, his strong inferiority complex will make me miss it.
Before this, I always felt that I was an introverted and inferior girl. Even if I lived my life like this, it didn’t matter, but at that moment, I fell into deep thought.
I want to be a person who at least looks normal. I don’t want to be described as “an introverted and inferior girl” all the time, and I don’t want to live a life that will never lose but not win because of inferiority.
Thanks to that excellent boy who "looks down on" me. Although the embarrassment at that time was real, I realized afterwards that I actually had problems. It was just that the people around me who were tolerant or unable to bear it out of love, and never pointed it out.
When I recognize my shortcomings and accept them, I will focus on doing things seriously and becoming excellent, so I have no time to invite myself to be inferior.
Although I am still not an excellent girl now, I am at least a girl who knows how to love myself. My inferiority complex has diminished and I have become more courageous.
I have the courage to be myself, and I dare to face others, express my thoughts bravely, and I will not decide what others think of me with preconceptions.
As a girl who was once deeply influenced by inferiority and was almost destroyed by inferiority, I want to give all inferiority girls three suggestions, and I hope all girls can get out of inferiority and live out of themselves.
Accept yourself from the bottom of your heart
Teacher Chen Guo of Fudan University said : "The source of true confidence comes from yourself. Only by being yourself can you be truly confident, and only by like yourself can you be truly confident.
does not come from whether others like you or not. Whether others like you is not whether you are excellent enough, but whether you can bring benefits to others.
When we like ourselves from the bottom of our hearts, we can truly be confident, calm, and exert our unique charm. ”
When we pay too much attention to our own shortcomings, we do not have the strength to accept all of ourselves, and at this time, advantages also become disadvantages.
This may be the biggest impact brought to us by inferiority complex. 's disadvantages are becoming more and more prominent, and their advantages are eclipsed, and life seems to have lost its color.
Only when we accept ourselves from the bottom of our hearts, change ourselves, play to our strengths and avoid our weaknesses, life will become easier and easier.
Make up your mind to change yourself
The sign of a person's maturity is : "You can not only confidently exert your strengths, but also generously tolerate your weaknesses."
A truly sober person is someone who realizes his shortcomings and is also determined to change.
If you are really deeply affected by inferiority, you feel that inferiority complex seriously affects your life, mood and physical health. In addition to suffering and helplessness, you should change it.
The more you are afraid of, the more you have to do it bravely. Only in this way can you overcome inferiority complex, gain stronger strength, and constantly update yourself, you can become a more confident person.
Making money and becoming confident
Elizabeth Caddy Stanton said: "If you don't have your own wallet, a woman can never be independent and confident."
When you become rich and valuable, have the right to speak in your family, have the ability to take responsibility at work, and have the right to make decisions in life, you will find that you don't have time to feel inferior at all. A rich and powerful woman will shine.
Girl, if you want to quit inferiority and become confident and charming, work hard to make money first. If you have money in your hands, you are not panicked. Why does it come from the humble saying?
Whether no one cares about it or not as skilled as others, you should try to calm yourself down and be yourself, ask yourself if you still want to do it, and then start doing it immediately.
instead of making bad emotions like irritability, anxiety, jealousy, and unwilling to destroy your already lack of enthusiasm and concentration.
or above, encourage them together!
